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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years (lived together for 1.5 years). I am 28 and he is 30. I am ready to get married and start a family. He says I am his soul mate and says he wants to be with me forever. However, we have never really discussed marriage and he says things like "if" we have kids. I do not doubt his feelings for me, but what is he waiting for? I want him to propose. I wonder if I should bring it up (and how) so he knows I'm serious about it and to get him thinking about it or just wait for him to do/say something...?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (6 August 2009):
Ah this is a game that women have played for hundreds of years.
It's easy. You simply take him past jewellery shops, and start pointing out rings. Nothing too obvious, just little comments. "I wouldn't like just diamonds for an engagement ring. I've always loved emeralds as well. What do you like?"
NOTE: AN engagement ring, A ring. Not our ring, or THE ring.
Pause and sigh when you see a nice wedding dress. Ask his opinion on flowers and churches.
You are finding out his views on things which will mean wedding planning is easier.
It's the same with kids. It's all hypothetical. "I'd like to have 2 kids by the time I'm 35." is not saying that he has to be the dad... it's just telling him where you stand.
Hint and hint, and if there is no ring by this time next year then tell him that you love him but want a family one day and if he hasn't proposed now he never will. Then disappear to your mum's for a week and he'll be there with a ring within days.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): why don't you propose or bring up marriage suttley and express that you feel it was time you guys got settled down.
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