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writes:Hi there, my name is Kayla. I've become very concerned about my husband recently, he seems to be yo-yo dieting, and constantly binging on food, then only eating very little some weeks.He does drink a LOT of Diet Coke; I don't buy it when we go shopping but he somehow manages to get it.I have tried to help him, find out why he's doing it but he won't give me an answer, just stonewalls me.He cooks for himself, and won't eat anything I've cooked as he said it's "bad for the diet".What diet? His yo-yo eating habits make me worried so much.He won't go to a doctor, claiming that they're quacks, but I want him to be alive - I love him.I thought yo-yo dieting was associated with models, not macho men like my husband (believe me, he is macho, despite the yo-yo dieting thing!)What can I do? Discussion got nowhere, so now I'm back to square one, and need help!Please help me, this is causing me stress and strain and I can't cope... I want to get out of this situation but feel like there's no exit. Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (6 August 2009):
 If he needs to lose some weight, then he needs to consult a professional. If he won't see a doctor, insist that he talk to a trainer at a gym.The only effective way to lose weight (and keep it off) is to eat less, excercise more, and do it forever. There are no tricks or secrets, it's simple math. He needs to eat fruits, vegetables, chicken, things like that... and he needs to EXERCISE. I like Emily's idea. You need to be direct about this, because it involves his health. Tell him that you're not going to just stand there and let him wreck his health.Show him this column and INSIST he read what the aunts here have written. I have a story to share with him... I know someone who nearly died from dieting improperly. This person, instead of going to a trainer or a doctor, just put himself on a starvation diet, barely ate anything at all, didn't (to my knowledge) exercise, and became very sick, had to be hospitalized, and nearly died. The only way to lose weight safely is to eat healthy and exercise, and you need to tell him so!! Period. Your husband is showing an obscenely poor lack of judgement and he needs someone to talk some sense into him! Show him this column, and show him my story. Tell him that you don't want him to die, and perhaps my story will open up his eyes to the fact that he could kill himself. Good luck,S
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 August 2009):
You have to FORCE him to take a look at what he's doing. Take a dramatic step.
Tell him you won't be married to a man who is going to die within a few years. He can kill himself with his stupid eating disorder style diets but you don't have to watch.
The head to your mum's or a friend's place for a few days.
He needs to see you are serious about how worried you are.
Good Luck!! xx
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