My dating problems seem to come from preferring to be alone
Q. I've been thinking a lot about my dating problems (as you do) and I think what it all boils down to is that I just like being on my own. Does anyone else feel like this too? I like being independent, cooking and shopping for myself and I even prefer ...
A. 3 September 2009: I feel the same as you. I will never ever understand these girls who put up with crap boyfriends rather than "being alone."
Being alone is great.
I can spend ages alone, but I do also like having one to ones with friends or being in a group... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I love him as a friend or more. How do I know?
Q. Im involved in a rather complicated situation. I have been frineds with this guy for 3 years almost now. He came into my life when I was going through a huge crisis. I was honestly about to have a break down. And he came in, and was there for me...
A. 3 September 2009: Clearly he loves you but has got so far into the friend zone that he thinks you are not interested so is desperately trying to play it cool so he doesn't lose you all together.
If you love him then tell him. It doesn't have to be big and dramatic... (read in full...)
I don't want to disown my friend but his obsession with this girl is driving me mad!
Q. Hi, My friend has been obsessed with a girl he's fancied since 6th form. He's now 21 and insists he's in love with her despite not seeing her in over 2 years. He and the girl were never an item and were barely even friends then, let alone now. W...
A. 3 September 2009: Oh no, that's even worse.
Your best bet is to say that she might be interested in him if he got a life, was interesting when it came to having conversations and was less obsessive.
Tell him to move out and get a wider view on life.
Point o... (read in full...)
I don't want to disown my friend but his obsession with this girl is driving me mad!
Q. Hi, My friend has been obsessed with a girl he's fancied since 6th form. He's now 21 and insists he's in love with her despite not seeing her in over 2 years. He and the girl were never an item and were barely even friends then, let alone now. W...
A. 2 September 2009: Well has he tried things like TALKING to her, or asking her out?
I think you should just tell him that you are sick of hearing about it all the time. Tell him plain and simple that it will NEVER EVER happen for one single reason:
He doesn't ha... (read in full...)
Where do I fit in with him?
Q. I dont get it.... There's this guy who asked me out and asked was I single etc... I said I was and he met up with me. I knew him just from being in a club I'm a member of. He obviously took a shine to me. He then tells me he has a gf away he had i...
A. 2 September 2009: Yep, tell him to tell his girlfriend about it.
I know you really like him but remember that if he is capable of cheating on her then chances are he'll do the same to you.
He either has to split up with his girlfriend by the end of the week, or ... (read in full...)
Should I end my relationship now I know that my partner would leave me if I couldnt have children?
Q. My boyfriend (we've been together 4 years) has started mentioning having children together. I am not sure at this stage as we have spent little time together over the last year as he emigrated. As I am due to move out to be with him next month the ...
A. 1 September 2009: It sounds like he was being hypothetical.
He said "IF I was hell bent."
Some people want kids, some don't mind either way, and some people do not want any at all.
We've had women on here who've felt incomplete without a child and been... (read in full...)
Why has my bf started calling me by my surname?? I find it a little odd!
Q. my boyfriend has started calling me by my surname - like 'alright smith' - just think its a little funny - what does that mean?! ...
A. 1 September 2009: He's just playing, taking the micky and being friendly.
If you are so insecure about your relationship that you have to come to problem pages hunting for deeper meaning in something this small then I think you need to take a look in the mirror a... (read in full...)
Where do I fit in with him?
Q. I dont get it.... There's this guy who asked me out and asked was I single etc... I said I was and he met up with me. I knew him just from being in a club I'm a member of. He obviously took a shine to me. He then tells me he has a gf away he had i...
A. 1 September 2009: Yey!!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Virginity and how can I make my body more ready for sex
Q. ok so i am in need of advice.i'm a virgin and last night i tryed having sex for the first time.i've been wearing tampons for two months now, so obviously it's broken.but when we started to have sex, my hymen was stretching and i could feel it, but ...
A. 1 September 2009: Glad to hear it.
I stuck to foreplay with my first serious boyfriend for months before we actually had sex and it didn't hurt at all when it came to the big event.
I'd rather lose my virginity in a pain free way and have a happy memory tha... (read in full...)
I don't want a thrillsome threesome with my friend!
Q. Me and my bf has been talking about haveing a three some...and i was okk with it so i also have a gf I'm biisexual and my gf was my bestfriend 1st soo now my bf is talking about haveing a three some with her i don't feel rite with him haveing sex ...
A. 31 August 2009: Well hang on, he has to know that you have sex with someone else all the time!
Just because you are bi sexual doesn't mean you can keep 2 people perfectly happy.
He is probably very jealous of your girlfriend and so wants in on that relationshi... (read in full...)
Something seems to be missing in our relaitonship and I keep picking fights with her!
Q. I have been going out with a girl for nearly 6 months now and we were getting on great until about 3 weeks ago. I havent fallen out of love with her and still find as attractive as ever but something seems to be missing from our relationship. I find ...
A. 31 August 2009: Well first off you need to buy a pack of condoms and STOP trying for a baby.
Do you really think this is a good relationship for a child to be born into? Do you really want to be a part time weekend dad hearing about how "mum's new boyfrien... (read in full...)
I'm 46 and want to be more than a girlfriend!
Q. I am not a young woman, I'm a 46 year old who has been dating a 52 year old man for 3 years now. I'm divorced and his wife passed away. I want marriage but he doesn't. I have an 18 year old son who lives with me and my boyfriend wants to wait til ...
A. 31 August 2009: Well this is a big decision and to be honest you can't ask strangers on the internet to make it for you.
You can:
a) stay with him and accept he may NEVER want to commit to you
b) leave and be alone for a while but have the possibility of ... (read in full...)
Marriage-I wake up every morning thinking I made a big mistake
Q. Hi everyone, OK - here is my question. I've been married for two years -- through the engagement, I thought about breaking things off multiple times. Now I wake up almost every morning thinking: I made a big mistake. There are several probl...
A. 31 August 2009: You owe her a chance of trying to make things work.
Tell her you want to go to counselling and then be completely honest. Even if it means telling her you've fallen out of love with her.
Give it a go and put some real serious effort into tryi... (read in full...)
Ladies preferences on men: Hairy? Or Not?
Q. This question has probably been asked before but anyway here goes: Ladies; do you prefer your man, lover, partner, FWB, to be: A) Hairy B) Slightly Hairy C) Shaved D) Completely waxed and hairless all over including BCS....
A. 31 August 2009: This question is about the same as:
Guys, what's your favourite eye shadow colour on a girl??
I prefer a bit of hair, I had one friend who found any hair at all horrible, and I had one friend who only went for really hairy guys with shaved head... (read in full...)
When in a relationship do people usually hit third base?
Q. I am a 17 year old girl, with an 18 year old boyfriend. (Canada) We've been going out for three months, and we hit 2nd base a while back. He started testing for 3rd, like carressing upper thigh, butt, etc. But he made sure I knew he'd never do ...
A. 31 August 2009: It's different for everyone depending on how they were brought up and their culture.
Your best bet is talk to your friends about this. Find out how they would act in your place.
As long as you feel ready and are committed to him then it's fi... (read in full...)
What's the best way to break the ice in an email?
Q. There is this women at work who is probably 15 years older me but she is kind of sexy. I only see her about once a month but due to work we send emails every day. What is the best way to start flirting with her or let her know I am interested? Every ...
A. 31 August 2009: You just have to slip something really small in there.
"It'll be great to see you again!" is something you could say to your mum so hardly creepy.
Then next time you see her, pay her a compliment. Notice details like if she's done her hair up... (read in full...)
We broke up because her mom doesn't give her much freedom... is there any way of getting her back?
Q. I wanna knw wat can i do to get back wit my ex? Its cause the reason she broke up wit me is cause of her mom. She would barley let her go out and we would barley see each other.But her mom said that she would have to meet me in person to see if i ...
A. 31 August 2009: You keep trying. You call her mum up and ask her what day it's convenient to go round.
Make a date and then turn up with a big bunch of flowers for her (the mum) and a rose for your girl.
Dress smart and be SUPER polite and respectful. Talk... (read in full...)
Virginity and how can I make my body more ready for sex
Q. ok so i am in need of advice.i'm a virgin and last night i tryed having sex for the first time.i've been wearing tampons for two months now, so obviously it's broken.but when we started to have sex, my hymen was stretching and i could feel it, but ...
A. 31 August 2009: Using tampons won't destroy your hymen. They'll just knock it a bit. ESPECIALLY if you've only been using them for a couple of months.
What you need to do is stop trying to have sex, and just work on all the other stuff. Fingering, oral, stuff li... (read in full...)
He's snapping and yelling at me for no reason!
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 5 years now. I recently moved into my boyfriends house. Its been pretty good with a few exceptions. He's been snapping at me alot. I told him I do not appreciate the way he is treating me yet he continues ...
A. 31 August 2009: You've talked to him about it and he's done nothing. So now you do the next step.
You move out for a while. Go and visit family, stay with a friend. Just a temporary thing because you being there obviously isn't helping to improve his mood.
... (read in full...)
We want to move in together, but her family doesn't approve, what should I do?
Q. I am 17 yrs 0lder than my girlfriend, At first we were freinds for about 10yrs. And now have feelings for each other. She wants to move in with me which is OK. but when she told her mum her mum is dead against it and so is most of her family. ...
A. 31 August 2009: Why move in together straight away?
It's no wonder they are against it. I wouldn't be happy if my daughter started having feelings for someone and then suddenly wanted to shack up with him. Putting your name on bills with a guy is a very big step... (read in full...)
This will be the first time I have sex, and I'm worried he'll compare me to other girls!
Q. ok before i ask this i want to make it clear tht i dont want ppl to tell me not to do this coz i already made up my mind, id just realy appreciate the advice :) basically me and my best guy friend have agreed to have sex, hes had sex befre but i ...
A. 31 August 2009: Well he's probably thinking you're a slut anyway, so why are you worried about how he will compare you?
You've never even let a guy finger you yet you are going to have full sex with some guy you aren't even going out with.
Read that bac... (read in full...)
New relationship, what should our conversations be based upon?
Q. To begin with.let me say i'm a guy who just got into a new relationship.i need advice on how to begin,i.e d type of conversation we should start having.cos any time we talk,she always wants to hear more from me.so i just nid to know what our ...
A. 31 August 2009: Just ask her questions!
Get her talking about her self and her experiences so you can get to know her!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Two people deleted me from their Facebook, am I not cool enough, how do I get over this?
Q. two people deleted me from my facebook. I never really talked to them but I don't understand why they would do that. It really hurt my feelings. How do get over this?? I feel like i'm not cool enough for them. It affected my self esteem ...
A. 31 August 2009: It's just face book!
I have friend culls all the time. I realised I had a lot of people who could see a lot of personal stuff about me. We never spoke, I didn't care about what they were posting as updates, I got sick of their quizzes, and I ju... (read in full...)
I sometimes give him head - will it affect our friendship?
Q. Ok so ill give a lil bit of our history to this day so you can see whats going on.... We met in high school year 9.. and i had a lil bit of a crush on him when we became friends.. used to talk all the time.. He left at the end of year 10 and had a ...
A. 31 August 2009: What's happening is that he's messing you about.
He doesn't know how he feels. That's fair enough.
But he knows how you feel so when ever you get sexual with him, he knows deep down that he's using you. You ask why he does this? Simple. FR... (read in full...)
Where do I fit in with him?
Q. I dont get it.... There's this guy who asked me out and asked was I single etc... I said I was and he met up with me. I knew him just from being in a club I'm a member of. He obviously took a shine to me. He then tells me he has a gf away he had i...
A. 31 August 2009: Right, he needs to get this sorted.
He clearly hasn't got the balls to sort it so if you want him for yourself then you have to get tough.
Tell him that you think he's great and you really really like him, but you can't just be his friend and y... (read in full...)
Parenting advice for handling certain situations
Q. I am planning to be a father soon, and I just wanted to get your opinions on how I should handle certain situations, should they rise. They are: 1. If I caught my son or daughter experimenting with the same gender, how should I go about handling t...
A. 30 August 2009: If you are planning to start being a dad soon then you will have 10 to 15 years to figure this out.
Look at how much society has changed in the last 10 years and imagine how it will be then!
It's like worrying about how you would react if y... (read in full...)
Ideas for our three month anniversary
Q. My girlfriend and I are approacing our 3 months tomorrow, and these 'milestones' so to say are important to us. I was wondering what I could to to show that it means alot to me if I cant see her because of school and the like. For our 2 month I ...
A. 30 August 2009: Well you don't give a budget or any kind of clues as to what she likes so I'm going to suggest: A locket A sports car A meal out in a nice restaurant Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I get over the break up, when he is so happy without me
Q. I have just been wondering about breaking up and how both partners feels toward it I broke up with my friend a month ago and I still feel pain in my heart until the moment We were happy and he decide to break up , I accepted that he doesn’...
A. 30 August 2009: Right, you clearly need to talk to him.
Call him up and say that you accept his decision and you are glad he's happy but you are still unclear to what went wrong and would like a friendly chat just to talk things through.
Make it clear you are... (read in full...)
Why did this happen and why did I taste like that?
Q. Heey. I'm 16 years of age. Yesterday my boyfriend (who's 17) and myself, had sex yesterday (doggy style)..now..after that we did the 69..i sucked him off as usual and he fingered and licked me out as usual...BUT! when he was fingering me...
A. 30 August 2009: First off, how does he know what pee tastes like?
Gosh, he's a real gentleman isn't he? He knows how to spare your feelings and not act like a 4 year old..... oh no wait.
At different times of the month you will taste and smell different.
Di... (read in full...)
Should I tell my female teacher how I feel?
Q. I'm a female and I'm in love with a female teacher.She got me thinking am I bi or lesbian? Ever since I've been her teachers aid , I know we had a connection.She likes when I'm around and I visited her a lot.I'm 18 and she's 27. I graduated ...
A. 30 August 2009: Unless you are never going to see her again, I would advise you wait a good long while.
If you have to work together and she rejects you then it's going to be awkward in the extreme.
You could always drop a couple of hints that you like girls a... (read in full...)
Me and this man started dating, and then he broke it off by saying he wasn't ready for a relationship, but wants to be friends. Where should I go from here?
Q. I had a great date with a guy and he asked me out on a second date. We didn't kiss after the first date. The second date however was to take three weeks later as he was going away on business. He said he'd keep in touch but I didn't think he would. ...
A. 29 August 2009: What happened here is that he's an idiot.
You may not believe in the excuses but he obviously does.
What you do is accept that this is truly his loss and you move on.
There is a chance he'll come round and realise what he's throwing away ... (read in full...)
Can I just delete him off facebook, its hard to get over him!
Q. i was seeing this guy over summer. I didnt want to just come across as an easy to get with girl, even though i was sexually active with him. So ive talked to him about taking it more seriously, or we're done. he said he needed more time very time. i ...
A. 29 August 2009: Sounds like he was just too immature to deal with a real life girlfriend.
Any boy will do sexual stuff with you, but it doesn't mean he's actually ready to be someone's boyfriend. He's just a little boy.
This is why you always WAIT and date a ... (read in full...)
Will age decide for me?
Q. i am 16 years old and i am curently in a relationship with a 23 year old. most of my friends tell me to leav him becouse of the age differance, but him and i get along very well, our relationship isnt sexual but becouse of his age we bouth runn risk ...
A. 29 August 2009: Well if you want to risk him getting arrested and basically just be friends for the next few years then carry on.
If you care about him then you could just be friends with him and not run the risk.
If it's meant to be then it's going to be.
... (read in full...)
How can I casually start talking to a guy I really like?!
Q. Theres this boy i like at my school, Im a freshman in highschool, his locker is 2 dowwn from mine, we stare at eachother alot, i always come close to talking to him but i dont have the guts, whenever where in the hallway walking past eachother ...
A. 29 August 2009: Well next time he's by his locker and you are at yours and you look at eachother, just smile at him, and then go off.
Then next time, smile at him and say "Hi" in a friendly polite way, and if he says hi back and starts talking to you then tha... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be in love with someone even though you're not in a relationship with them?
Q. is it possible to be in love with someone even though you"re not in a relationship with them?! ...
A. 29 August 2009: If you are close to them, and know them, and spend lots of time with them, then it's very possible to fall for them.
However, it's also a very very stupid idea.
Either make a move and get together with them, or if that is not going to happen ... (read in full...)
Should I have broken up with him? And should I try and get back with him now?
Q. I had been dating him for 3 months, not that long for many people, but it is for me. I have never been dumped before, why? Because in all truth I'm afraid of getting attached and suddenly finding myself needing him every second, but at the same time ...
A. 29 August 2009: Ok, you are 16 to 17 and you are feeling the whole adult "falling for someone" sensation and Yes it's hella scary.
It's like a really huge rollercoaster and many people don't ever get over how scary it can be, even though they do enjoy the mass... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a guy to not look at other women when he's in love with his girlfriend?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has been telling me all along that he never looks at other women, and has no interest in anyone but me. I never asked him not to, or expressed a desire either way but he believes it is so fundamental in his beliefs that ...
A. 29 August 2009: Bloody hell woman. How hard is it for you to believe that this guy actually loves you?
If you have gone on and on and on and on about this to the point where he's dumped you for it, then it means one of 2 things.
1. You have such low self e... (read in full...)
What does it mean when your ex wants to sleep with you still, even though he has a new girlfriend?
Q. What does it mean when ur ex wants to shag u and always takes the piss and speaks to u still on the phone? Mates say that there is still something there between us but im not so sure he has a new girlfriend now Any advice sammie. xxxxx...
A. 29 August 2009: Just because you don't want to be with someone doesn't mean you don't find them attractive.
He sees you in the same way he sees Jodie Marsh. Good for a quick shag but not worth putting effort into.
He thinks you are easy and will probably ha... (read in full...)
Is 2 weeks of dating too soon to express my concerns about his facebook?
Q. I am seeing a guy i met on the internet, he has many female friends on facebook who are younger and prettier than me. I am jelous of this, and wonder why he needs to flirt with them? I dont know if hes met any of them. We have only been together for ...
A. 29 August 2009: It sounds like he's used to being single and is just a bit of a flirty guy.
Some people can watch their partner flirt, knowing it's just a laugh... many people can't handle it as their jealousy just kicks in.
I think it's best off to get this ... (read in full...)
He won't let me break up with him
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for five years and we have lived together for the last two years. He is generally a nice guy, but I am certain that I want to break up with him. I am not really enjoying the relationship as I feel I should be, we are ...
A. 29 August 2009: You don't need his permission to break up with him. It doesn't require a long discussion either.
Just tell him. "I'm moving out."
And then do it! You know you aren't happy and I can tell you are going to feel so much better without him in y... (read in full...)
Should I consider my wife holding another man's hand as cheating?
Q. I asked a question a few weeks ago regarding staying in my marriage. Well, a new development has happened. In talking with my wife she felt it "necessary" to tell me that on a business trip about 4 years ago she had too much to drink with a male ...
A. 26 August 2009: It sounds perfectly plausible to me that nothing more happened.
Remember that we girls are all about the emotion. We don't need to kiss or have sex to consider it cheating.
She obviously got too close to this guy and had feelings at the ... (read in full...)
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