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writes:Right big problem!im 17, 18 at the start of next year.I used to watch porn ALOT! i went threw a big phase , was totally addicted.I fele so dirty about it now, becuase i feel liek its a man thing, even though i know other women do it. Ive doen some reseach 66% of women do it, and to eb fair, ive got all these hormones and stuff, going on.My friend had a dildo, so she might not watch porn but still results in the saame thing.My phase weared out when i had sex a few months ago with this guy (dont know why, ive had sex before with other people)But i dont feel the need to do it anymore, or want to i feel horrid about it all :(The problem??My laptop/computer obviously still have the information on the hard drive which cant be premtanlly removed, I normally have computer problems and its only a matter of time before something goes wrong with ym hard drive and it needs restoring. Resulting in these searches being dispplayed :(If i take it to the shop, no sweat, they cant say anything.But my mums mate is a wizz at computers and he normally fixs things, If it ever happens shoudl i just be straight with my mum before hand, and explain.I know she would eb digsuted she doesnt like it, and i think she'd be dissapointed.But if her mate was to see them, he would question me about it, and tell her.Should i tell her first, in a matture manner and just explain i went through aphase and i dont want her to think abd of me or hate me for it becuase i dont do it anymore? we are quite close so hopefulyl she wouldnt hate me forever :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): its not only 'a mans thing'.countless women enjoy porn. nd your mother? who cares you are an adult.and as for the religious babble if it turns up?straight over your head as it a load of strudel.
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reader, PrincessSmithee +, writes (8 August 2009):
PrincessSmithee is verified as being by the original poster of the question thankyou, i guess i am nearly 18.
Same my mum has regelious views, and would be digusted.
Im also religious which makes it worse but i changed what i was doing so its ok.
I guess il just be embrassed if she finds out, but thanks, im normal. and il tell her that im normal.
wish me luck xxx
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reader, young and opinionated  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 Hey! i am a girl and i watch porn.My mum is really religious and would be disgusted.But if she found out, i would just be frank and open with her because i no longer feel embarrassed about doing something that is normal.I suggest you don't tell you mum.but if she finds out, she finds out. No big deal. Just tell her you were curious. Rifraf is right, your nearly 18 girl!Don't worry about it! Your normal. Remember that.
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reader, busy04  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 You know you went through a phase, and you say you're over it...so what's the big deal? You're not a little kid anymore: 18-21 is an adult, so who cares what anyone thinks about you watching what you watched. You were young, hormones taking over and etc. Maybe you should tell your mom, what's the worst she can do? Really, think about it! It's normal to look at porn you aren't the only person in the world that has watched it and it would honestly look better if you told your mother yourself rather than having her find out from her friend. You don't have to lose sleep or stress out over something as simple as this, you did not commit a crime!
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reader, PrincessSmithee +, writes (8 August 2009):
PrincessSmithee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy mums mate is so noisey and saracastic, he deffintley will tell her, i know what hes like :(
aw im so stressed, i cant stop worrying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): Whatever you do DON'T tell your mum. Why would she want to know? There's nothing wrong with women watching porn but some things are best kept to yourself. Like Emilysanswers says, delete your search history and leave it at that. Even if your mum's friend finds traces on your harddrive he/she is unlikely to tell your mum and risk stirring things up between you
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reader, wherestheinstructions? +, writes (8 August 2009):
Google CCLeaner (crap cleaner)It's a free program that you can safely run that will clean up all of the usage tracks and history normally available.It will probably speed up your system a bit too. Just use the default settings.Also Google Malwarebytes Anti-Malware - download it and this will get rid of a lot of the viruses and trojans that are installed by porn sites and result in all kinds of popup ads and suchlike. This is also a free program.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 August 2009):
If you have computer problems a lot it's because you don't know how to do basic maintainance.
Find out how to:
Do a scan disk, defragment, delete your history, delete your cookies, delete your saved searches, empty your recycle bin, delete your temporary files and offline webpages.
Google these things and then do them once in a while.
That way you are less likely to have problems, and also, your hand disk won't have this stuff on it. (unless they forensically go through it with specialist software like the police do, and unless you've been looking at REALLY dodgy porn I doubt that will happen.)
Even if he does have to restore your system, why would he go through and look at all the thousands and thousands of webpages you go on, and then tell your mum about the funny stuff?
Don't tell your mum, the chances of you finding out are TINY. It will just cause problems.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): I doubt she would hate you, just for doing that. It's quite normal so I wouldn't worry. I think it would be best for you to tell your Mum anyway as I'm sure she'd prefer to here it from you than from her friend. That would probably make her more angry/upset. Explain how it's not exactly abnormal for people to do it and hopefully she will understand. Good luck.
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