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writes:It's been a couple of months sense my boyfriend has moved in with me. He loves my art and I appreciate that very much, but if I don't draw for one day he'll get a little sad, well more like a pouty sad. Basically in my opinion he wants me to draw every single day. As an artist sometimes I like to take a break but I always feel bad if I don't make him happy and at least draw a little bit...The problem is not really an artist block so to speak, it's the comfort of the artist. When I personally draw, I enjoy listening to my msuic and take breaks every now and then.As for him, he doesn't like my choice in music, and he always asks me if I am done drawing or what am I doing. Either or really OH! He also doesn't like when I listen to my ipod cause he feels like I am ignoring him.If there arists out there who hear my plea, come help me out, I love him dearly but I also want him happy. How can I compromise?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Hi
I am an artist, it's good that he likes you to keep drawing but on the other hand yes we like a break. I need to feel inspiration to do art, often music enspired and can not create to will. I would tell your boy to shut his gob, get his kit off and start to paint him, see how he likes it, could be fun or better still paint him with body art. Happy days!!!!!!
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reader, Hopeful Romantic  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 Yeah you are just going to have to tell him, "Look, I cannot draw without my music & if you don't like hearing it, I can compromise by listening to my music on my Ipod, but if you feel like I am ignoring you while listening ot my Ipod, then I will have to turn my music on, this is really the only way I am inspired to draw, please try to understand this."
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 Hey, I'm not artist but your problem sounds really weird. I can't understand why he wants you to draw so much time. Are you sure he's in love with you and not only with your drawings? I think he didn't get the point of art. Works of art should be made by insperation, not under constraint of anybody - even your boyfriend.
Have you tryed to talk with him? I'd suggest that. Tell him the same things you told us. He can't make decision about what kind of music do you like.. Just listen what you want, draw whenever you want.. Don't listen to him! Tell him it's your personal choice about what kind of music you're listening to and he's not in relationship with your drawings, but all of you. Art is just part of your personallity.
Yes, his happiness is important, but he's really unfair to you. You can't think only about his wishes, you're VERY important too. So talk to him and if he won't change his behaviour, well.. He's not the right guy for you. You must understand; freedom and personal decisons are very important for your personal growth. As artist you will definitely need it.
Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (6 October 2008):
Wow, so he wants you to draw but on his terms only?
Sit him down and tell him you want to make him happy but you don't like the way he is putting this pressure on you. Art is your hobby not his. It not fair of him to come in and try and control it.
Be straight with him about how you are feeling.
Good Luck!! xx
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