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*helleburyfcgirlxx
writes:I'm 16, and my parents want me to marry this much older man and have children with him.He's 49, has had 2 heart attacks and has no children, and is very wealthy. They tell me he's very wealthy from working in the business world and runs a lorry firm.I'm doing my GCSE's and shouldn't have to worry about such things. Also, I prefer a guy in the sixth-form who is a good friend of mine to him.My parents are insistent I should marry him - particularly my dad, as he came from a large family himself.When we were down at my gran's, I told her in confidence about this and she was horrified! She said she would give my mum an ear-bashing about it.My grandad was also disgusted too.I tried to tell my parents that this was a sick idea, but they're insistent I should marry him as soon as I can (before I turn 18), and get pregnant NOW!I just want to get on with my studies, enjoy life, and enjoy studying, life and socialising.My parents just think the whole idea is a meal ticket to get a comfortable lifestyle for them.I've tried and tried to convince them this is bad, but they accuse me of being defiant, petulant and a "spoilt brat!".The idea of marrying this much older man sickens me, and I've told them so.Now they're threatening to ground me apart from school unless I marry him.School feels like an escape - how do I get away from this situation and get on with my life?Please help me. I just feel so upset a lot of the time, like I want to cry a lot, due to my parents' odd ideas.Michelle
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 Forced marriages are illegal in england. If this is serious and simply putting your foot down is not going to stop it you need to go to the police.
For now, since your grandparents are against it, use them as support.
But if your parents persist in this idea, I would seriously consider getting outsiders involved to have them stopped and remove yourself from their influence.
The entire idea is sick and has no place in a western country. Forced marriages are common among immigrant families but (as has been in the news) western goverments are trying to put a stop to this and enpower the childeren involved to escape and make their own choices.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 August 2009):
[nb. I think our resident faker is back. But this question is still relevant to people so I will give an answer anyway.]
Forced marriage is illegal in this country.
It doesn't matter your religion or anything, they can still be prosecuted.
Tell someone about it. A teacher or social services.
Or you can report them to this website and there is a phone number.
http://www.fco.gov.uk/en/fco-in-action/nationals/forced-marriage-unit/
They can't stop you from going to school and at school there are people with mobiles and phoneboxes.
You can get help.
Good Luck!! xx
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