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writes:I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months. Everything was wonderful up until about a week ago. She stopped texting me and whenever I see her she seems unhappy at the fact that I'm around and she doesn't show any affection to me at all. But when I tried to talk to her about it all she said is she was depressed and had every right to be pissy if she wanted to. It used to be she wanted to talk to me all the time, and whenever we were cuddeling she talked about our future and how we could last for a really long time but now the sudden change. WTF? She did recently go on the Pill (birth control) and I'm wondering if this has anything to do with that and all those hormones??? Should I stick this out and just accept her actions/emotions and hope they will go away or should I just call it quits and move on??
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reader, lovemyboo16 +, writes (24 December 2009):
yes it can!!!!!! dont take it out on her. birth control, can seriously make u depressed. its not a womens fault for that, there for they dont deserve the blame. its like telling a man not to get a boner for seeing a hot naked women, who is grinding on them. it happens! birth control has hormones in them. these hormones may cause depression
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionql605- she went on it to stop her irregular periods, not for sex.
Klara- This has been going on for the past 2 weeks, I've told her how it hurts that she doesn't talk to me but still nothing has changed. She didn't say it was me or anything that I did wrong but do you still think I should buy her flowers??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): The pill made me Very depressed and sick feeling. I only lasted 2 weeks on it when I was 22, that was decades ago, and I won't touch it again.
I looked into it, and it can really screw up a womans body, or course! This is my opinion, but I think it's linked to cancers from what I've read. Nasty stuff.
Once she gets off it, she will return back to normal.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 April 2009):
Hmmm, could swallowing enough hormones to stop her body from acting naturally every single day have ANY effect on her emotions?????
Well that's a toughie for sure!
OF COURSE THE FIRST 3 MONTHS OF BEING ON THE PILL IS GOING TO GIVE HER MEGA PMT!!!!!!
Her poor body doesn't know what the hell is going on.
The fact you are considering dumping her just because she's been a bit emotional says a lot more about you than it does about her.
If she doesn't get on well with the pill then tell her you are happy with being on condoms - which you should be anyway.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 April 2009):
 Look up the ingredients and side effects of her pill, I'm sure you can google it!
I think that as she has just started this pill, the side effects will be similar to the nastiest PMT you will ever experience!
Give her time and space to get used to her new pill. If she is still acting like this in 4-6 weeks time I think you may have to very carefully ask her how she is getting on with her new pill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Aside from the possibility she has emotionally gone her own way, yes, a female's hormones are powerfully influential in a relationship! It's almost not fair!
Endocrinology has yet to fully blame moods and emotions on hormones, but the links are loudly clear. Countless women report how a sharp change in their hormones creates hostile emotions. A classic example is when a female becomes pregnant. So many hormones of massive amounts course through her system to support the baby that the woman can be reduced to a person you've never even known, and usually, don't want to know. Then, after the baby is delivered or no longer a parasite, a woman's hormones are so sharply and dramatically changed, she is left in absolute ruins and it's all just physiological! It's just her chemicals! Can this happen with birth control pills? Yes.
Understanding a female's hormones can turn her into an emotional disaster can help clear the picture up. Of course, that still leaves everyone else whom loves her with a huge question mark.
If you really want to stay with her, maybe you can encourage her to talk about how she feels rather than act it out through isolation or alienation or anything else adverse. Maybe you can coach her to take responsibility by realizing she could be going through a chemical imbalance, and there's quite a difference between fact and feeling.
Good luck!
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