Does sex disappear in all relationships?
Q. hey i have been with my girlfrind for 9 months ( this is my first serious relationship) to cut the story short.. the first 3 months where great in the bedroom now its none existant!! is it me?? or do all relationships turn out like this?? or has she ...
A. 7 October 2008: Well if she won't even go out on a date with you then you don't really have much of a relationship.
Ask her why she won't come out with you and ask her what she wants from this relationship.
Tell her you aren't happy with the fact she refuses... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I'm feeling this upset and angry towards some humans who can do things like this to other living creatures?
Q. Ok this is nothing to do with love I guess I'm just looking for comfort... I've just read the most horrific case of animal cruelty on the net and I'm in tears. I love animals and support the RSPCA. But sitting here now, I'm so upset by it, tha...
A. 7 October 2008: There are some horrible horrible people in the world. But as you say yourself... there are people like the RSPCA out there too.
Have a think about the statistics. You have seen one case of animal cruelty there. But how many cases of spoiled ... (read in full...)
Are we wrong in not wanting to go over to his parents because we don't want to be around his ex (who lives there now).
Q. Recently my fiance's ex girlfriend, "Kayla" has moved into his parent's house. He had a daughter, "Liza", with her about 3 years ago and has recently decided not to see Liza anymore. Kayla is a little loose in the head... she's popped people's tires ...
A. 7 October 2008: I think you are being harsh to his parents and to his child.
The reason the child may be acting strangely is because her daddy has been so inconsistent and keeps disappearing and seems not to love her.
As for his parents - they have a grand chi... (read in full...)
Snickers is great but what is life like on Mars?
Q. My fiance and I are in our mid-20's and have been dating since high school. We're deeply in love but our sex live is less than perfect. I want it more often than she does, and also desire more variety in the act. She likes meat and potatoes sex once...
A. 7 October 2008: Well first of all you should try to work on getting her more interested in sex.
You say you've never had a steamy weekend so suggest organising one.
Also take her out for a romantic meal and a few cocktails.
Was your sex life always like thi... (read in full...)
What to do? Strange situation...
Q. Hi Well, basically, at the begginning of the year February time, me and my boyfriend had a bit of an argument, he had looked at my phone, seen I had text an ex who meant absolutly nothing to me, but I'd rather be friends than enemies at the end of t...
A. 7 October 2008: So you got a text from an ex and that's it?
Next time he says anything, just ask him "what have I done that's so bad?"
You might make him realise that he's being stupid holding this over you.
Point out that you haven't DONE anything fo... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much from people?
Q. Hello, I need some thoughts about this, I have been with my boyfriend 9 months, he has introduced me to his friends, I cannot say that his friends are bad people but they are people that I wouldn't choose to be friends with me because they dont have ...
A. 7 October 2008: Perhaps she thinks that you are just passing the CV on and nothing will come of it anyway so she is not saying thank you because she thinks you are just forwarding.
Perhaps she is waiting to say thank you in person.
Perhaps she asked your boyfr... (read in full...)
She's left me because she wants a kid at 30 and didn't think I could give her that.
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years now and this year was the year I was going to ask her to marry me. All she's gone on about since January / February this year is when are you going to ask me to marry you, when are we going to have ba...
A. 7 October 2008: I think to be honest from everything you have said, it sounds like she is a bit messed up and was unhappy with things any way.
What difference does it make having a child at 30 or 31? She is not being rational.
I think you should write her... (read in full...)
Is cheating still bad if my bf wont find out?
Q. i love my boyfriend but i want more. he can be quite shy when it comes to even leg touching and he says he wants to kiss me but he always chickens out, and we ave had PLENTY of opportunitites! but there is this guy i like who is prepared to go all t...
A. 7 October 2008: Is killing someone still bad if you don't get caught and no one misses the person you killed?
YES!! Doing a bad thing is bad.
If you are unhappy in your relationship then end it. Tell him you like him but that he is obviously not ready for a ... (read in full...)
How can I stretch my vagina in preparation for sex?
Q. My boyrfriend of a year and half are planning on having sex within the next two months. i was wondering how i can possibly stretch my vagina out as it is quite tight. yes, we will be using a condom....
A. 7 October 2008: Don't do anything!
The fact that your vagina is tight is what makes it feel so good for him and you.
The only thing you need to worry about is relaxing and enjoying it. If you've done lots of foreplay and other sexual stuff with him before ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my boyfriend for another man but don't want to hurt him.
Q. Please help me. I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years with my bf, I am 35. Things are not going good. 2 years ago we were so happy to find out we were having a baby (no kids previously or since), but things went very wrong and we los...
A. 7 October 2008: There is no way you can get out of this without someone getting hurt. But that is no reason not to leave.
Have a look for places you can live alone or with housemates on the internet. You'll see it's quite easy to be single and survive.
Then yo... (read in full...)
Does sex disappear in all relationships?
Q. hey i have been with my girlfrind for 9 months ( this is my first serious relationship) to cut the story short.. the first 3 months where great in the bedroom now its none existant!! is it me?? or do all relationships turn out like this?? or has she ...
A. 7 October 2008: I've been with my husband for 5 years now and we are still having lots of sex. The only time it stops is when one of us is depressed and loses the urge.
It could be that she is just comfortable with you now and so the spark has gone. Or that you... (read in full...)
Pregnant on the pill? First time user needs reassurance
Q. Hey Been on microgynon 30 for almost 3 months now, and have only just started having sex just with the pill (only done it once on sunday, we're all in the clear regarding STIs etc) with my bf, but lo and behold I'm still worried. I've been on tim...
A. 7 October 2008: Read the little leaflet that comes with the pills and that should reassure you a bit.
It's always scary having sex for the first time on the pill, and when you change brands.
As long as you aren't over 12 hrs late taking your pill on the few ... (read in full...)
I've had 7 failed relationships. What can I do to make my relationships work?
Q. hi im 16 and i have had 7 failed relationships. all of them i have tried my best to make work but all have failed. im captain of my rugby team, im a county champion 4 triple jump. im also a volunteer youth worker. im not exactly ugly, im sensiti...
A. 7 October 2008: You're 16!! Did you expect to be married by now?
Your relationships have failed because you have been dating little girls, and no offence but that is because you are a boy.
Most kids your age don't have the skills to maturely work out problem... (read in full...)
Halloween - Going as a sexy she devil. But what could he be?
Q. I am going to be a Sexy She Devil for Halloween. My boyfriend kinda wants to match with me but we can't really come up with any ideas for what he could be. anyone got any ideas?? thanks a lot....
A. 7 October 2008: Make him go as the devil?
Long cape, evil moustache, top hat and cane.
That way you can be one of his little devils and can hang from his arm decoratively haha.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What is the definition of an 'alpha male'? Come on, ladies!
Q. LADIES, LADIES, LADIES! Pray tell: what is your definition of an 'alpha male' exactly? Also: what do you mean when you say that a guy 'is out of your league'? Is it better to go out with a guy who is at the top of your league, or one who is at the ...
A. 7 October 2008: In my view an alpha male is a babboon.
A man who will start touching his crotch and getting fidgetty if another man overtakes him on a roundabout, and who will square up and use intimidation on lesser males.
They are un-evolved humans who belie... (read in full...)
The both rejected my request to be friends on Facebook now I'm getting paranoid people don't like me.
Q. Sorry, my question will prob sound a little dumb..... I've got a facebook page and a couple of months ago I requested Adam to be my friend. I knew Adam from years ago, we were really close but there was no romance, we were just good mates. He moved ...
A. 6 October 2008: Ok, here are 2 examples of why they could have rejected you. There are many many more reasons why they might have but you just have to use your imagination.
Adam gets your request. He's recently cheated on his girlfriend with an olympic pole jum... (read in full...)
32 year old christian virgin - should I lose it in Amsterdam?
Q. I'm a 32 Christian male, single (and have always been) and still a virgin. All my friends are getting married and I feel left behind. I've never been very out-going and this "no-sex-before-marriage" thing is engrained in me but recently getting ...
A. 6 October 2008: If you have waited this long to meet the right person then I imagine that going out and having sex with a prostitute in Amsterdam will just make you feel dirty and fill you with regret.
Is this really you talking? Or the depression making you look... (read in full...)
I'm starting to get headaches listening to my boyfriend's venting all the time.
Q. I want so badly to hold things together with my boyfriend. Things HAVE been well lately, in fact, except that he's been having a terrible time at work and I'm starting to feel a bit psychologically bludgeoned as he goes on and on about all the ...
A. 6 October 2008: Get a kitchen timer and when he gets home tell him he can have 5 minutes to vent about work and then he is not allowed to mention it for the rest of the night.
It'll do him good to think about other things too.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but he takes drugs and I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey, I really don't know what to do :( for the last month or so I have been seeing a guy. But on weekends he takes cocaine with his friends, I totally disagree with any illegal drugs, so I had a go at him about it. Saturday night I was supp...
A. 6 October 2008: Well he says he will come off them if you say so.... so say so!
Tell him you don't want to be with some one who takes drugs.
He can stand up to his mates and stick to the booze or if he's too weak then you have to walk away.
You can sit... (read in full...)
I am totally stumped as to what to get for my best friend's birthday, any ideas?
Q. It's not exactly a question and I guess you guys see this type of question on here often, but I need help. It's my really close friend's birthday soon and I don't know what to get her. I was thinking of doing something based on our friendship t...
A. 6 October 2008: Buy her a horse treck so you can go out together for a couple of hours in the country.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Holiday Options!
Q. I would appreciate some feedback on a problem my boyfriend and I have concerning holidays. We are both very mature adults with grown up children and I can't believe we can't sort this out ourselves. We have been toegether for 8 years but don't ...
A. 6 October 2008: Sounds like he wants a holiday from you!
Wanting alone time is fine but he sees you so little anyway that this says to me that he just wants to be a bachelor with complete freedom.
Do you really care enough for him to put up with that or wou... (read in full...)
Artist block: how can I compromise?
Q. It's been a couple of months sense my boyfriend has moved in with me. He loves my art and I appreciate that very much, but if I don't draw for one day he'll get a little sad, well more like a pouty sad. Basically in my opinion he wants me to draw ...
A. 6 October 2008: Wow, so he wants you to draw but on his terms only?
Sit him down and tell him you want to make him happy but you don't like the way he is putting this pressure on you. Art is your hobby not his. It not fair of him to come in and try and control ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want children and he believes marriage is a piece of paper but to me all those things are so important and that's the only way I believe my relationship can move forward.
Q. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years it has been a long time coming and although im upset that it's ended I also feel relief. When we met we just clicked straight away and we both got on so well I thought this is the one and he i...
A. 6 October 2008: I think you are right not to be in this relationship. It sounds a lot like my first serious boyfriend. Keep moving on, going out, having fun. You've done the right thing here. I can tell from your answer that you would have been miserable i... (read in full...)
Would these bad habits affect my baby if I'm pregnant?
Q. I'm only 18 years old, and I've been having unprotective sex for almost 3 months trying to get pregnant with my b/f. I used to smoke constantly for a couple months, a few months ago, then quit, but I smoked a couple cigarettes every now and then...
A. 6 October 2008: Breathing in tar, arsenic, lead, carbon monoxide and nicotine (all found in cigarettes) will always harm your baby. As will alcohol. It doesn't matter how early it is in the prrgnancy, they will always do harm, maybe een more harm when it's really ... (read in full...)
How would he afford these things on Military wages?
Q. Alright here it goes, my boyfriend of a year and a half wants 2 go into the army, he told me that when he gets back from basic training he wants 2 get engaged, and i started thinking abt it. you dont get paid all too much during basic training, but ...
A. 6 October 2008: I think his wage is the least of your worries. It doesn't really matter what he can afford when he comes back from training because chances are he'll be sent away some where anyway. There is a big chance he'll get sent away to Iraq. The Ameri... (read in full...)
What should I say when he tells me this stuff?
Q. Well I've known this guy for couple of weeks. Our first date was great. We text almost everyday after that. Our 2nd date wasn't so good. He acted like a jerk. I wasn't going to talk to him again but he kept texting me asking if I liked him and if I ...
A. 6 October 2008: Ah, so you don't mind that he is a jerk and may hurt you badly when he gets bored of the chase the game playing? In that case just text back that you miss him and want to meet. It's only a text, it's not exactly showing up at his house at 3am cry... (read in full...)
How can I be the one in control in this FWB type of relationship?
Q. It was suggested by a guy that I recently just met and hooked up with that we should continue to just meet casually and hook up. My question is, how can I do this and still have the upper hand on it? I don't want him to think that I'm available any ...
A. 6 October 2008: You can't be completely in control of the relationship. The whole Friends With Benefits thing basically means you are FRIENDS. Who's in control in a friendship? No one. He'll call and if you are free and in the mood he can come round. If you a... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while, but without having sex, she says she doesn't want to be end up like her mother, who did not attend college, married her dad, and are struggling now, is this just an excuse, not to have sex, or what?
Q. Me and my girl have been dating for a while. I've given her oral but she's never for me. I don't expect her too though, I consider myself lucky that she even touches me. It's not that I'm bad looking it's just that she's so amazing. Anyway, the ...
A. 6 October 2008: Because once she gives herself to you then she will have to change her priorities to keep you. Can you absolutely guarantee that you will wait for her while she goes off to Alaska / Texas for 5 years and then go and join her when she gets her car... (read in full...)
He said to me: "you know how chocolate is tempting but it is also bad for someone's health. I think of you as that."
Q. I dated a guy sometime last year, only for about three months. Then he had to go back to his home town. He did not call me for about three months. Then, one day he called me over the phone, telling me that he missed me and he compared me to a ...
A. 6 October 2008: If you want him back then ask him why he thinks you are bad for him and fix that so he'll see you as girlfriend material, then just get him drunk next time you see him and flirt and make a move. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I suffer from really bad anxiety attacks, can anyone help me???
Q. I am a 'survivor' I suppose you would say...but when do you stop trying and give up? Hope is all that has kept me going. I suffer from anxiety; have done for 20 years. This takes the form of panic attacks, sometimes agoraphobia. I have deep seated f...
A. 6 October 2008: All you can do is keep trying hun! Go and do more voluntary work but try to stick at it. If you are going to get into the real world then you need to accept that some people aren't going to be very nice and people will also be a little bit stran... (read in full...)
My abusive ex threatens to kill me and my current partner, should I go back to him?
Q. Well hi there everybody well i am a mother of 3 kids 2 from my prevous marrage and my son is 4 years old; I am in this relationship now for 15 years we were engage about 5 months ago, i broke the engagement becouse I heard that my ex fiance was ...
A. 6 October 2008: Call the police and get them to get home to stop with the threats. When he calls you just hang up, don't even speak to him. Stay with the man who treats you well. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I have gunky discharge and a lump on my vulva, I'm worried, what could this be?
Q. Help... I have like gunky discharge and a lump on the outside of my vagina, like a cyst (I think it's going gradually though). I keep getting thrush-like symptoms, but I'm worried it's something else like herpes :( xxx ...
A. 6 October 2008: keep the area clean but don't use normal soap, use a special genital friendly one. And see your doctor to get that lump checked out. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I tell me teacher I love her before I move to a different campus?
Q. I've got one hell of a problem. Im only year eight and I'm head over heals in love with my maths teacher. She's just so amazing. She's gorgeous, she's got a great sense of style, she's such a woman, so intelligent, but such a little girl. In s...
A. 6 October 2008: If you are still going to be in the same school then I wouldn't. Most schools have a policy that she would have to report what you said to the head and then you would both be forbidden from talking to each other again. They may even tell your p... (read in full...)
What should I say when he tells me this stuff?
Q. Well I've known this guy for couple of weeks. Our first date was great. We text almost everyday after that. Our 2nd date wasn't so good. He acted like a jerk. I wasn't going to talk to him again but he kept texting me asking if I liked him and if I ...
A. 5 October 2008: Well if he acted like a jerk then perhaps he is a jerk?
He could be playing mind games or just be an idiot. Either way, not exactly great boyfriend potential.
I'd stop replying to his texts and find someone new if I was you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
When does "No" actually mean "Yes"?
Q. Hello! Are there any guys out there who have been turned down by a woman only for this woman to contact them a few months later expressing a change of heart? In other words, have any guys experienced a "When no [eventually] means yes." situation? A...
A. 5 October 2008: As a woman I generally turn down a guy if:
a) I only like him as a friend
b) I don't like him
c) The time is not right.
Your situation could be a case of option C. If a family member has just died, she has just split up with someone else, is... (read in full...)
Can I find out who the semen belongs to?
Q. Hello,i recently found out my wife cheated on me about 2 months ago. is there any way i can find out who it was with? if i find semen anywhere in my house can i some how get it tested to see who it belongs to.what if i have a suspect and have him ...
A. 5 October 2008: You'd have to get a sample of the semen in your house, make sure it's not contaminated, then get a sample of your suspect's DNA. (probably using a swab in his mouth)
Once you've done that head down to your nearest lab and pay a scientist to compa... (read in full...)
Is this abuse? Should I get out of my relationship now?
Q. Should I get out of my relationship now? I am currently taking a break from my relationship with my boyfriend because I am working on issues from my past. My question is if he is abusive. Since we've been together for about 7 months a few things ...
A. 5 October 2008: You're being pretty abusive to him and I don't think he is giving as good as he is getting.
From the sounds of it you are not ready to be in any relationship.
Why not be single and work through your issues till you are ready to find a guy and g... (read in full...)
I'm not ready for marriage and babies yet, am I sabbotaging this relationship with my worrying?
Q. Hi All, I was hoping for help with a question that's been grinding away at me for a while now. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, and our relationship is wonderful, warm, and loving. We are both educated professionals,...
A. 2 October 2008: I think you need to be clear with him about when you want kids etc. Tell him now that you don't want them before you are 30 or whenever. Don't let him get his hopes up, be clear from the start so he knows where he stands.
I'm 25 and have no inter... (read in full...)
My ex will not leave my house! How do I get him out of here??
Q. my ex will not leave my house! im at my wits end with him.his girlfriend dumped him about a week ago,and right now he is basically homeless.he has tons of family members in the area that he could stay with.he came down a few nights ago and i didnt ...
A. 2 October 2008: "If you aren't out of here by noon then I will call the police and get a restraining order so you can't see your child."
Then start making calls enquiring about how to get a restraining order in front of him. "Just in case."
Sometimes you... (read in full...)
If I stop caring for him, he smokes, drinks, and hurts himself. It's really upstting for me. Please help.
Q. Hiya, I'm Becca. I have been out with my now ex 3 times and have always dumped him every time. He is 4 years older than me an i am still friends with him after i have dumped him. I dumped him for these reasons: *He think's he's like the most fashi...
A. 1 October 2008: Split up with him and if he does something stupid then tell his mum.
He's only doing this because he knows you'll be stupid enough to fall for it and take him back.
Once his parents get involved and have to ask him why he's self harming / s... (read in full...)
Would my age have any affect on him being granted a visa?
Q. i have known my turkish bf 3yrs, been with him 1yr and see him 5 times a year even at the end of the season, i am 20yrs older he knows ive no money. i rent my home i asked him to visit me in the uk but he says no. now last nite he said he would appl...
A. 1 October 2008: I do not think that your age will count against him, but the fact that he has refused to visit you, will.
The way he has acted so far does not show to me (I'm guessing not to the authorities either) that he is too serious about the relation... (read in full...)
What I want to know is should I give this another shot? Do I have the right to know if she had sex with this guy?
Q. About 3 1/2 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me. We had both become stressed from living with my parents, working, going to school, and raising our young son. The relationship unraveled. She says she loves me emotionally but not physically. ...
A. 1 October 2008: If you love her and want to be with her then you have to let this go, and move on. It's all in the past so can't be changed so it doesn't matter.
Move on from this if both of you want to.
You were broken up, she didn't cheat, she was having i... (read in full...)
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