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writes:i'm 20 years old and right now i feel ruined!i know it's my fault i shouldn't have been so stupid. i met a guy on the net! worst mistake of my life. we had an internet thing going on. we texted talked on the phone etc but we never met. i talked to him for 2 years i don't know why but i just didn't want to meet him.so i ended it we decided to stay friends, but then that didn't pan out so i would ignore him and say i don't think we should be friends then he'd kick off and be really spiteful by texts. this over the months got worse and worse! so bad he actually threatened me. he used my insecurities against me by calling me a fat see you next tuesday or a fat t**t told me to kill myself and join my mum as she died when i was young.i've gotten a new phone now so he's not got my number he emailed me on my account threatening me and told me to rot in hell with my mother. i told him i had a boyfriend (a lie) but i was hoping he'd stop texting me but he didn't he kept telling me he hopes this guy dies and he hopes he dies in front of me. he even told me he deleted my number but he constantly text mewhat people don't get is IF i ignore him he just floods me with calls and texts if i'm his friend he leaves it! but after everything he's said to me i can't do that! he brought my mother into this and there was no need too! he's a sick b******this is all because i didn't want to be his friend and ignored him i've kept the abusive texts and emails and also changed my email account to stop him contact me. hopefully it'll work i told my dad in the end and i was in tears because of what he said. he is all mouth in texts but when it comes to voice contact he won't tell me what he thinks where as i would. my dad is an ex policeman so he has friends in the police we discussed this and he said i should leave it a few weeks and IF he contacts me someway we'll go straight to the police and get him arrested.last night i went to the gym but i started to get paranoia i suffered from this in college and thankfully overcome it but i felt self conscious going into the gym and it's a gym i know they wouldn't be like that because we're all there to keep fit.and when i got home on my msn account i had 3 emails i was so scared that it was him. i'm living in fear that he'll contact me! i tried so hard to sort this alone and i failed i'm glad i've told my dad but i'm still afraid. can someone give me friendly advice?sorry it's so long
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks hun :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 August 2009):
Of course he's going to say they won't do anything because he doesn't want you to ring them.
He's a knob, and you shouldn't be a scared little girl. You have the power here, so move on and ignore it.
He won't dare to do anything in real life, you even proved that to his face on the phone.
If you are worried then call into a police station and ask about how you go about getting a restraining order. Then if you ever even see him on the street you can have him removed.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you both :)
i've got a new number now and new email account and slightly changed my name on my facebook to stop him having contact with me.
i told him before i'd ge the police involved but he said they wouldn't do anything because i've got nothing on him.
but now i've got the texts he's sent recently probably trying to send more but i've taken my sim out and gotten a whole new phone and forwarded the emails to my new account and shut the old one down.
i just feel scared that he may actually do something.
he is a coward you're right he had called me last week sometime and i answered to find out what he had to say he was all nice like "how come you've not replied to my texts?" i was like "because you told me to kill myself and join my mum" he was like "why you being a moody cow for?" i was like "BECAUSE YOU TOLD ME TO KILL MYSELF AND JOIN MY MUM EVEN THOUGH YOU KNOW IT'S HER BRITHDAY",and said "you're all mouth in text but you won't tell me it on the phone" he said yeah i will so i said go on then! and all he could say was OH PISS OFF! and hung up.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 August 2009):
It is illegal to threaten harm in the UK.
Tell him that you have kept a record of all his texts and emails and a solicitor friend has advised you that there is enough there to get the police to prosecute him for harassment.
Tell him that if he EVER contacts you again you will go to the police and will make it very clear that you will do media interviews after the trial so the papers will name and shame him as soon as the guilty verdict comes in.
He has far far far far more to lose here than you.
No employer will touch him when they put his name into google and it pops up with the fact he threatened and harassed an ex girlfriend.
This is not a big thing. You know he's all mouth so simply tell him that you will not put up with it any more and if he sends another text or email he will have the police at his door the next day.
Good Luck!! xx
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