Should I consider my wife holding another man's hand as cheating?
Q. I asked a question a few weeks ago regarding staying in my marriage. Well, a new development has happened. In talking with my wife she felt it "necessary" to tell me that on a business trip about 4 years ago she had too much to drink with a male ...
A. 26 August 2009: It sounds perfectly plausible to me that nothing more happened.
Remember that we girls are all about the emotion. We don't need to kiss or have sex to consider it cheating.
She obviously got too close to this guy and had feelings at the ... (read in full...)
Is the vagina usually always warm or only when turned on?
Q. Pls is the virgina always warm in temperature or is it only when the lady is sexualy excited or wet....
A. 25 August 2009: It's an internal organ.
It's going to be warm all the time, same as your kidney and heart.
There will be more blood flow so it will be slightly warmer when she is turned on, but not by much.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do you know any married men that have managed to stay faithful?
Q. Do you all know of any married guys who are faithful?...
A. 25 August 2009: Yep.
Most are actually.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do you think the shift patterns they've given me is too much?
Q. i just started my first job in a nursing home. they put me down for FOUR 12 hour shifts in a row. I never worked this long in my life let alone in 4 days. I feel exhausted and didnt have time to wash my hair in the past 4 days, it was a nightmare...
A. 24 August 2009: Well you are working full time hours so talk to your supervisor and ask her to explain how the shifts are going to work.
If you need the cash though I recommend you work as many shifts as you can. Get yourself used to work and then ask to cut down... (read in full...)
Do you think the shift patterns they've given me is too much?
Q. i just started my first job in a nursing home. they put me down for FOUR 12 hour shifts in a row. I never worked this long in my life let alone in 4 days. I feel exhausted and didnt have time to wash my hair in the past 4 days, it was a nightmare...
A. 24 August 2009: Yep that's entirely average.
In the ambulance service, you do 4 days of 12 hour day shifts, then 4 days off, then 4 days of 12 hour night shifts.
You'll find it really hard at first but then you'll get used to it. It's just a matter of gettin... (read in full...)
I told him I don't like him smoking when we first started going out, and he's been smoking on and off since. I don't want to force him to keep trying to quit, so what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We have been planning our future together and everything has been great. Mostly we've been able to work through anything fairly easily. During the beginning of our relationship I found out he ...
A. 24 August 2009: I had this problem. My husband did want to quit but also enjoyed smoking / was massively addicted.
So I told him he can do what he likes but since he stinks when he smokes he can't come near me.
So he has the option: Smoke OR kiss your face o... (read in full...)
I'm scared I won't be able to commit when I get older...
Q. I can not commit to anyone. I'm scared to commit to a person because I don't want to be heartbroken again. I know I'm young but I'm scared I won't be able to commit when I get older....
A. 24 August 2009: Dude, why would you WANT to commit to anyone at your age?
Anyone who is not scared of committing to one guy at 14 is an idiot.
You don't want to be going off and having deep and meaningful relationships at your age because then you might do stu... (read in full...)
Is there a third date rule?
Q. If girl slept with a guy on the 3rd date does that make her easy....?...
A. 24 August 2009: Well you are in your 20's so hardly a virgin 13 year old. I would say over a matter of weeks was fine.
Ask him where you stand, tell him you really like having him as a boyfriend and see how he reacts.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is there a third date rule?
Q. If girl slept with a guy on the 3rd date does that make her easy....?...
A. 23 August 2009: Depends if the third date was 3 dates in 2 days, or 3 dates over a few weeks. Depends on how well she knew him, and how things were going, etc etc etc. If you want a better answer, you need to give more information. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it really worth giving up everything and running away with my girlfriend?
Q. Me and my girlfriend had sex and got caught by her parents that night and for the first few weeks her parents were mad at us but still wanted us to be together. but as time went on they completely have changed there minds and now wont let us talk or ...
A. 23 August 2009: It'll be worth it if you want to get your names in the paper. Kids who do this ALWAYS get caught and made out to be Stupid little children in the papers. It will make things a hundred times worse if you run away. Your family will ground yo... (read in full...)
One on one dinner with a friend of the opposite sex - yay or nay?
Q. I'm in a great relationship where there is a lot of trust between my partner and I. I have many male friends that I hang out with or communicate with on a regular basis and he has female friends too. This is of course fine. But the other night, a...
A. 23 August 2009: I have male friends and I also like eating.
I really don't see the difference between going to a pub with a mate and having nothing but drink... and going to a pub with a mate and having drink AND a burger.
Why is sharing a table to eat dif... (read in full...)
23 year old son wants to meet with a girl he met online. Is it safe?
Q. Our 23 year old son lives with us, and he's in university doing a 4-year business course - it got delayed for financial reasons. He's doing well academically. However, he told us yesterday he wants to meet this girl he met online - he got talk...
A. 23 August 2009: It's no more dangerous than him meeting up with some girl that he met in a club.
Anyone can lie about who they are. Just because she is on the internet doesn't make that any different.
He's 23 and therefore unlikely to be young and silly enough... (read in full...)
I feel things are unfair but I don't want to be selfish or ungrateful..
Q. i'm living with my mum to finish off my last year of high school while my dad has been sent overseas for work. he comes to see us maybe once a month so its not too bad. the thing is, i feel like because of that i have less freedom than my other ...
A. 23 August 2009: There is always one person in a group that has to go home first.
It sucks but once you go to university or get a job and move out then you'll be a lot more free.
Your mum is just doing the best she can.
I was in exactly the same situati... (read in full...)
Do all male djs cheat on their girls?
Q. sounds weird.i've Just met a guy hes 19same as me of the net.. but hes a dj and well known in his area cuz he's really successful for his age.we have unlimted clals to eachother he spends most his spare time talking to me after our first nigh...
A. 22 August 2009: Yes, a man can be judged entirely on their job...
Only go out with receptionists.
This is a silly question and you know it. He's no more likely to cheat than any other man. He's just meeting more girls who are drunk and stupid.
Good ... (read in full...)
Why did he take the condoms with him? How should I handle this issue?
Q. hi. I would like some advise. I have asked my friends but i feel that the more advise i get the better i can handle the situation. I met this guy, rather oddly in the street, about two months ago. ( we live about 200 miles from each other) We ...
A. 22 August 2009: He's a man. Men like having sex.
However, sex is a leading cause of babies so many men keep condoms in their room.
He'll have been using them with all the other girls he's been having sex with. He probably hid them because they are embarrassing... (read in full...)
How much does love matter in a relationship?
Q. How much does love matter in a relationship? Can you be happy with someone who gives you everything you could want but you are not in love with them. By that I mean, a family, a home, money, a great social life and their love. Long term is t...
A. 22 August 2009: I think you can be very happy with all of the above, but if someone comes along and you all in love with them then you are going to leave.
It is a little different for men and women, but the gap is getting less and less since we women no longer N... (read in full...)
Wife tied me up for bondage then proceeded to list all the things I did wrong, and no sex!
Q. hi aunty,I got married for 6 months now..2 nights back,we decided for bondage sex,so my wife tied me down to the bed with handcuffs..intially she teased me and kissed..once I was tied up properly and at her mercy..she slapped me..and then yelled at ...
A. 16 August 2009: Even if you did deserve this I would still consider this abuse.
If I were you, I would walk out on her. Tell her you will not be physically attacked by her in this way.
See if she is willing to talk through problems after a few days to calm dow... (read in full...)
We've just moved in together and it's me that's doing all the work! I can't move out, so what should I do?
Q. Hi, I just wondered if anyone has any advice...I've just moved in with my boyf, but we have been together three years. He doesnt do anything around the house. No cooking, cleaning, Nothing!!! I lend him my car to take to work every day, which cuts ...
A. 16 August 2009: He has to go, simple as that.
Your name on the lease, your deposit, he has to move out.
Ring the letting agent and ask what rights you have to get rid of him.
Don't worry, they will have had this a million times before. Our letting agen... (read in full...)
Am I falling out of love with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been dating my current boyfriend for four years. When we first started dating, I found him to be extremely handsome, intelligent, and funny. However, from the beginning, I did notice that he had a slight drinking problem, was prone to ...
A. 16 August 2009: It's common to fall out of love after 3 years or so. You still love the person, but you are no longer IN LOVE with them.
But unless they cheat or do something crazy like hit you, then you have no real REASON to split up with them to you stay wit... (read in full...)
Ingrow hairs painful and expensive!
Q. iv got a really big problem with ingrown hairs on my vagina i went to the doctor about two years ago with it and she basically said i cant do anything about it but change the way i remove my hair so i switched to waxing an this makes the hairs ...
A. 16 August 2009: The best thing you can do is stop removing the hair down there for a while.
Unless you are working in porn, you don't need to be shaved smooth. Just get a good pair of scissors and trim them short. You are SUPPOSED to have some hair down there.
... (read in full...)
He spat on my vagina to lubricate it! Now I don't want him to touch me!
Q. While making love, my vagina was a bit dry so my partner spat into my vagina to lubricate it. i feel so degraded by this i cannot bear him to touch me since. Am i over reacting?...
A. 16 August 2009: NO WAY IN HELL ARE YOU OVER REACTING!
And you'll notice many people who said you are, is staying anonymous and being unhelpful.
I would find that INCREDIBLY disrespectful, and I don't give a crap if it's "common in porn" LOTs of things are co... (read in full...)
Give him a chance or listen to what I've heard?
Q. Hello. i have been with my boyfriend for 3days now and people who have known him years and have past's with him say he will just use me for sex and that he will f**k me about and when he is out with his friends or drunk that he cant trust himself ...
A. 15 August 2009: I would give him a chance but don't have sex with him.
You are underage so if you don't want to and he buggers off them you know that's all he was after.
Go out with him but be very careful with your feelings and don't have sex with him till yo... (read in full...)
Tips on how to get my girl back
Q. Hi I've previously asked advice on how to get the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with back. I know the spark has gone for now but I believe I can reignite it. Has anybody any advice I dont want people to say move on etc I would appreciate ...
A. 15 August 2009: Well first off, she can probably smell your desperation and obsession with her a mile off and let me tell you, that is NOT attractive.
So first off stop being so clingy and figure out how you have changed from when you met her.
THAT was the ... (read in full...)
My father in law stinks and we don't like to visit anymore!
Q. Me and my husband visit my parents some weekends, his others, alternating in between with a weekend for our own quality time together. Whenever we go down to my husbands' parents, it's my husband's dad that causes concern - he emits a foul odo...
A. 15 August 2009: Why not arrange to meet them out somewhere rather than go to their house?
Invite them for lunch, offer to pop round and pick them up and tell them the table is booked for 1pm.
Your mum would probably love to get out and your dad can hardly s... (read in full...)
Relationship needing help big time please....
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend split up a little over 1 week ago we moved really fast some people said we were mad the first night we met she never left (moved in) she lived with me for a little over 3 months but I have fallen in love with her so much. ...
A. 15 August 2009: It will push her away, but that is the point, she'll realise what she's lost when she no longer has you to tell her she's pretty and be her free self esteem boost.
The stronger you are about this, the more she will respect it. Don't get into a y... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the semen to come back down and out?
Q. I have the implant, me and my boyfriend have both been for check-ups and we are both disease free! We have started having sex without a condom, I'm wondering if it's normal for the semen to come back down/out of me? It's abit messy sometimes and ge...
A. 14 August 2009: Yep, unfortunately, your vagina does not eat the sperm.
It's messy and you'll notice a nasty smell for the next couple of days as it all escapes.
Not using condoms only really has advantages for him, apart from not having the awkward putting ... (read in full...)
Perverts on the train!
Q. Hi Im 15 and everyday i go on this one crowded train to go to a main public place that me and my friends like to hang out. i am always on the train alone (because none of my friends live near me). One day i was wearing a skirt(it was a mini ski...
A. 14 August 2009: They have this problem in Japan so they have "female only carriages" there now.
Keep reporting it, keep letting them know it's a problem, and eventually something might change.
But for now, try to avoid crowded coaches, try and stand with your ... (read in full...)
How do I tell parents that my fiance and I split up?
Q. Me and my fiance split up 3 weeks ago after being together for just over 6 and a half years. all my family know apart from my sister and my parents, all his family know. My parents are away and have been since the middle of April and do not know ...
A. 14 August 2009: I had this with my first boyfriend. My parents really loved him, so I dreaded saying that we had gone back to being just friends.
When I finally did they said "Oh good. He was a lovely boy but not right for you."
So what I am saying is to jus... (read in full...)
I want the REAL deal!
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend (6 months dating) is talking about us moving out together in the near future. Us buying a home is a huge deal and commitment!! All this talk gets me ancy. But what about a ring on this finger?? I haven't told him yet, but I'm not ...
A. 14 August 2009: Just tell him, you don't think it's a good idea to move in with a guy before marriage.
Then you can compromise on maybe moving in after engagement if a wedding is in the planning stages.
Just tell him now so it's not a big deal, but he kno... (read in full...)
My husband seems to have taken a vacation from work just to sit around all day eating and watching porn!
Q. My husband has taken 6 weeks off work. Nothing odd about that you may think, after all we all have to have a holiday, don't we? Well, it's his behaviour that's worrying me. He just sits in front of the television eating nachos, corn c...
A. 14 August 2009: This doesn't add up at all to me and I'm pretty sure this is a fake question. What the hell are "corn chips"? You don't get those in England.
The answer how ever is to kick his bloody arse.
Cut the plug off the TV and tell him to sort himself ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to go out with someone you really like even though they might not be "the one"?
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl and haven't had a boyfriend yet. I'm not particularly worried about that...but I'm just a little confused at the moment. I've always thought that people should go out to build a steady and loving relationship rat...
A. 14 August 2009: If we all married the first boyfriend we had... well the suicide and divorce rate would be through the roof.
Of course you shouldn't be looking to find your soulmate at 16.
Go out with a boy who you like and yes, you may well fall in love wit... (read in full...)
Does looking at gay porn me I'm bisexual?
Q. I'm 23, and was in a relationship with a girl for 3 months until I broke up with her of my own volition 4 weeks ago. In the past few weeks I've been looking at gay porn (like Mr. Gay UK, Gay Times) and then I feel dirty afterwards, as I'm norma...
A. 14 August 2009: Sexuality is not a case of only having 3 options. You are not 100% into men / 100% into women / 50% of each.
Everyone is different.
If you a 99.9% into women, but like men 0.1% then that is fine. It doesn't mean you have to come out to your... (read in full...)
How do I show him I want to do stuff with him when we are alone?
Q. So there's this guy that I dont know if i like or not.. Its so frustrating.. Like he always wants to do stuff in public like when I hug him he always lifts up my shirt and grabs my ass and I just laugh and move his hand. But when we're alone in his ...
A. 14 August 2009: First off, if he's got a car then he shouldn't be messing with a young girl like you.
Secondly, if he's all over you in front of people, and not interested when he's alone, then he probably doesn't like you, he's just showing off that he's got... (read in full...)
Kissing with the tongue and can't get it right
Q. hello, i am a 15 year old girl. ive had a few boyfriends andwe do kiss (but they only stick their tounge in my mouth). recently(yesterday) i had a new boyfriend and i really want to stick my tounge into his mouth and "snog" but my tounge just wont ...
A. 14 August 2009: Sweetie, teenage boys seem to think that kissing is all about shoving as much of their tongue into your mouth as they can.
It's because their crazy hormones are telling them to stick some part of their body into a girl, so they go for it.
K... (read in full...)
I have done something I could regret for the rest of my life. Please help me.
Q. I know there are a million of these questions out there but i just want some advice for my situation. see I met this guy at a school dance 5 years ago in yr 8. It turned out that he caught my bus home from school every day and we got talking and i ...
A. 14 August 2009: No problem.
It's horrible when you like someone and they don't like you back. You can follow them around for years looking for some clue that they like you, or trying to change so you become what you think they want.
But you have to be stron... (read in full...)
Past is the past right? I'm concerned by the number of her sexual partners!
Q. Hi Ive been seeing a new partner for a few months now.. i did the old fashioned courting, but eventually the moment came to have sex. The night was fab..no problems there, but while lying there chatting.. the topic of how many partners we ha...
A. 14 August 2009: Even if all of them were drunk one night stands, that's only 1 a year assuming she lost her virginity at 18.
Or she could have had 23 1 year committed relationships.
Either way, she's hardly giving it out on a daily basis.
It's fine in my... (read in full...)
Please help me solve this relationship-friend problem! I don't know why they're against me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating almost two years. He is really close to his group of friends. His best friends wife recently launched an attack against me. She's made up all these lies about things I didn't say. She's had help from my boyfriends ...
A. 14 August 2009: This is a tough one.
You can't say "well it's them or me!!" and stop him from seeing them.
But at the same time, he should bloody well stand up for you!!
Tell him that you love him but will not be friends with people who spread lies about yo... (read in full...)
He said he was falling for me and then started flirting with my friend!
Q. Hey Everyone!..I need Help i have some boy troubles.. Okay,so i have been talking to this guy for the past month now, We are really close he tells me everything and i tell him everything too..He lives in America =/ and i live in ireland.. Well,...
A. 14 August 2009: Well you've learned the lesson that boys on the internet can say all kinds of things and never mean it because they know that it's not real.
It's just the internet. He's never going to meet you. Why should he be honest and honourable?
He's pl... (read in full...)
I have done something I could regret for the rest of my life. Please help me.
Q. I know there are a million of these questions out there but i just want some advice for my situation. see I met this guy at a school dance 5 years ago in yr 8. It turned out that he caught my bus home from school every day and we got talking and i ...
A. 14 August 2009: So basically you were FINALLY honest with him? You stopped lying and pretending to be just friends and you told him you liked him.
That sounds fair enough to me.
You can't go on hurting yourself when he clearly just wants you as a mate.
He... (read in full...)
Should I believe him? Or think hes a liar?
Q. Ok. Soo basically I was just lied to and fuckd with by a good friend of mine. He told me he's bi. Which I'm ok with. But someone... so my friend says txtd me from his phone telling me that he really like me and would've said yes if I asked him out. ...
A. 14 August 2009: He's playing games because he's a stupid teenage boy.
He's not man enough to actually be straight about his feelings.
So don't play his games. Just for get it. If he likes you then he can bloody well ask you out and be upfront about it.
Unt... (read in full...)
Naked photos of women on my boyfriends phone and lack of sex are making me think he is just not that into me!
Q. about 6 months ago I found a naked photo of my boyfriends ex wife in his phone. We had been together about 6 years at this stage. He told me it was an old photo from years ago but his phone was only new - so either it was a new photo or he had ...
A. 14 August 2009: Well I don't know how much you value yourself but I wouldn't put up with that.
Why stay with a man who doesn't want you?
If I were you I'd tell him I'm thinking we should break up. If he makes effort to save the relationship then great, if h... (read in full...)
Relationship needing help big time please....
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend split up a little over 1 week ago we moved really fast some people said we were mad the first night we met she never left (moved in) she lived with me for a little over 3 months but I have fallen in love with her so much. ...
A. 14 August 2009: I'll give you the same advice I give EVERYONE who wants to be more than sex-friends.
IT WILL NOT WORK.
She wants to go out and have sex with other men. She just wants to keep you around because she likes you and you are a good plan B in case s... (read in full...)
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