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writes:HELPI am really unhappy. I have a BF who doesnt seem to love me. He never says it or hugs or does anything with me. When he wants sex he just asked for it.We have 3 kids and 1 on the way. I tried telling him over and over again how i feel. He doesnt even wnat to get married. I am only 22 and he is 31. I need to find a way for getting though his head on how i feel?I not even sure if i love him. He changed so much that i dont knwo what to do. All he does is sit in front of a computer and play it. Never has time for me.I really need help.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): I wrote this question.
He started acting like this after the first kid
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 August 2009):
Sounds like he is just there for the kids.
You have made the choice to have kids with a guy who didn't commit to you in any way. So you always knew he may not feel you were the one he wanted to marry and may disappear one day.
Now you have to choose whether to keep him around as a housemate and dad, or whether to be a single mum for a while and try and find someone who loves you and is willing to marry you.
If you are willing to take a chance on finding real love then tell him it's over. If you (understandably) don't want to be a single mum of 4 kids then tell him you want him to stick around but you want either counselling to find out what has gone wrong and how to fix it, OR an open relationship so you can go and find some affection and love else where and he doesn't just use you for sex.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (1 August 2009):
 It's not about getting through his head. He is sending you all sorts of clues that he doesn't care about how you feel. I think you should leave him.But on the flipside of the coin, if he doesn't really love you, why is he hanging out with you and helping you parent kids?When did he start acting this way?
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