Together for almost 4 years, I want marriage, he says "I'll look into it", what do I do?
Q. I have some serious concerns about my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. We own a house together, own vehicles together and we have 2 children. Our oldest is not his biologically, but my boyfriend has been her "step ...
A. 10 June 2009: Well I suppose that he's not seeing any pressure to get married. You did all this stuff (bought houses / had kids) with absolutely no sign of commitment from him, so in his view, marriage is just going to be a bit of icing on the cake.
I think yo... (read in full...)
Lots of questions about b/c pills
Q. Hello! I have a myriad of questions concerning birth control pills. I know you aunties and uncles aren't doctors, but I would really like to talk to people who have experience with using them (or whose girlfriends do!). I've never used them ...
A. 10 June 2009: I can't answer a lot of your questions as they do things rather differently over here in the UK.
Here, anyone can go and see the family planning people or their GP and after a few questions and a blood pressure test they can stick you on the pill... (read in full...)
What did I do that got him turned on?
Q. me and my boyfriend were sat on the grass just talking and he suddenly stops talking half way through a sentence, leans over and kisses me and he gets turned on, i was wondering why he got turned on and it is a good thing or bad? ...
A. 10 June 2009: You were pretty and smiling and you kissed him.
That's enough to set guys your age off.
It is a good thing for you as he is basically giving you a compliment.
It is a bad thing for him as it's very embarrassing.
It means very little as... (read in full...)
WHY are relationships between students and teachers forbidden?
Q. I'm sorry for asking such a question, you're all probably going: Isn't it OBVIOUS? Unfortunately, it isn't to me. So WHY are relationships between students and teachers forbidden exactly?! I just can't justify it. I've tried so many times and...
A. 10 June 2009: At your age I thought the same thing. I didn't see a problem with a 15 yearold or 14 yearold going out with a much older man... as long as she was "mature" enough to deal with it.
This next bit is going to sound really condescending and patronis... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's choice of clothing is too revealing, we argue, any suggestions how to deal with it?
Q. I've been dating a girl for some time now, and she's been putting on some clothing i don't like her to wear because it is a bit revealing. I tried talking to her about it, but we just ended up arguing, and she said that it was what she liked an...
A. 10 June 2009: To be honest, it's her body and her choice.
How did you manage to get close enough to her to get engaged without realising what kind of clothes she wears?
Talk to her calmly and tell her you don't like it but you know it has nothing to do wi... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of just giving up on him
Q. I've been hanging out with this guy for 5 months. I brought up us having a relationship. He says,i just want 2 keep things simply 4 now. I decided 2 back off. Then he text me says,guess u must have someone else? I said,trying 2 get over u,in order 2 ...
A. 9 June 2009: To be honest I don't think he is interested in putting in lots of effort to be a boyfriend to you.
If he has been busy then give him a bit of a chance but if he doesn't shape up in a little while then tell him it's not going to work and to stop ... (read in full...)
What is happening, I have never felt this before?
Q. Hey everyone i have a problem and i dont no how to react to it as it has never happend before it is really emmbarasing when im walking around or in school i feel like i just want to have sex all the time and i have this very uncomfortable fe...
A. 9 June 2009: This is a really commonly asked question, so I'm going to give you the short answer. Do a bit of research into the other questions if you want to hear the longer ones.
Ok.
You have hormones going through your body. They are making your orga... (read in full...)
She likes me, but I'd like to get to know her better before dating her.
Q. I want to get to know this girl, whom i just met, some more without getting into dating relationship yet. How do I do this when she already likes me a lot?...
A. 9 June 2009: Well ask her out but tell her it's just as friends. Then go somewhere that cannot be mistaken for a date. Have fun.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Wanted to talk to girl at club, she wouldn't after talking with her friends, why are women so insecure?
Q. i approached a girl at a club and i asked if i could have a chat with her. enthusiastically she said "yea why not, but leme talk to my friends first cuz we're leavin soon, so i'l be back". after a couple of minutes i noticed she was around me with ...
A. 8 June 2009: Hang on you are saying that the only girls that should be in clubs are ones that are single and willing to go off with any guy who comes along?
Her mate was LOOKING OUT FOR HER. Maybe she was a bit drunk! Maybe she had just split up with her boyf... (read in full...)
I'm just not sure what is going on, wondering if anyone else has had this happen?
Q. Well okay, first i thought i might be pregnant but i took a home test and it was negative.... 4 days later my period that was over due by 2 weeks started, that was about saturday midday, by money morning it was gone, there is nothing, it stopped.... ...
A. 8 June 2009: Glad it was nothing serious.
I thought it might have been a cyst or something really bad.
If you have question about your pills then try reading the leaflet that came with it or calling up the doc who prescribed them and ask him to explain i... (read in full...)
My skin is breaking out so bad, any good remedies?
Q. my skin is breaking out so bad! I think its cuz its summer and I sweat and what not. but I used to just have troubles with blackheads on my nose and some zits here and there, usually on my forehead. but now I have an inflamed blackhead. zits all ...
A. 8 June 2009: Well cut out the make up for a week.
Drink LOTS of water. (sip it through the day, don't go for 10 pints at once as that can be harmful)
You need your sweat to be watery and not just full of the bad stuff that gets stuck in your pores.
A... (read in full...)
Should we be friends with benefits?
Q. im 13 and there is this 16 year old boy that always wants me to send him dirty pictures and try things with him at the movies . me and my friend really like him he always flirts with us at the movies and stuff two days ago he suggested that we shou...
A. 8 June 2009: Are you mad?
You want to do sexual stuff with a guy who is clearly using you, AND hurt your best friend behind her back?
Also sending dirty pictures is never EVER a good thing to do. You will be all over the school and all over the internet.
... (read in full...)
My man has no career ambition and lacks confidence!
Q. I've been with my man for 5 years. Originally we got together as he was studying design and i was a designer. We both had that in common which was a BONUS and what really made me think how amazing our relationship was. after he graduated he decided ...
A. 8 June 2009: Hmm, it sounds as though you have really moved on in many areas of your life and he is the one thing that's not been left behind.
I think you need to tell him that you are not happy with the relationship. When he asks why then tell him that whe... (read in full...)
When I drink, I hit him!
Q. hi i really need help with a problem ,,, me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years ,im 20 hes 25, we have a 10 month old son,, things are usually great between us,,, until we drink ,, its not him really,, mainly when i drink vodka,, i hit ...
A. 7 June 2009: Easy.
Stop drinking. Tell him you will no longer drink.
If you are serious about him then surely you love him more than the chance to get drunk.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Got food poisoning, he found me throwing up, stormed out without giving me the chance to explain ,what do I do?
Q. So I was really mad at my boyfriend (of 2 years) for something he did and I wasn't contacting him in anyway. Well I gave him a house key to my apartment (we're planning to move in together) and he randomly show up with some flowers he brought me. A ...
A. 7 June 2009: Do you not have phones?
Text him or ring him and tell him you have food poisoning.
He's obviously been pretty traumatised by seeing his sister doing that to herself so seeing you do it was bound to give him a little mini-flashback t... (read in full...)
Can guys get turned on by someone they are not attracted to?
Q. Hello I have a question about sex. Can men get turned on if they are with someone they are not attracted to? When I kiss my boyfriend , he has his eyes closed and also and when I pleasure him orally he will sometimes close his eyes or look...
A. 7 June 2009: It's normal to close your eyes when you kiss / experience pleasure.
I'd be really freaked out if I found my guy was kissing me with his eyes open. That would be creepy.
When you close off your vision by closing your eyes, your hearing, taste a... (read in full...)
Bought a purity ring, not a virgin, was it wrong to buy the ring?
Q. Okay. So I am 19 years old and I am finally starting to accept Christ. I have begun studying the bible and attending church. My religion is becoming a major part of my life. But now I come to this problem in my life. I am not a virgin and I have ...
A. 7 June 2009: I think a purity ring has a specific meaning and that is that you are a virgin.
It's like getting a ring from your boyfriend for your ring finger but not being engaged.
So what I think you should do is buy yourself a really really nice brac... (read in full...)
Trapped by married woman at work! Help!
Q. Hello, Im a 39 yr old man that has a 26 yr old married woman pursuing me at work. We both work in departments that are next to eachother. She is very attractive and has worked for the company for some years and is known as being very flirtati...
A. 7 June 2009: She sounds like she is just flirty.
I'm a married woman and have made close male friends at work, and yes I like flirting with some of them... but here's the thing.
It's just fun.
Flirting brightens up your day. It's a bit of a laugh. if I t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend asks for 6 week break, is it over?
Q. Dear Cupid, Boyfriend asks for a 6 week break and won't meet to talk about the definition of it or to talk about our feelings. Is it over? Should I date? He says he is much too emotionally sad and is feeling that our relationship doesn't wor...
A. 7 June 2009: It doesn't look good does it.
I personally don't believe in breaks. They are always just a wishy washy way to prolong a break up.
Tell him that you don't want to be on a break and you will take it that it it over.
Don't date straight a... (read in full...)
My man has no career ambition and lacks confidence!
Q. I've been with my man for 5 years. Originally we got together as he was studying design and i was a designer. We both had that in common which was a BONUS and what really made me think how amazing our relationship was. after he graduated he decided ...
A. 7 June 2009: My friend is going through exactly the same thing as you at the moment.
She says she wouldn't mind him earning pennies if he was passionate and hard working. But he'll just take temp jobs in offices and then moans about them but has absolute... (read in full...)
Where to go to sow wild oats?
Q. I graduate next year and am inexperienced sexually. I have been saving money to go abroad and see the world. Since I won't be near my hometown anymore, I'm wanting to sow some wild oats, have fun, party, meet some girls. I'm thinking to visit ...
A. 7 June 2009: I'm going to add to what Army Medic said...
Dating in the UK is VERY different to the US.
If you ask a girl out then you are going out with her. Only her. There is no being "non-exclusive" at the beginning unless you say to her that this is wha... (read in full...)
Hes mentally cheating on me with pornography
Q. I have a problem, i am completely and totally against porn, i just cant accept it and i cant accept my boyfriend looking at it. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he has always known how upset it feel about it, i have tried to understand ...
A. 7 June 2009: Well it's no wonder he lied to you as he knew you would act like this.
I really think if you are this sensitive to porn use then you are going to have to ask your guys to just hide it really well.
90% of guys will look at porn at some point bu... (read in full...)
He won't open up to me
Q. i need help like really badly, im doing everything i can to make my boyrfriend be open with me its like he was this amazing perfect guy in the begining and now nothing he wont open upto me he wont talk to me about are relationship he tells me he ...
A. 7 June 2009: Tell him that you know things aren't right and if he's not prepared to talk about it then you are going to end it now before you get hurt.
Just because you have stopped cheating on each other doesn't mean this relationship is going to be right.
... (read in full...)
Wild crazy drinking spree for him 2 weeks out of the country
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a year now. We are both in love with each other and are very happy. Everything is perfect, i trust him 100% and we never stop each other from going out with friends or tie each other down, we never get ...
A. 7 June 2009: Yep you are being paranoid.
You say you trust him, but it's easy to say you trust someone when they are stood next to you. When they are in a different country you discover if you really do trust them or not.
If you really think he is capa... (read in full...)
My wife has doubled in size, I've lost interest in sex..do I leave her to get her to get in shape?
Q. When I proposed to my wife she was 5' and a perfect size zero. She had lovely long hair and walked like a graceful lady. Exactly my type. Now after 15 yrs of marriage she's a size 14-16 w/ short hair and walks like a chimp. Doubling her weight ...
A. 6 June 2009: Sorry but I am not going the route of "you should love her even if she is clinically obese!!!"
Yes, she has gained weight and no one can blame you for going off her but FORCING her to dangerously diet or get an eating disorder by saying "drop 10... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife give me a golden shower?
Q. My wife wants to pee on me. Should I let her? It would probably turn me on, so I don't see any reason not to let her if it makes her happy and horny, I just don't want it in my mouth, which should be my choice. Any thoughts please?...
A. 6 June 2009: Yeah what are you asking our permission for?
You are a big boy. We trust that you can look after yourself and make your own decisions.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How should I ask him if he wants to meet?
Q. I am going to see a show in a theatre soon.I sort of know one of the actors in it.We have never met in person, we have just spoke online a little bit.He is on a social networking site.I was wondering whether to ask him if he'd like to meet at the ...
A. 6 June 2009: If you are going with a friend (NOT YOUR DAD) and you have spoken to him before online then just tell him it would be nice to meet up with him afterwards and give him your phone number. Tell him you'll hang around in the bar for a while after, and ... (read in full...)
There's a difference in age and maturity...what should I do?
Q. i like this boy he's 13 and im 16..big age difference.im more womanly and filled out and mature acting and he just seems like a little innocent boy who sits back and listens to his ipod(typical 13 yr old).but he is really attractive to me for some ...
A. 6 June 2009: Sorry if it wasn't what you wanted to hear, but I really think of you give it a go now then it's going to last a week until you get bored of putting up with his mistakes.
If you let him grow up and learn what he's doing then you guys could ha... (read in full...)
Guys, would this scare you?
Q. My boyfriend has a very large penis and intercourse has always been somewhat painful. A few time's i've even bled or had a vaginal tear. I don't think he's ever noticed how painful it is for me and i've never expressed it to him. today was the firs...
A. 6 June 2009: I wasn't meaning to have a go at you.
He's not going to be scared to touch you or be put off sex with you, he's just going to know how to please you better by slowing down a bit and maybe using a bit of lubrication when you start to get a little s... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't feel a connection any more
Q. My husband of 6 years recently told me he wants a divorce. He says he is not in love with me and has only stayed with me out of obligation to our children. He admits to me that he doesn't understand why he feels this way, and that he feels I have ...
A. 5 June 2009: Well wasn't it nice of him to talk about things and try to fix stuff rather than just letting it build and then want a divorce?
I do not think it is fair of him not to give your marriage a fighting chance.
Tell him that and say you want a last ... (read in full...)
Been together for 7 years, quit his job 2 years ago and things have never been the same since then
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for more than seven years. We started out as really close friends in college. It's not a perfect relationshp but I'd say we're really both happy. It's near perfect until two years ago, he quit his job. Probably, that's ...
A. 5 June 2009: After 7 years you are going to miss him like hell, not because you love him but because he has been part of your life for so long.
Just because you care deeply for him, doesn't mean you are in love with him.
Do some serious thinking.
It ... (read in full...)
The doctors say I haven't got a womb - could they be wrong?
Q. hi !!! i hav a very strange problem in me ? i am 23 years old now and finished my MBA and planning to get married to my boyfriend , but the problem is that i am not matured mean i still dint get periods till now after docters scanning , testing ...
A. 5 June 2009: I think these are questions you need to go back to your doctors and ask.
If you have not had periods then you must have something pretty serious going on.
Go to your doctor and ask him all these questions.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I tell my partner I want to start trying for a baby at the end of this year
Q. me and my partner have agreed on ttc at the end of nxt year but after the abortion we had and i regret, i just want to start trying for a baby when we come back from england mid oct and that i dont want to wait for next year but i dont know how to ...
A. 5 June 2009: Well if you want to convince him then go with the facts.
Does he have a good job? Do you?
Do you have qualifications that will allow you to go back to work after the child is born to help support it.
Do you have a nice place to live toget... (read in full...)
Will he go away if I ignore him?
Q. i think my ex of 20 years of abuse is stalking me. me and our 18 year old son have left the area so he doesnt know where we live. the last time i was with him 18 months ago he had scratched my car and i involved the police and he recieved a small ...
A. 5 June 2009: He's trying to intimidate you.
His whole big thing was having power over you and making you scared so you'd be his.
So he's doing what he's always done... scared you a bit and then you apologise and come back to him.
Ignore him and if he ... (read in full...)
I will be introducem to her parents. How to make a good impression?
Q. I am going to meet my friend with benefits parents tomorrow night and was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to leave a good impression on them. She will probs introduce me to them and we will talk for a short time, then we will go watch a ...
A. 5 June 2009: Why would you want to? You are just the guy who is shagging their daughter for a bit of fun. You are just her friend. You don't want to be too nice and give them the impression that you are a boyfriend as that could get pretty awkward.
You m... (read in full...)
Snuggling...
Q. Does anyone have any tips on how to 'snuggle' with a girl? And maybe while 'snuggling' lead onto other stuf? thanks,...
A. 5 June 2009: Put your arms round her and pull her close.
If you want to turn this into something more then just start stroking her back and sides and kissing her. Kiss her neck and anywhere else you can get to.
Snuggling rocks.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me not to want to travel to far off Asia for my g/f's brother's wedding?
Q. Is it wrong of me to not want to go to my gf's brothers wedding early next year? He lives and is getting married in far off asia and it would be expensive and something i really just wouldn't want to do. I felt i had a valid point when i told her i ...
A. 5 June 2009: Well I guess your girlfriend assumed that at some point you would want to be a part of her family. So this, in effect, would be YOUR future brother's wedding.
If you'd said you can't afford it then fair enough.
But by saying "I don't want to." ... (read in full...)
My brother has been stealing from my parents--why would he do this?
Q. My brother is 18 and working for approx 10 months, It has come to light that he has been stealing my parents bank cards and withdrawing money from there account. We believe this started around march 08(when he was unemployed) and in total taken ...
A. 5 June 2009: Ask him!
It could be the excitement - It could be the fact he resents your parents for something.
Talk to him calmly like adults and ask him for his side of the story.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my husband displaying normal behavior for a man whose wife is pregnant?
Q. I am pregnant with my second child and I spend most of my time alone. My husband seems to never be home and have time for me. I always wake up in the morning alone and he is barely at home. If he do be home he wakes up and an hour later he is gone ...
A. 5 June 2009: Nope and you need to tell him that if he wants to still be married to you when the baby comes then he best get his arse home and acting like it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about my equipment and feel they are too small and inadequate
Q. I know this must get asked a lot and considering i am mid twenties i should be over this sort of thing but i am and have always been concerned about my testicles. I read that each testicle should be about the size of a golf ball....! mine are that ...
A. 5 June 2009: Your girlfriend is not your girlfriend if she does not even want to kiss you.
This relationship is not working. No sex due to a medical condition is one thing but she is unwilling to even try and be more than friends, and is not being a good fri... (read in full...)
Been together for 7 years, quit his job 2 years ago and things have never been the same since then
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for more than seven years. We started out as really close friends in college. It's not a perfect relationshp but I'd say we're really both happy. It's near perfect until two years ago, he quit his job. Probably, that's ...
A. 5 June 2009: If it's been 2 YEARS of you trying to help him and support him and putting up with him being a rubbish boyfriend... then sweetheart you have done everything you could do and more.
You being there and suffering is obviously not helping him so my ad... (read in full...)
Guys, would this scare you?
Q. My boyfriend has a very large penis and intercourse has always been somewhat painful. A few time's i've even bled or had a vaginal tear. I don't think he's ever noticed how painful it is for me and i've never expressed it to him. today was the firs...
A. 5 June 2009: Yes, he'll be horrified that you've been lying and pretending to enjoy it.
He's going to feel awful.
So tell him why you felt you had to put his pleasure over yours. Do you have low self esteem? Do you think sex is the only way to get a man to ... (read in full...)
There's a difference in age and maturity...what should I do?
Q. i like this boy he's 13 and im 16..big age difference.im more womanly and filled out and mature acting and he just seems like a little innocent boy who sits back and listens to his ipod(typical 13 yr old).but he is really attractive to me for some ...
A. 5 June 2009: If you find him pretty to look at then do just that.
Look at him as though he's a piece of art, a cute little puppy or something like that.
Then in a few years when he is older, more mature and ready to date then go for it.
If you get to k... (read in full...)
I'm just not sure what is going on, wondering if anyone else has had this happen?
Q. Well okay, first i thought i might be pregnant but i took a home test and it was negative.... 4 days later my period that was over due by 2 weeks started, that was about saturday midday, by money morning it was gone, there is nothing, it stopped.... ...
A. 2 June 2009: Look, you have pain and weird bleeding.
Stop asking questions and see a doctor. It could well be not serious, but I am telling you that you are at risk of something that can kill you in the near future so get the hell off the internet and get to t... (read in full...)
I'm just not sure what is going on, wondering if anyone else has had this happen?
Q. Well okay, first i thought i might be pregnant but i took a home test and it was negative.... 4 days later my period that was over due by 2 weeks started, that was about saturday midday, by money morning it was gone, there is nothing, it stopped.... ...
A. 1 June 2009: It could be an ectopic pregnancy.
That means you are pregnant but it is growing outside your womb.
This kind of thing can and WILL KILL YOU if left un checked.
See a doctor NOW. It doesn't have to be a gyno, it can be any doctor, it can be... (read in full...)
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