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writes:I told my husband i don`t love him like i used to,the fact is that i love him but i`m not in love with him.I told him and he don`t accept what i said.We been together for 4 years we have a son 2 years old..i want to end the mariage,he is to controling and tinks that i been cheating on him.even though i dont go out of my house.. when i don`t want to have sex he starts fightinng until i say to do what he wants just to avoid an argument..he wants to know everything i talk on the phone and who i talk to..when i work i have to give him my check because i use water light gas and i live in the house...he told me that if i want to leave i leave bymyself that my son is not going no where i want to go back to p.r.cause my 2 oldest daughters are over there,and my family i dont have nobody over here..what should i do.. Reply to this Question
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Well speak to your husband about your issues first and if you want to be with him in a happy relationship then maybe try marriage counseling. However, if not, he can’t control you and tell you what to do. You’re obviously the main carer of the child and every child needs their mother so don’t leave without him. How long has the accusations of cheating been going on and has he a reason to believe that you have been doing such things? If it’s all in his head and come from nowhere then chances are he has probably been unfaithful himself. Good luck.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 July 2009):
 You have an abusive husband, it sounds to me and I have some links for you. First, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233). They also have a website http://www.ndvh.org
Someone posted an excellent link a couple of days ago, with a detailed planning aid for getting yourself out of an abusive situation: http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/plan.shtml
The idea of controlling you is to make you think you have no place to go. That's not true, so don't succumb to that. Your children and you deserve a happy, healthy, stable family environment. Get yourself a plan and the support you'll need from those links I gave you, and get out safely.
Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 July 2009):
Find the nearest women's refuge, or women's charity and leave and go there.
If you have family or friends you can stay with, go to them.
Get your kids and get out.
You can go back with the police if necessary to get your clothes and things.
You can sort it out once you are away from him.
Good Luck!! xx
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