I can feel his erection when we hug! How do I let him know in the right way?
Q. First off, my boyfriend and I work together. We don't have a lot of days off together, so we see eachother at work most of the time. Coworkers aren't allowed to date, so we act like everythings normal when people are around, so naturally there's ...
A. 7 July 2009: He's probably rather embarrassed by it so there is really no need to say anything at all.
But if you really want to say something then just tell him "I love knowing how much I turn you on."
Or put your hand on it while you are hugging him.
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Do men orgasm during sex?
Q. Do men always have an orgasm while having sex? Plus - if they do - should it not be that a woman should orgasm too at the same time? (Just for life to be fair and equal?"...
A. 6 July 2009: Men orgasm 95% of the time during sex.
And yes, to be fair and equal, women should get the same chances.
However, life is not equal or fair.
If your guy is not satisfying you then teach him better or find a new man.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of the mole on my breast?
Q. About a year ago a mole has come up on one of my nipples. it bothers me and wont let my boyfriend see them and i've been with him for nearly a year. is there anything i can do to get rid of it or atleast help it go down??...
A. 6 July 2009: The only way to get rid of a mole that I know of is to have a doctor chop it off.
It's really minor surgery and they don't even put you to sleep, just inject painkiller into the area.
If it's really really really bothering you then go to see a... (read in full...)
How do I split from him? He says he loves me!
Q. Right now I have a boyfriend and we've been together for just 3 months. We're in only in high school so it's not that big of a deal but a relationship is a relationship. I want to break up with him but I have already tried before and he practically ...
A. 6 July 2009: You don't give up and change your mind as soon as he turns on the tears.
You tell him you are sorry but you don't love him. You are sorry and you don't want to hurt him but it is over.
You tell him that you will leave him alone for a while unti... (read in full...)
Does wanting to leave him because of no sex make me a bad person?
Q. I really wonder , if it s is gearally happening or' Im just alone with this experience. Do over 40 man losing their sex drive usually,or its just me and my husbnand, How common is this? He is totally non sexual. Is this alarming,or the norm? And i...
A. 6 July 2009: It's incredibly common. Do a search on this site for similar issues and you will see lots of good advice.
Most of the time it's due to his depression or stress.
Talk to him and have a sit down quiet discussion about it. Tell him how it makes... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I've changed my mind?
Q. Dear cupid. About a year ago i wrote on here when i was thinking about getting back with my ex boyfriend. I did end up getting back with him. I have known him for 4 years now and we have been back together for 10 months. We are also engaged. Which ...
A. 6 July 2009: You are very very young to be thinking of marriage. I thought I was a bit young to marry doing it at 23!! I think the whole engagement thing for him was more a way to keep you both feeling secure in a long distance relationship. Next t... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any ideas on what it will cost to see a dentist?
Q. i know this is nothing to do with relationships! but i was wondering if anyone could help me out, im seventeen years old and yeah im coming upto those years where im going to start going into town, clubs, big parties! and i have NO confidence at ...
A. 6 July 2009: Without seeing your teeth, it would be impossible to say how much it would cost. Anyone of any age can go private. It just costs far far far more. Get your local yellow pages out and have a look at local dentists. Mine cost £55 for a... (read in full...)
Should I call him tomorrow even though he didn't reply to my text?
Q. I called this guy i really care about. I was in town,and wanted 2 see if we could hang out. He says what happen 2 letting me know your coming ahead of time? He says u gotta let me know. I normally let him know. I text him,and tried talking him into ...
A. 6 July 2009: Well if you are feeling bad for nagging at him then leave him alone and stop chasing him.
You still come across as some one who is a bit too desperate for this to work.
He has said he isn't mad. You are just going to come over as crazy if you ... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be mad at her for breaking my heart?
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me 4 months ago. She was my first love and I've never gone through so much pain. She has already found another guy. She started hanging out with him only two weeks after we broke up and it hurts so much and makes me so ...
A. 6 July 2009: You have a right to feel how ever you want to.
However, you do not have the right to tell her about it.
If you are not dealing with the breakup then cut her out of your life. Don't see her and her new guy.
You can sit and be angry on your... (read in full...)
Should I call him tomorrow even though he didn't reply to my text?
Q. I called this guy i really care about. I was in town,and wanted 2 see if we could hang out. He says what happen 2 letting me know your coming ahead of time? He says u gotta let me know. I normally let him know. I text him,and tried talking him into ...
A. 6 July 2009: You have some serious self esteem issues. You are here over the fact that you forgot to text him in advance saying you were coming to town.
That is really really really not a big thing. Why are you acting as though you slapped his mum in the face... (read in full...)
I love my guy, but his family's intrusiveness is causing so much stress on our relationship!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He is 25 years old and recently he purchased his own home. His family is having a difficult time dealing with him moving on with his own life, and guilts him into spending time with them and not ...
A. 6 July 2009: I think you have to let him know it's upsetting you.
Why not just arrange something but ask him to ring his family and ask them whether he is definitely allowed to have next Saturday with you.
Tell him that you don't want to have another wee... (read in full...)
I called her a random celebrity name while having sex!
Q. I was making love with my fiance and by mistake I call her an random celebrity name. She got really upset, then angry she threw her engagement ring at me then she went her friend's. I called her friend (my fiance wouldn`t pick up) and ask her to ...
A. 6 July 2009: Oh you silly silly boy.
You just have to do some really really really big apologising.
Don't you dare "tell her to come home" you follow her with flowers and gifts and you get on your knees and you tell her how much she means to you and how m... (read in full...)
3 years and now he wants a break!
Q. if your a 3 year relationship and he asks for break should i give him space and how will i know were going to get back together and is it good to be friends?...
A. 6 July 2009: You have to ask why he wants a break and what does he want to do with it.
There is a possibility that he doesn't want to be with you any more and that he thinks by having a break it will hurt you less when it comes to breaking up.
The oth... (read in full...)
Do you prefer guys with six packs or not?
Q. Just A Quick Question To The Girls. Do you prefer guys with or without a six pack? i ask becuae my mates girlfrieds's dont understand wat the point of us workin out so much is.. so ummm yeah, Do you prefer guys with or without? ...
A. 30 June 2009: I don't want him to have a big flabby tummy but the most important thing is that he spends time with me.
What's the point of having a boyfriend that would rather spend time doing sit ups and staring at himself in the mirror than going for a walk b... (read in full...)
I've forgotten what dating was like before my ex, help!
Q. Ok, first of all I'm not a virgin, and I have two kids. I recently ended the relationship with their father as it was not going well... at all. What I'm asking may sound stupid. I've completely forgotten what life and dating was like before him (as ...
A. 30 June 2009: If you can't remember what you dated like when you were 16 then GOOD. I assume you weren't planning to date 15 year old school boys, so knowing what you knew then won't help you dating men. Welcome to adult dating! It's a whole new ball game! ... (read in full...)
Assertive dating techniques - jump at opportunities to define what is acceptable
Q. Hi.. so im generally good with the confidence and self esteem thing - but lately im paying more attention to it, as i go after high quality game... Scenario: recently i went on a date, left her alone the next day (i have a life/etc) - nex...
A. 30 June 2009: Yeah, I think acting like a passive aggressive 12 year old will totally improve this relationship. Well done you! Do you honestly think she is even going to notice your MSN status if you are in her "offline" section? If she does do you think she... (read in full...)
I want to be able to fall asleep with my boyfriend but we cant get comfortable!
Q. I want to basically know if anyone else has this same issue and if anyone else knows what to do!! Its not a major thing but its really irritating me. I want to be able to fall asleep with my boyfriend but we cant get comfortable! Our flats always...
A. 29 June 2009: I'm jealous. My house is always cold. I hate it.
Your neighbours below you must have the heating on all the time. At least your bills are going to be low in winter.
Fans are your best bet then, or get one of those freezer blocks and wrap ... (read in full...)
We got naked for a few minutes, was this an invitation to sex?
Q. My friend Adam and I have both had heterosexual histories...however, I have been having sexual fantasies about him since I was about 13. Nothing ever happened but the last time we got drunk together, we were walking on a trail. He suggested we get ...
A. 29 June 2009: It's an invitation to something. Maybe not sex just yet.
Rushing into sex can be pretty scary so why not take it slow.
Invite him over and maybe suggest you get naked if it's a hot night.
Then make a really small move, tell him you think... (read in full...)
He bought a flavoured condom, hoping I'd have sex with him!
Q. my boyfriend wants to do sex with me but i am not ready. yesterday at school he asked me my favourite flavour and at night he came to my house and told he wanted to have sex with me.he had also brought my favourite flavour's condom.but i sent him ...
A. 29 June 2009: You tell him to stop asking for sex or he's dumped.
He clearly does not care about you if all he is after is sex. Tell him you are not ready and that he needs to back off a bit and stop looking like a desperate pervert.
Coming over with a flav... (read in full...)
I want to be able to fall asleep with my boyfriend but we cant get comfortable!
Q. I want to basically know if anyone else has this same issue and if anyone else knows what to do!! Its not a major thing but its really irritating me. I want to be able to fall asleep with my boyfriend but we cant get comfortable! Our flats always...
A. 29 June 2009: Your problem is that you live in Britain which is experiencing a heat wave at the moment.
So your options are:
Move to the North of Scotland / Russia
or
Accept that you'll just have to toss and turn during hot humid weather (that's what t... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend dump me as he was scared of commitment?
Q. Did my bf dump me as he was scared of commitment? We'd been together for nearly 3 years and in that time things were mostly great but every now and then he'd bottle it and question whether or not we wanted the same thing. I wanted the wedding, the ...
A. 29 June 2009: It sounds like he just knew he was wasting your time.
If he didn't want the house / wedding / children then all he was doing was sitting there watching your biological clock ticking and your chances of meeting a guy who wanted those kids and hous... (read in full...)
I'm a lesbian but I'm unsure of how to have sex with a girl?
Q. So, I am a lesbian, and I have kissed girls and made out with them and stuff but, im still unsure about how to have sex with them..My girlfriend really wants to, but i dont know how, so i always make an excuse. with out being to crude, can anyone ...
A. 27 June 2009: Swwetie, how can you say you are ready to have sex when you are too scared to even have a conversation with your girlfriend?
If it's your first time with a girl then tell her. Let her be in charge and show you what to do.
It's your hands and t... (read in full...)
Should I choose racing or professional football?
Q. hello there i have left school and i am wanting a job in a shop but when i have enough money i would like to fly over to america and live there so that i can start a racing career i really enjoy racing but i like football(soccer) just as much and i ...
A. 27 June 2009: Go for football as it's much easier. The chances are though that you won't make it. 99% of the boys who go for trials never make a decent wage from it.
You can become a racer at any age. You aren't even old enough to drive yet so you have no idea ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex on your menstrual cycle?
Q. is it safe to have sex on 5th day of menstrual cycle...
A. 27 June 2009: Well it won't kill you.
Depends what you mean by safe.
If you use a condom then yes it is very safe. If not then you could get a horrible disease. There is also a risk of pregnancy.
If you are on your period then it's going to be a bit s... (read in full...)
Could this be swine flu???
Q. Okay, so this isn't exactly a relationship question, but I need answers urgently! For the past week or so I have had an extremely bad cold, my older brother also has it (he is 16, I am 13) and I think I caught it from him. Now I am feeling really ...
A. 27 June 2009: Woah woah woah!
What's with all these people saying that you should GO AND SEE your doctor.
If you think you have a contagious bug then wandering into a waiting room full of vulnerable old people with weak immune systems is the LAST thing you s... (read in full...)
I fancy both men and women and it's distressing me
Q. I fancy both men and women (men more at the moment). When I masturbate, it takes me longer to ejaculate when im fantasizing about women than it does men, about 5 minutes. Its really upseting and distressing me, I hate myself so much because of it. ...
A. 27 June 2009: Sweetheart, you need to be calm about this.
It's part of growing up to figure out your sexuality and you don't have to label yourself.
Just take it that you are unsure of what you are at the moment and give it time. You don't need to be able ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll be disappointed when she sees it?
Q. ok this might sound stupid but please let me know wot u think. need a girls perspective. I was changeing into my swimming trunks one day to go swimming in a river. as i was changeing one of the girls that was with us caught a glimpse of my pe...
A. 23 June 2009: She'll be fine.
It's just a giggle for the girls and she is not going to be taking it too seriously.
As long as you are caring and loving then you'll be fine in bed. It really is what you do with it that counts.
Good Luck!! xx
PS. CONDOMS... (read in full...)
I have cheated on my fiancée even though no sexual acts occured?
Q. I am 21 and engaged and living with my fiancée and recently I went on a night out and after the end of the night I had missed my last train home and I didn't have the money to pay for or the thought of getting the £20 taxi home so my friend (female) ...
A. 21 June 2009: Well sleeping in your pants next to someone else in their paints is a pretty intimate thing to do. What was wrong with her sofa or her floor?
Would you be happy with your fiancee if she had slept in her underwear with a guy in that situatio... (read in full...)
Sex while on your period?
Q. just a dumb question... Can u have sex while a girl is on her period?...
A. 21 June 2009: Yes you can. It's just smelly and messy.
Plus, we girls are used to seeing a fair bit of blood. The average guy your age, may get totally freaked out by it.
I personally would want to wait till I didn't smell like an abattoir down there.
G... (read in full...)
Hes annoyingly obsessive! Should I just split from him?
Q. so me and my boyfriend are having trouble. he is so obsesive, like annoyingly obsessive. for example he texts me as soon as he wakes up, which is way earlier than i wake up and if i dont reply to his texts he keeps texting and texting and texting ...
A. 18 June 2009: Tell him that you will dump him unless he stops acting like this.
Give him one last chance to stop texting and being possessive because you are right, that is not on.
If he carries on then dump him. He had his chance fair and square.
Good ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with him when I love him so much?
Q. hey well i ve with my boyfriend for 10 months and i feel i can t easily forget him or break up but he's in a military school. he comes only on weekends where we spend the most beautiful times together but it's really hard to see him once a week ...
A. 10 June 2009: Long distance sucks.
But do you honestly think that you will feel better if you split up with him?
Do you think that you will be able to get over this guy and then just find someone else? If you really do love him then I think splitting up wit... (read in full...)
Do you guys think I'm way in over my head with her or should I ask her out?
Q. Alrighty then. I'll try to make this as brief to the best of my abilities. I'm 24, she's 22. We met in a forum where artists gather and discuss... whatever it is we discuss. Few words about her: She's cute (I'd give her a 7 out of 10), sort of...
A. 10 June 2009: Brilliant. I was about to come over there and smack you!
;oP
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How far should I take things on our first date?
Q. I am going on a first date with a lad who i realy like he seems to like me too as he keeps asking how my love life is as if he is hinting to find out if i have a bf not sure how far to take things on our first date like hold his hand and do i kiss ...
A. 10 June 2009: If the moment comes up and it's all romantic then kiss him / hold hands etc.
But only go as far as far as kissing on the first date. Head back to yours.
if he doesn't call or tries to persuade you to go back to his "nothing will happen, I ju... (read in full...)
Is he ignoring me? Does he not have a signal? How do I deal with this?
Q. I met my boyfriend online 6 weeks ago, hes in iraq as a private contractor and isnt home until Aug, and Ive fallen for him. we speak and chat all the time but I havnt heard from him in a week, I know he could be working and have no signal, but I ...
A. 10 June 2009: No one is allowed mobiles in Iraq as they can be traced by insurgents and they use the signal as an aiming point for mortars.
If he had a mobile on him then he's probably been given a bollocking and had it confiscated.
If he was on a sat pho... (read in full...)
How and when should I approach this girl?
Q. Hello, I see this girl on a weekly basis in a big foodstore. she's a cashier and there's always a lot on people on the checkout line so I cant really make her stop what she's doing to get her to talk to me. One time it wasn't that busy and I just ...
A. 10 June 2009: I think you should go for it. What's the very worst that could happen? You have to go to a different shop for your food?
Just say that you know it's a bit out of the blue and she probably gets asked out all the time but what the hell. Is there an... (read in full...)
Do you guys think I'm way in over my head with her or should I ask her out?
Q. Alrighty then. I'll try to make this as brief to the best of my abilities. I'm 24, she's 22. We met in a forum where artists gather and discuss... whatever it is we discuss. Few words about her: She's cute (I'd give her a 7 out of 10), sort of...
A. 10 June 2009: Hey look, you asked her out and she said yes and you are going to dump her before the first date?
The only thing holding you back is your attitude.
If you don't do this then you are making a mistake and one day you are going to wake up and be 4... (read in full...)
Violent past
Q. My new partner is really lovely and kind to me but i recently found out in his past relationship he was really violent and abusive. Do you think he will be the same with me or do you think he has changed? ...
A. 10 June 2009: It can be that some relationships bring out our bad side and others don't.
Give him a chance but take it very very slow. No moving in together and make sure you are VERY careful about using condoms.
It could be that his true colours come out... (read in full...)
She's too nervous to meet with me. How long should I wait for her?
Q. Hi, I met a girl over the internet, and things have been going really well. We know a lot about each other, we've chatted for hours a day, and talked on the phone together on a few occasions. Last week we arranged to meet up this Thursday. Was re...
A. 10 June 2009: Ask her when she would like to reschedule.
Where were you going to meet? Make sure it is in a public place and even tell her to bring a friend and you'll bring a friend.
Make her feel safe and in control.
There are a lot of strange men about... (read in full...)
Do you guys think I'm way in over my head with her or should I ask her out?
Q. Alrighty then. I'll try to make this as brief to the best of my abilities. I'm 24, she's 22. We met in a forum where artists gather and discuss... whatever it is we discuss. Few words about her: She's cute (I'd give her a 7 out of 10), sort of...
A. 10 June 2009: You asked her out... she said "yes, organise something and I'll check my diary." and you have disappeared and not got back to her.
The poor girl is probably wondering what she did to put you off her.
Just find an exhibition and ask her if she w... (read in full...)
Guys: Does it bother you if your girl uses a vibrator?
Q. This is a little embarrassing. I have enjoyed masturbation for many years, and then for my seventeenth birthday my weird but lovely best friend bought me a vibrator. Ever since then I have loved using them on a daily basis. I was quite a late ...
A. 10 June 2009: I think if you are only just together then yes it will bother him.
Not every guy is that secure about his performance in the bedroom and it could well be that he feels a bit threatened by the fact that you have sex with him, but then go to your ... (read in full...)
Together for almost 4 years, I want marriage, he says "I'll look into it", what do I do?
Q. I have some serious concerns about my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. We own a house together, own vehicles together and we have 2 children. Our oldest is not his biologically, but my boyfriend has been her "step ...
A. 10 June 2009: Well I suppose that he's not seeing any pressure to get married. You did all this stuff (bought houses / had kids) with absolutely no sign of commitment from him, so in his view, marriage is just going to be a bit of icing on the cake.
I think yo... (read in full...)
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