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writes: I'm worrying that this new guy I've been dating for 2 months is taking advantage of me or somehow expecting me to behave like I'm chasing Him which is SO NOT happening, ...for example, I got sooo lost trying to visit him where he lives (4 hours when it's like a 2 hr trip) and he still expected me to go today to visit him! I told him I wouldn't be able to go...I don't know what he got used to in his other relationships, but he's almost 10 years older than me and should be more chivalrous than that...he also expects me to drive him around when he comes to visit me because of his gas and he has an old car, but I have an old car too and I don't have a job to afford gas money all the time either. It seems like he's too broke to be in a relationship...I'm thinking of telling him we should just be friends, but I'm already starting to kind of like him, a little used to his phone calls and attention, and he asked me to be his girlfriend, but I told him I needed time to think about it. The last time I tried to tell him about soemthing he did that bothered me, he got really defensive and gave me an attitude that I told him right away that I did not appreciate. He did apologize, but I'm worrying if I'm ignoring red flags because I wnat so badly to be in a relationship because I ahven't had one for so long. I feel I need to cut it off before he gets even more attached, yet I don't want to...it's been 3 years since I had a realtionship and I'm really thinking what is wrong with me? I went to my friend's wedding and I was the only single person at the table! I mean I still danced and had fun, but the other dateless girl sitting next to me was getting married in 2 months. I am not going to settle, but I like having the company for once and feeling like someone thinks I'm special. I like the feeling, but I don't know if I like the person necesarily or the way that person behaves or treats me. any advice? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): don't take the relationship any further, your just leading him on. There's no point in it if your not gonna give him something in the end, So end it if you don't like him you'll find another relationship soon hun.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 August 2009):
You know deep down that you need to end this.
Yes having affection and someone to be nice to you is great, but are you really willing to spend so much time and money just to get that?
You may as well hire an escort in your home town as that would be cheaper and he'd do a better job.
You are settling here because you are a little bit desperate. You don't have to be. Get out and about and meet some new people in your local area.
Your brain is making you think this for a reason. Don't ignore it and be blinded by feelings.
Good Luck!! xx
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