My husband doesn't know that I found out about his cheating, what should I do?
Q. My husband tells me he loves me but he has been texting this lady since 2008 up until now. I see the number on the phone bill but he doesn't know I know. What should I do?...
A. 13 August 2009: So have you confronted him, told him you are not happy?
If so and he hasn't changed then you may have to consider leaving.
Sometimes, happiness is worth more than staying with a man you once loved.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm 19, and I am experiencing low sex drive?
Q. Alright everyone first off I'm 19, and this should not be happening. I do not know what's going on? I took a pro horomone (testosterone booster) to gain muscle and I took a cycle of it 1 1/2 months ago. It's an extreme testosterone booster, blocks ...
A. 3 August 2009: Yep you mess with your hormones you are going to have side effects.
Why do you think women on the pill suffer so much?
Do NOT take any more weird hormone things and see your doctor to check and see if you have done any serious damage.
It co... (read in full...)
I love him so much, but he's emotionally unstable. What should I do?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of two years the other day. He is emotionally unstable in my opinion, I'm not trying to be rude I'm dead serious. I'm deciding tonight weather to go back with him. He has controlled me and emotionally abused me to some ...
A. 3 August 2009: There is no way in hell his mother should be putting pressure on you to get back with him. Although she probably doesn't know what he's done to you.
Call her and tell her what he has done to abuse you and how he has controlled you. Do it in a cal... (read in full...)
Should I leave him, or are our problems partly my fault?
Q. I'm feeling very low and rundown and i blame my husband for the majority of our problems as i feel increasingly bitter towards him, i don't know if i should pull myself together and stop being so selfish or if it really is him thats being ...
A. 3 August 2009: He sounds like he's just not happy in life and he doesn't realise how much of an idiot he's being.
A good kick up the arse might just sort him out.... and if it doesn't then you do always have that option of leaving and going into rented accom.
... (read in full...)
Having sex outside - is this legal?
Q. Hi The thought of sex outdoors really turns me on and i really want it. However is it legal to have sex outdoors what would happen if we got caught? Thanks...
A. 3 August 2009: If you get caught then you will run the risk of being taken to court for public indecency. If you are in court then you can be named in the local press. Especially if you get caught in a funny place.
My advice is that if you are going to do it, d... (read in full...)
My step-sister and her friends flirt with me, what should I do?
Q. hey everyone i am in a very weird situation. there is two things i need help with. one has to do with my step sister. she is growing up and get hotter everytime i see her she is 14 and i am 16. sometimes i catch her looking at me before i start to ...
A. 3 August 2009: Her friends are always going to flirt with you. You are her big brother so you are
a) an older boy
b) safe as they know you are a nice guy
c) it's fun to tease you
All my friends and I always flirted with eachother's big brothers. It was fun... (read in full...)
How much control is too much?
Q. How much control is too much control? My boyfriend of two years doesn't like me around ANY guys. All of my friends before him were guys, but now I've lost them. I didn't care at first but now it's a problem. I've been trying to work on it lately and ...
A. 3 August 2009: ANY control is too much control.
You agreed to be his girlfriend. That means he gets to hang out with you, hold your hand and sometimes kiss you.
That is IT. That is the ONLY thing he gets.
Who you are friends with is your business and if ... (read in full...)
I feel he will lose intrest in me if I don't become more intamate
Q. Hey :) So I recentley started going out with this really great boy. And things are great, he say's he loves me alot, and that he wants a long serious relationship. However, I am 14 years old, and he is 16, and I'm not a naive little girl, and a lo...
A. 3 August 2009: If he wants a long serious relationship with you then he wants that KNOWING he may not get any for a couple of years.
Boys don't NEED sexual stuff to enjoy your company.
If he won't wait then he doesn't care about you. You say you have only ju... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm excited about my girlfriends pregnancy?
Q. Hi people, Just found out my partner is 4 weeks pregnant. I was just researching about tips for fathering, I researched about males thoughts on pregnancy and alot of it is negative! Some of them say my husband is not excited about our pregnan...
A. 3 August 2009: Nah, many of these guys were not ready to be dads and just see a kid as a 20 year commitment.
If they just see a kid as a tie that will stop them going on holiday and keep them up all night then of course they are going to be not excited.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was talking about marriage and then out of the blue he decided he has concerns about the relationship!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for a while, and lately things have gotten quite serious, he's been telling me that his mum would love me, and jokingly asking if i will marry him, then out of the blue he said he wants to talk through som...
A. 3 August 2009: You'll have to ask him and find out!
My guess is that he realised you could be the girl he would marry and that made him start thinking seriously about the future.
Is he ready for marriage? What does he want to do with his life?
He's be... (read in full...)
I want him to leave me alone and respect my privacy without feeling that I hate him
Q. I broke-up with my ex two years ago. Two months ago I decided to return all of his things through a third party. I waited that long because I didn't want to talk to him or see him. I returned his things because I'm a christian and I believe keeping ...
A. 3 August 2009: Just send him a polite email saying that you appreciate him saying thank you for returning your stuff but you have no wish to be friends again.
Tell him you don't hold any grudges but you don't think you can handle being friends with an ex.
T... (read in full...)
I keep thinking about my husband's ex partners... How can I stop this insecurity?
Q. What is the reason ,that I'm always so jealous of my close partners ex girlfriends? Even in long relationships,I'm obsessed with the thought ,they loved someone before me.And I keep hearing people go back to their high school sweet heart ,and tha...
A. 3 August 2009: Every time you think about it, just stop, and force yourself to think of your wedding day.
He promised to love and hold you. Remember they way he looked that day. Get the photos out.
Then remember how you felt then and go up to him and give him... (read in full...)
Question about bi sexuality!
Q. Why is it so acceptable for women to be bi sexual, and when men are bi sexual women seem to think it's wrong?...
A. 2 August 2009: Um hi.
I think you are tarring ALL us girls with the same brush.
Girls probably have an easier time with bisexuality because men then assume that steamy threesomes and all those porn films they have at home are finally going to come true.
No... (read in full...)
My b/f lost his dream how to comfort him?
Q. My boyfriend has jus been told hes being medically dscharged after several injuries from the royal marines and he is devestated. It was his dream 2 be a royal marines commando. How do i comfort and help him at this time and through it? :( x...
A. 2 August 2009: I'm sorry to hear that.
Sounds like his head is in a right mess at the moment. Depression really brings out the worst in people.
I hope he sorts himself out and I hope you manage to move on and find happiness with no hard feelings.
Goo... (read in full...)
Why was I rejected after my job interview? I thought it had gone well! And what should I do next?
Q. Hey, I am 19 and on summer break from university. Last year I was fairly lazy/depressed and didn't get a summer job. The year before that I worked for two months at my fathers work on weekends. So this year, after having done very little as I...
A. 1 August 2009: I don't know if you've heard but there is a recession on...
This means that no matter how good you are in your interview, there will be 5 other people who are better and more qualified.
The jobs that you would have got last year are now goi... (read in full...)
Do I have lesbian tendencies due to the way I was raised?
Q. I am struggling to come to terms with how i feel about other women. I have known how i have felt since the age of 11 and my family have often joked about me being a lesbian, when i was 16 and at college i developed a huge crush on a female lecturer ...
A. 1 August 2009: There is a huge debate on whether being gay is "caused" by DNA and is decided before you are born... Or whether it is the way you are brought up.
It's thought that if it was the way you were brought up, it would be something that could be changed.... (read in full...)
Would shorter nails make me less of a man-magnet?
Q. This may sound a bit silly but it's causing tension. I love wearing long nails. I always have, especially (but not just) french manicured nails. My boyfriend, who's 29, always said that they're very sexy, but the problem is he's got unbelievably...
A. 1 August 2009: I think your boyfriend is mental if he expects you to chop your nails off just because
a) he's so pathetic that he lets his mates teasing get to him
b) he feels so threatened by a man daring to ask you out in a club.
You're probably very pr... (read in full...)
Living through a nightmare with her family! I'm scared for her and for my family!
Q. Until October last year I was living with my fiancé and our 2 little boys aged 3 and 1 but the oldest child has special needs and also he isn't my biological son but I treat him no different, love him as if he was my own and there isn't a day that ...
A. 1 August 2009: In the UK, we have this service you may of heard of called the POLICE.
Go and be with your partner, and if he threatens you, comes round, acts in a violent way or ANYTHING like that then you call the police.
You keep a note of all the referenc... (read in full...)
Unloved and Unhappy, what am I to do?
Q. HELP I am really unhappy. I have a BF who doesnt seem to love me. He never says it or hugs or does anything with me. When he wants sex he just asked for it. We have 3 kids and 1 on the way. I tried telling him over and over again how i feel. He d...
A. 1 August 2009: Sounds like he is just there for the kids.
You have made the choice to have kids with a guy who didn't commit to you in any way. So you always knew he may not feel you were the one he wanted to marry and may disappear one day.
Now you have ... (read in full...)
Is it love bypolar?
Q. why would a chap i have known for years and at times been sexually involved with, suddenly tell me , he is frustrated in his present relationship and cannot commit? ...
A. 1 August 2009: Sounds like he is frustrated in his current relationship and feels he cannot commit to them.
If you are his female friend then he probably wanted some advice.
Why would there be any deeper meaning to this?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Whats the difference between cum and sperm?
Q. hey there, ok so this is a simple question what is the difference between cum and sperm ?? i'm a girl so that's why i don't know. i also wanted to know what does ejaculated mean ??? thanks =]...
A. 1 August 2009: There is no difference. People just have lots of words for it.
Sperm are the cells that contain his DNA. The little fishy ones. If comes out as a white substance at the moment or orgasm. People call it cum, jiz, and lots of other things. ... (read in full...)
Jealous over walpaper?
Q. i came home from college today. i asked my mom to drop me off mu boyfriends house. he was excited to see me as i was to sew him. when we did see each other, we hugged and what not. not soon after, he found my cellphone wallpaper was of zac efron. i ...
A. 1 August 2009: Is he 12? He sounds 12. If you are at college you really should be dating someone your own age.
Having said that I don't think I'd like it if my husband had a picture of someone else on his phone.
Since he is childish enough to just ignore you ... (read in full...)
When do vaginal openings start to exist?
Q. I am the mother of a 5 year old girl. Anatomists or doctors please clarify my following doubt. Do vigial opening exist in girls at the time of their birth or it opens/appears only at the time of first menstration. If such an opening is not there, ...
A. 1 August 2009: Vaginal openings should be there from birth.
If your little girl doesn't have one then get her to a doctor ASAP.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He hasn't approached me for sex in a year, what's the problem?
Q. I am really concerned about the lack of a sex life between my partner and I. We have been together for 2 years and are both in our early/mid thirties. We've only managed to have full penetrative sex twice since the start of the relationship as I ...
A. 31 July 2009: What happens when you make a move on him?
Have you tried all the normal things like organising romantic nights, booking hotel rooms, being there in a sexy outfit when he gets home?
Without knowing what you have tried so far, it's hard to kno... (read in full...)
How can I convince my fiance to perform on me?
Q. My fiance has always told me " If it bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die, I'm not eatin' it!". Oral sex is something I personally have never experienced, and would like to. How can I convince my man of 20 years to try this with me, for it is a bad ...
A. 31 July 2009: Tell him you can't go the rest of your life without it and give back the ring. Also, I hope you aren't giving him oral sex. Tell him that if he's not willing to try and please you EVER then you don't want to be married to him. Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
How can I make him commit to marriage?
Q. i have been with my boyfrien for 3 years now...he says he wants to het married but has not made a commitment... how do i make him commit to marrieage... i'm almost in my mid 30's and he's 6 years younger than me.... please help!...
A. 30 July 2009: Tell him you went past a bridal shop the other day and were thinking how amazing it would be to get married.
Tell him in no uncertain terms that you are ready for that commitment now.
Then change the subject.
But point out rings in jewel... (read in full...)
He put his penis in me but we didn't have full intercourse. Am I still a virgin?
Q. am i still a virgin? last night me and this boy were making out on his couch i was on top and he took off my pants and my underwear and then his. at first he was just fingering me and stuff then he put his penus in me and like it hurt really bad im ...
A. 30 July 2009: He put his penis in you, and therefore you are no longer a virgin.
Not a great first time, but it still counts.
Be far more careful though and never let any boy NEAR you with his penis out unless you have condoms, and are turned on, and a... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't know that I found out about his cheating, what should I do?
Q. My husband tells me he loves me but he has been texting this lady since 2008 up until now. I see the number on the phone bill but he doesn't know I know. What should I do?...
A. 29 July 2009: Ask him who the number is on the bill.
If he comes clean then tell him you don't like it and want it to stop.
If he lies then call the number and ask her what their relationship is.
Take action!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
An innocent flirtation, two months of fighting
Q. My girlfriend of two years won't let me go to an old job because she found out I flirted with a customer once. She found out looking through my emails at a message I sent to another friend, in which I told them the full story and even admitted that ...
A. 29 July 2009: Tell her that she can either give you cash, or stop being childish and ridiculous and let you go back to your old job.
She is being jealous and controlling and that is not exactly a great thing to be.
Go to your old place if they will take y... (read in full...)
A girl kissed my boyfriend, is this considered cheating?
Q. My boyfriend just told me that another girl kissed him.it happened 7 weeks ago.he was out and stayed in his friend's house,he went to bed in his friends house.later a girl came into the bed and turned to him and kissed him.she kissed him twice.he ...
A. 29 July 2009: Well if you've forgiven him then it doesn't matter what we think.
She kissed him, he did not knowingly kiss her.
Unless you think he's full of crap then forget it and move on. But he did come clean when he had no reason to so I would take that ... (read in full...)
Advice on helping my boyfriend quit smoking.
Q. My boyfriend's 16 and he's been smoking since he was about 13 (bad crowds) and because of how much I am against the idea and the problems it's causing between us he's determind to try and quit with some help. He has tried in the past but not ...
A. 29 July 2009: You are in the UK so you have LOADS of options.
http://smokefree.nhs.uk/
The NHS has poured so much money into this so you should take advantage of that.
His doctor can help him with lots of things. The website will give you all the info on... (read in full...)
The thought of my ex with another guy is bringing me to tears!
Q. this is gonna sound dead weird but ive split from my ex girlfriend 4 weeks ago and normally i get over relationships in no time but with this one we agreed to be good friends and went out today together with a few others - durin this time she harped ...
A. 29 July 2009: Sounds like you are not ready to be her friend just yet.
Since you had enough of a connection with this girl to stay friends with her so she obviously got under your skin.
Take a bit of time not seeing her as much and go out with your mates.... (read in full...)
What are the signs of emotional abuse?
Q. This isn't a relationship question, but I wonder, what are the signs of emotional abuse? I have researched them myself, but I am thinking about a particular situation that I had to deal with at work yesterday. This woman and her son came to my ...
A. 29 July 2009: There are a million mothers out there who act less than perfectly to their kids.
You don't know if he was a little brat who 5 minutes earlier had been nagging for sweets and was using this as a great excuse to cry and scream and demand those sw... (read in full...)
He dosen't want marriage but I do, should I leave?
Q. Does it make any sense to end a great relationship over marriage? We have a great relationship. We have been together for 6 years and have a daughter. When we first started this relationship I asked his views on marrage, and made it very clear that ...
A. 29 July 2009: It's a really tough choice. And really it has to be one YOU make.
If there wasn't a child involved I would 100% advise you to walk away and he would almost certainly come running after you with a ring when he realised what an idiot he was being.
... (read in full...)
My controlling husband won't except that I don't love him anymore.
Q. I told my husband i don`t love him like i used to,the fact is that i love him but i`m not in love with him.I told him and he don`t accept what i said.We been together for 4 years we have a son 2 years old..i want to end the mariage,he is to ...
A. 29 July 2009: Find the nearest women's refuge, or women's charity and leave and go there.
If you have family or friends you can stay with, go to them.
Get your kids and get out.
You can go back with the police if necessary to get your clothes and things.... (read in full...)
I initiated things but now I want to back out! How do I tell her?
Q. Hi, there's this girl that I've known for about a year now. I've had feelings for her but she didn't know so we were just friends. Recently, I asked her out on a date and she said 'yes' and I thought everything was gonna be perfect. But I realised ...
A. 29 July 2009: You just do it. It's far better to do it while she doesn't have much feeling for you.
Tell her that you think she's really beautiful and you really love her to bits but you've realised that you feel nothing for her romantically.
She may be a ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like an important part of his life!
Q. Hi everyone, I'm feeling so confused and lost right now. I am 19 and my boyfriend is 36. I'll be going to uni soon and he is a tutor. Recently we have not been spending much time together as he says he needs to do work. Fine, I'm trying to be ...
A. 29 July 2009: He's acting a little bit like a teenager to be honest.
Yes, he clearly could make more time for you, but isn't bothering. He's also expecting you to be ready to jump when he says so which isn't great.
What are you really getting out of t... (read in full...)
Is he messing me about?
Q. I have known this lad for 10years. We was together for 2years a few years ago. But broke it off because our family's didn't get on and kept on arguing. A few years later and we get talking again. He says he loves me and then whenever he says he ...
A. 29 July 2009: Give him one more chance and if he blows it then tell him not to contact you again and walk away.
There are a million boys out there so don't waste your time.
If he's confused or scared or whatever then let him do it in his own time.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
I used to go and hunt for sex, now I seem to prefer to do it on my own!
Q. Hi, I seem to have lost my libido with other people. I don't really understand it. I am gay, have never had much of a problem having sex with people. Now I just seem to prefer doing it on my own. I used to go and hunt for sex but now I just think ...
A. 29 July 2009: Yep, sounds fine to me. Any one can get bored of the one night thing after a while. You still might find yourself doing it as a one off but it doesn't mean anything. There are no rules on this.
Good luck finding the one. I'm sure he's out there so... (read in full...)
How should I go about showing guys that I'm single and looking
Q. In the past I've had terrible luck with dating . I know I'm only 18, and it takes time.. Blah blah blah. But I've only had 4 boyfriends in my life. All for less then a month. Even counting silly relationships in middle school. Its not that I'm ugly ...
A. 29 July 2009: Well unfortunately for you, guys your age who are intelligent etc (the ones you actually want) are pretty much USELESS at girls.
The only ones who will be confident enough to ask you out are the idiots... and they only want the blonde bimbos w... (read in full...)
Poop problem!
Q. Recently I haven't done anything different as far as I know but whenever I go to the toilet for a poop my anus tears a little on the outside and a littl bit of blood is produced and it's quite painful. Anyone have any idea what could be the cause of ...
A. 29 July 2009: Uncle Phil is right.
You need a bit more fibre: beans, rice, wholegrain stuff.
That will make it a bit softer and then it will not be a giant lump that you have to give birth to.
Our bodies change during summer / winter so it could be th... (read in full...)
What is the easiest way to dump someone you've been with for over two years?
Q. What is the easiest way to dump someone you've been with for over two years? I've tried before but I hate making people feel bad. You have no idea what it does to me. But I have to do it, I'm miserable. I do love him, but it's just not the same ...
A. 29 July 2009: You are not stuck with him.
I thought that about my boyfriend when I was 17. I loved him but I was in no way "in love" with him anymore and was miserable.
All you have to do is just see him, say "We need to talk." and then tell him, you don't f... (read in full...)
My b/f lost his dream how to comfort him?
Q. My boyfriend has jus been told hes being medically dscharged after several injuries from the royal marines and he is devestated. It was his dream 2 be a royal marines commando. How do i comfort and help him at this time and through it? :( x...
A. 15 January 2009: Let him have a bit of time to himself to be miserable and broody and hit things.
Men don't want to talk about their feelings as much as us girls.
In the mean time do some research on other "tough" jobs. There are many other things he could ... (read in full...)
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