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writes:In the past I've had terrible luck with dating . I know I'm only 18, and it takes time.. Blah blah blah. But I've only had 4 boyfriends in my life. All for less then a month. Even counting silly relationships in middle school. Its not that I'm ugly or anything. In fact, I get regular compliments on my looks. But I am a little... Different. I'm not a typical girl. At all. I'm one of the "weird fashion art girls." if you can understand. So I don't really go for just.. Bros. And jocks. And adverage guys.. Anyways. Its my last year of high school, and ide really like to find somone this year to have my first REAL relationship with. How in general should I go about showing that I'm single and looking? I'm really shy about guys, no one else. So walking straight up to a guy and flirting doesn't really work for me.. I just. Don't know how to attract and guy. At all. How do I go about it?What in general makes a guy interested in dating a girl?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): Well first of all, I think it's a really good thing that you have some idea about the kind of GUY you DON'T want to date, so you know what you want in a way! There's confidence in knowing that you're not going to settle for just anyone, so my advice is don't settle, until you meet the lucky fella! Whoever he is I'm sure he'll appreciate that you're not a typical girl either!I have the same problem withapproaching girls and there is no easy answer to this one, but there is a truth, and that is you just have to get over your fear and approach guys! It's a numbers game really! You might not click with some guys but the more you talk to the more chance you have of meeting him! And you don't necessarily have to flirt with them either, just take it step by step and maybe try aiming for friendship first!Keep this in mind aswell, as cool as guys act they're probably just as nervous as you are when talking to someone new.What makes a guy interested in a girl?nice personality, good sense of humour, easy to be around, nice looks, confident in herself!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 July 2009):
Well unfortunately for you, guys your age who are intelligent etc (the ones you actually want) are pretty much USELESS at girls.
The only ones who will be confident enough to ask you out are the idiots... and they only want the blonde bimbos who are stupid enough to sleep with them and put up with them.
I found that NO ONE was interested in me at school no matter how hard I tried. I assumed there must be something wrong with me.
Then I went away to university and suddenly got the fright of my life because there were lots of intelligent alternative guys there, and once everyone got their confidence up from not being "the school geek" any more, they started coming on to me. It was terrifying!
So my advice is to put yourself in places where cool guys. who would go for a cool arty girl like you, hang out. Go to uni, go to art classes, go to writers places, bands etc.
Get out and find them and they will find you!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): I'm not at all certain what a weird fashion art girl looks like, be it tattoos or psychedelic coloured clothes or socks like AskOlderSister's!
Whatever, be very brave and remember, this won't kill you. Smile across the room at him first. Aim your smile straight at an imaginary target right between his eyes and don't avert your gaze when/if he smiles back. Then comes the body language. Uncross your legs. Lick your lips. You don't have to be TOO obvious about it but that ought to get the attention of your target. If he still looks as if he's on a different planet, pass him a piece of paper with your phone number on it along with a pen and a piece of paper for him to write his. The worst that could happen is if he writes 'Sorry - already taken'.
Get rid of the multi coloured 'cock block' socks.
(:o)
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