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writes:i really need help i am a victim of this "sexting" and i have been for the past 3 months i hate it and i regret doing it i did it coz my bf wanted a pic of me nd he sed he wld never ever show any1 but when we split up he sent it 2 his mates it was round the whole school,peopl would edit it to make it worse. When my mate reported me to my teacher because i was gettin bullied n she was worried about me,my teacher said she would tlk to me about it bt she ddnt she jst had a conversation with the whole year about it i felt as if everyone was against me im still scared i dont know what to do please help me get thru
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): wow, you are really having one big experience. i probably cant imagine how it feels, but honetly, i really want you to go through it with your head high. Regretting is fine, but dont beat yourself up for it cos its done and you cant do anything about it. My advice: dont bother anymore. DOnt care what people say, think or anything, cos after this phase your probably never gonna meet most of them again so it doesnt really matter what they think. But rememebr this, everything is temporary. people will come and go, dont do things that you may regret ahead.
have you spoken to this stupid insensitive guy? yelled at him, told him how you feel and how ashamed you are of him? he needs to know. It needs to hit his conscience. YOu dont deserve this, a msitake is a mistake, it can be corrected by not repeating it again.
if the teacher din talk to you about it, you go talk to her. TEll her that you want to hear what she ahs to say about what has happened, it may help. Update us on what happens..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all advice i do hope i will die dwn i do try to make a joke it bt i dnt think its working it has taught me a lesson well a big actually
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 August 2009):
Gosh this is certainly topical.
Luckily there is information on every radio station today. Check out the radio 1 page and see if that has any useful info.
All you can really do is keep your head up and carry on. You will get stronger if you just keep your head up, and try hard not to let it bother you.
You'll know never to do this again. We all make mistakes, but you learn from them and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 August 2009):
 You should read the bbc website today, there are lots of tips on how to deal with the situation. There are two things to learn from this: never sent private photos to anyone and develop the self-esteem to say NO to anyone who wants you to do something you are uncomfortable with. If you are under 18, you could threaten your ex with reporting him to the police since it is illegal to distribute pictures of a pornographic nature where the subject is a minor. You could also approach the school counsellor or Head of Year to report the bullying - schools are obliged to act on complaints.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): this same thing happened at my school. i would say the biggest mistake of the whole thing was blowing it out of proportion. (our vice principal called the police, yours had a class meeting) either way. it just makes it even more of a gossip. Since this already has occured the best option is to hold your head high and ignore the things being said. eventually it will die down and people will stop talking about it. yours was only a picture. the girl at my school had two VIDEOS going around. and no body cares enough to talk about it any more. sure there are references from time to time, but everyone still treats her the same and are still friends. maybe, if possible, you can make some sort of joke out of it. if it doesn't bother you. it will fade even sooner. just keep your head up!
good luck!
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