Should I tell my mom I went through a phase where I watched porn, just incase she finds out?
Q. Right big problem! im 17, 18 at the start of next year. I used to watch porn ALOT! i went threw a big phase , was totally addicted. I fele so dirty about it now, becuase i feel liek its a man thing, even though i know other women do it. Iv...
A. 8 August 2009: If you have computer problems a lot it's because you don't know how to do basic maintainance.
Find out how to:
Do a scan disk, defragment, delete your history, delete your cookies, delete your saved searches, empty your recycle bin, delete your... (read in full...)
Share your story: Have you ever regretted ending it?
Q. Have you ever broken up with your boyfriend / girlfriend because you thought you no longer loved them and then later realized that you made a mistake? Have you had this experience? Were you successful in getting back together? Please share your ...
A. 8 August 2009: Ah right, sorry we get a lot of very general questions and they get annoying after a while.
If this is your problem then I can give you advice.
You are grieving the loss of your relationship.
Right now you are in denial. You are thinking... (read in full...)
What can I do to help him maintain an erection?
Q. I've recently started having a friends with benefits kind of relationship with a guy I met through an internet dating site. It's a really good arrangement in most ways since we both just got out of really serious relationships and just want a little ...
A. 8 August 2009: Maybe he feels that taking a girl's virginity just because she wants a bit of "comfort" after breaking up with her ex is not the kind of person he is.
To have casual sex and remain friends and not get feelings is something that you need to have ... (read in full...)
I don't fancy girls in real life so why do I like these from the mags?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have a great relationship, however I find myself getting myself turned on by the girls in his lads mags (FHM, Nuts etc)which is bit worrying lol. I don't fancy girls in real life so why do I like these? ...
A. 8 August 2009: Maybe you are a tiny tiny tiny bit bisexual.
The girls in nuts have been stretched out and air brushed so much that they hit an impossible level of perfection. They alter everything from leg length to hair and figure shape.
Being bisexua... (read in full...)
Share your story: Have you ever regretted ending it?
Q. Have you ever broken up with your boyfriend / girlfriend because you thought you no longer loved them and then later realized that you made a mistake? Have you had this experience? Were you successful in getting back together? Please share your ...
A. 8 August 2009: Hey, this is not a problem, so you may not get many answers.
If you want a nice survey style chat then you might have more luck in the forums.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What can I do about my our sex life? Our honeymoon period didn't even outlast the honeymoon!
Q. My wife and I have been married just over a month now and the "honeymoon period" as it were, didn't even last through the honeymoon. We had sex on the wedding night, which by mutual agreement was fantastic. However on our honeymoon, which lasted o...
A. 8 August 2009: You didn't have a frequent sex life before marriage, why should it change now???
She just may not be into sex as much as you are. Some people just don't have a high sex drive.
Romance her and find nice ways to get into the mood, never just... (read in full...)
Years of unprotected sex and never got pregnant?
Q. For a few years now I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend. The odd thing is I never got pregent once. That's always makes wonder is something wrong with me or is it him? I am thinking of getting myself checked out. You advice wou...
A. 8 August 2009: He probably gave you chlymidia and that can make you infetile.
If you both are in a committed relationship (why aren't you married if you are taking on a joint 20 year commitment?) and are trying for a baby and have been tested for STIs then you... (read in full...)
I feel men lack a moral compass
Q. I have issues with men and am not really sure what else can be done. I dont like feeling this way and dont hate men but I simply feel that the majority of them lack a moral compass. I look around the world and see rapes and murders daily on the news ...
A. 8 August 2009: All this stuff you see on the news... well as a journalist, let me tell you:
It only makes the news because it's a rare and news worthy thing.
I will never ever ever start a bulletin with "In Cambridge today, no one was murdered, and ev... (read in full...)
I'm 16, my parents want me to marry this much older man (49) and have children with him!
Q. I'm 16, and my parents want me to marry this much older man and have children with him. He's 49, has had 2 heart attacks and has no children, and is very wealthy. They tell me he's very wealthy from working in the business world and runs a lorry...
A. 8 August 2009: [nb. I think our resident faker is back. But this question is still relevant to people so I will give an answer anyway.]
Forced marriage is illegal in this country.
It doesn't matter your religion or anything, they can still be prosecuted.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I'm making new social gay friends online and want to meet them?
Q. I joined a gay website to make new friends and it is working well. I am meeting a guy for a drink and probably a dance on Friday. I really need more of a social life. BUT BUT BUT I don't know how to tell my boyfriend! He only has female friend...
A. 8 August 2009: I think you just need to talk about it and say that you are feeling suffocated because he doesn't trust you enough to even have friends.
He can say he trusts you all he wants but if he's not willing to let you go out then that's not true. There is... (read in full...)
Help! How can I stop him from making me feel stupid?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 4 years now. He was newly divorced when we first got together. I love him and he is good to me but when we get into an argument he talks to me like I am stupid and then he always threatens to leave. Sometimes he does ...
A. 6 August 2009: You've told him not to do it again and he has. You have done exactly nothing. So he's going to carry on and on knowing you'll put up with it and then he can get his own way.
If you want this to stop then tell him that if he does it again it's ove... (read in full...)
How hard would you fight?
Q. Would you fight for the person who dumped you?...
A. 6 August 2009: Well if they were stupid enough to split up with me then I wouldn't want to be with them so not at all.
Unless he split up with me for a valid reason and I was at fault with something I could change. (drug alcohol addiction, stupid health risking ... (read in full...)
Why do older men perv on me?
Q. I'm 15, and, recently, I've started to notice much older men perving on me. When I was 12 or 13, teenage boys used to tell me they fancied me or asked me out, and I didn't mind that. But, nowadays, I've had a guy in his twenties flirting with me...
A. 6 August 2009: It's because you now look old enough that they would consider having sex with you.
Men area always going to look at you. They just didn't when you were 12 because they thought you looked like a child.
Just ignore them, or cover up a little bit ... (read in full...)
Is he likely to get back in touch???
Q. Hi If you were seeing someone on a sex only basis because you were both in relationships, would it be reasonable to assume that when one of you (i.e. him) goes on holiday with his girlfriend for a month, that he will not contact you during that tim...
A. 6 August 2009: He doesn't give a toss about you.
Probably the sex was quite good on his holiday and since things are going well with the girl he actually CARES about, he's not going to bother trying to use you for sex any longer.
He'll be back in a few we... (read in full...)
I need opinions on this. What's the difference between love and lust?
Q. What's the difference between love and lust? Loving someone or lusting after someone?...
A. 6 August 2009: When you love them you want to get old with them and don't mind seeing them cry and throw up and leave not nice smells in the bathroom.
When you lust after them, you just want it to be perfect and hold them and kiss them and have sex with them.
... (read in full...)
He's never shown signs that he was interested but all of a sudden he gave me a hug!
Q. Hi, I am new to this forum and would really appreciate some help. I am attracted towards a man whom I know for more than 2 years, I can tell that there is a spark between us. However, until now we have been like friends. He has never touched me...
A. 6 August 2009: To be honest, a hug always seems like more of a friendly gesture than a romantic one.
I hug my friends with no problem where as I keep my distance with people I like.
It depends what the hug was like. If he held you close for just a bit too l... (read in full...)
How can I keep my stomach flat? I'm desperate!
Q. hi every1!im 15.im tall n slim but i have a problem with my staumach,sometimes its so flat and sometimes its not!!!!!!!and because of my bad luck when i have a party or when i plan 2 go 2 the beach with my friends guess what?i wake up in the morning ...
A. 6 August 2009: You just need to make sure you spend a big of time on the loo so it's empty of air and other things.
That and stand up straight, keep your shoulders back and suck it in.
Posture is 90% of looking good.
Good Luck!! xxx... (read in full...)
Should I approach the subject of marriage and children, or wait for him to take action?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years (lived together for 1.5 years). I am 28 and he is 30. I am ready to get married and start a family. He says I am his soul mate and says he wants to be with me forever. However, we have never ...
A. 6 August 2009: Ah this is a game that women have played for hundreds of years.
It's easy. You simply take him past jewellery shops, and start pointing out rings. Nothing too obvious, just little comments. "I wouldn't like just diamonds for an engagement ring. I'... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I'm making new social gay friends online and want to meet them?
Q. I joined a gay website to make new friends and it is working well. I am meeting a guy for a drink and probably a dance on Friday. I really need more of a social life. BUT BUT BUT I don't know how to tell my boyfriend! He only has female friend...
A. 6 August 2009: Just tell him you really miss having gay friends.
That it makes you sad that you don't have any guys you can go out with and do guy stuff.
Girl friends are great, I know, but you are a man. Men like to fart and talk about sex and do man thing... (read in full...)
Are there any pills you would recommend to help me lose weight?
Q. how can i lose weight? are there any pills that you would recommend? i am 14 5ft2 and about 10 1/2 stone. i would really appreciate any advice. please don't recommend any diets because i am not allowed to follow any of them. ...
A. 6 August 2009: Pills are dangerous and NEVER work.
You say you are not allowed to follow diets but how is anyone going to stop you from eating fruit rather than crisps and sweets?
How is anyone stopping you from having a good dance in your bedroom, or goin... (read in full...)
He used my insecurities against me!
Q. i'm 20 years old and right now i feel ruined! i know it's my fault i shouldn't have been so stupid. i met a guy on the net! worst mistake of my life. we had an internet thing going on. we texted talked on the phone etc but we never met. i talked t...
A. 6 August 2009: Of course he's going to say they won't do anything because he doesn't want you to ring them.
He's a knob, and you shouldn't be a scared little girl. You have the power here, so move on and ignore it.
He won't dare to do anything in real... (read in full...)
My husband's yo-yo diet is stressing me out!!
Q. Hi there, my name is Kayla. I've become very concerned about my husband recently, he seems to be yo-yo dieting, and constantly binging on food, then only eating very little some weeks. He does drink a LOT of Diet Coke; I don't buy it when we go sh...
A. 5 August 2009: You have to FORCE him to take a look at what he's doing. Take a dramatic step.
Tell him you won't be married to a man who is going to die within a few years. He can kill himself with his stupid eating disorder style diets but you don't have to ... (read in full...)
If I fantasize about heterosexual sex and breasts, am I a lesbian?
Q. I'm a 14 year old girl. When I masturbate, I often look at pictures of women. When I fantasize, I always think of a man and a woman having sex. I am neither of these people, nor do I identify with them. Although I usually make the girl about my ...
A. 5 August 2009: This may sound patronising and I don't mean it to so please don't take it the wrong way. You have obviously done some research on this and sound like a bright girl.
But at 14 you are literally overdosing on hormones. These hormones are currentl... (read in full...)
He used my insecurities against me!
Q. i'm 20 years old and right now i feel ruined! i know it's my fault i shouldn't have been so stupid. i met a guy on the net! worst mistake of my life. we had an internet thing going on. we texted talked on the phone etc but we never met. i talked t...
A. 5 August 2009: It is illegal to threaten harm in the UK.
Tell him that you have kept a record of all his texts and emails and a solicitor friend has advised you that there is enough there to get the police to prosecute him for harassment.
Tell him that... (read in full...)
How do I get it through his head that it's best to wait before we get married? And how long do you normally wait before marriage?
Q. This summer was crazy, and I don't know where to start. Well first, My boyfriend is in army basic training, but because of a medical discharge he's coming back. He's done with the army for two years (his choice if he comes back). But has said he ...
A. 5 August 2009: RCN has it right.
If you think it's a bad idea then tell him it's not happening.
Planning a wedding is really REALLY stressful. So unless you plan on heading down to the register office and doing it in a jeans then I wouldn't recommend it if ... (read in full...)
My mate's girlfriend is expecting, I think he's unhappy and I don't know how to help!
Q. dear all at cupid. this is really about my mate, his gf is expecting there first child together, one thing is im really worried about him, since shes found out shes pregnent shes moved back to other family members,and sent him a text saying all i ca...
A. 5 August 2009: I think you need to sit him down and have a talk with him.
A mate will be there when it all goes wrong to buy a pint.
A good mate will risk an argument and tell him early on to stop acting like a stupid little moron 14 year old and grow up. He ... (read in full...)
Why haven't I gotten my period yet? We had unprotected sex but he never came!
Q. okay , so i lost my virginity a day after my last period . it's been approximatly 32-34 days since then , since my period. the 1st time we ddnt use a condom , but he never came/finished. whats wrong? why havent i gotten my period??? :(...
A. 4 August 2009: You need to take a pregnancy test.
People who use the withdrawal method (pulling out) generally have a lot of children.
If you don't want to use condoms or go on the pill then don't have sex. It's not worth the risk.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm a victim of "sexting"
Q. i really need help i am a victim of this "sexting" and i have been for the past 3 months i hate it and i regret doing it i did it coz my bf wanted a pic of me nd he sed he wld never ever show any1 but when we split up he sent it 2 his mates it was ...
A. 4 August 2009: Gosh this is certainly topical.
Luckily there is information on every radio station today. Check out the radio 1 page and see if that has any useful info.
All you can really do is keep your head up and carry on. You will get stronger if you ... (read in full...)
Should I text him this?
Q. Basically i was sort of seeing this guy a few of months back, and i liked him soooo much, but after like 5 months he treated me like dirt and really hurt me so i dleted him out my life and he didnt seem to care or anything. (I havent stopped liking ...
A. 4 August 2009: That sounds like a great text to send.
Send it and then try HARD to stop thinking about him and think about someone else instead. It can be a guy off a sofa advert. Just try hard to look around and find other guys attractive.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
Could two sexually inactive people pass along an STD?
Q. My fiancee and I are about to get married and have sex for the first time. We are both virgins and both come from a religious background with some pretty strong views on pre-marital sex. Neither of us has been sexually active with anyone beyond ...
A. 4 August 2009: Unless you have been rubbing yourself furiously on very dirty toilet seats, the chances of you having anything are pretty much zero.
If you have no symptoms then you could always just go and both get a chlamydia test as that is pretty much the... (read in full...)
His mother's comments have put a huge hole in my confidence about our relationship
Q. My boyfriends mother invited me round for dinner while my boyfriend was away, and got talking about various tings, after a few drinks she asked if we were using 'extra protection' as my boyfriend has a son from a previous relationship that wasnt ...
A. 4 August 2009: She was probably only trying to do the right thing and it backfired.
In her mind, her little boy has been hurt by this evil woman, so she is warning you to not get your hopes up because he's so hurt by it.
But the thing is she has no idea what... (read in full...)
Is the first kiss really that special?
Q. Is a first kiss really all that special, are any after that all that special? i mean its just a kiss...your lips only touch for about a few secs and then its over. Caus everyone talks bout your first kiss being amazing and special and magical, but ...
A. 3 August 2009: It's pretty much like you see in the films.
Practice on the back of your hand.
You can either go for a little smooch type kiss where you don't really open your mouth, or if you do go for an open mouth kiss then (it's hard to describe) you ju... (read in full...)
What is the medical reason that I would need birth control?
Q. I am a 22 year old college student and I recently went to the gynecologist to get birth control. SHe wrote me a prescription for Yaz but when I went to fill the prescription. I wsa told that I was not covered. I am a dependent on my mother's ...
A. 3 August 2009: How much is it to get a coil fitted. It's not pleasant, and it might bit a bit pricey up front but you are covered for 5 years.
I'm not familiar with having to pay for medical care so I'm not an expert on insurance.
You can get the pill to cont... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to buy an engagement ring just because he's "supposed" to!
Q. I have been in a committed relationship for five years. Of the five years, we have lived together for four. I want to get married. He claims that he also wants to get married but will not be told what, when, and how to do it by other people. ...
A. 3 August 2009: Tell him that you have waited 5 years to get married to him and start a family and you don't think it's ever going to happen.
Since your biological clock starts ticking after 30 then tell him you can't afford for him to waste time waiting for when... (read in full...)
Is the first kiss really that special?
Q. Is a first kiss really all that special, are any after that all that special? i mean its just a kiss...your lips only touch for about a few secs and then its over. Caus everyone talks bout your first kiss being amazing and special and magical, but ...
A. 3 August 2009: It IS special because it's the one you remember forever. It's the one you tell your friends about when you are in your 30's and all go UUUUUUUUURRRRRRRGH! Because it was scary and you're with a spotty 14 year old who you later find out is an ... (read in full...)
She wants me to trust her but.....
Q. Before anyone says I should speak to her about this, I have, I've told her times and times again. Me and my girlfriend have been together for roughly nine months now, And she keeps going on how I don't trust her.. Well, I don't. She is always o...
A. 3 August 2009: She can't and she shouldn't have to.
If you can't handle a long distance relationship with a flirty girl then end it and don't drag her down.
This problem is yours and she shouldn't have to change and stop having fun just to make you feel be... (read in full...)
I like the feeling of being with someone but I don't like the man himself!
Q. I'm worrying that this new guy I've been dating for 2 months is taking advantage of me or somehow expecting me to behave like I'm chasing Him which is SO NOT happening, ...for example, I got sooo lost trying to visit him where he lives (4 hours ...
A. 3 August 2009: You know deep down that you need to end this.
Yes having affection and someone to be nice to you is great, but are you really willing to spend so much time and money just to get that?
You may as well hire an escort in your home town as that wou... (read in full...)
Should I move out when I've done nothing wrong?
Q. Hi. Im 15 years old atm and im having trouble with my family. The basic story is that my nan has dementia and my grandad and mum are trying to do the best for her. however they got into an argument over what would happen to her. Now they are in t...
A. 3 August 2009: I think you mum is really stressed and she's probably taking it out on you. That isn't right, but unfortunately she is only human and will make mistakes.
Go and tell her you are sorry for upsetting her and you love her and wanted to help and you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to break up with him but I don't want to lose my parents respect, what should I do?
Q. I’m in a fairly long distance relationship with this really amazing guy who I love so much. My parents really seem to have such a huge problem with it though, they don’t want us speaking over the internet and they want him to come and see me rather ...
A. 3 August 2009: You can't blame them for not trusting a man they have never met when you hear all these horror stories about nutcases that you get on the internet.
Yes he works but not 24 hours a day 7 days a week.
Get him to come and visit you on a weekend... (read in full...)
Is she unsure of her feelings for me?
Q. Recently, this girl ive liked for half a year, we got really close. And she has also admitted that she likes me too. Thats where the problem starts, she just stop msging all of a sudden, asking that she give me an explanation the next day. i asked ...
A. 3 August 2009: Unfortunately wait is all you can do.
My advice is to cut contact and move on. Tell her that if she wants you as a boyfriend then you are there.
But try and get over her and find someone new. If she comes after you and wants to be with you then... (read in full...)
I'm 19, and I am experiencing low sex drive?
Q. Alright everyone first off I'm 19, and this should not be happening. I do not know what's going on? I took a pro horomone (testosterone booster) to gain muscle and I took a cycle of it 1 1/2 months ago. It's an extreme testosterone booster, blocks ...
A. 3 August 2009: Yep you mess with your hormones you are going to have side effects.
Why do you think women on the pill suffer so much?
Do NOT take any more weird hormone things and see your doctor to check and see if you have done any serious damage.
It co... (read in full...)
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