We got close dancing but nothing happened, now my boyfriend won't speak with me. How can I fix this?
Q. i'm currently in a two year relationship, where i've know my boyfriend for 3 years. we have had many ups and downs in our relationship for its duration, where i mostly was the one at fault. currently i celebrated a birthday and he didn't spend it ...
A. 13 January 2009: If the relationship does not make you happy, and he doesn't sound happy either to me, then it may be better if you were single.
You can figure out what you want from life and find someone who can make you happy.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
A virgin male, a girl, and her boyfriend... going mad!
Q. Hello! First time poster here! This is about, well, two problems really. I’m posting here to get it off my chest because this is never the sort of thing I’d talk about – or at least not all of it – with people I know. OK, first I’ll give you so...
A. 24 October 2008: Drunk rant much?
Everything will be ok in the morning.
x... (read in full...)
I called my girlfriend fat, I apologized, she won't talk to me, will we get back together?
Q. My girlfriend (shes 18 and im 19) is through this phase thinking shes fat (trust me shes not). And because of it she wont let me see her naked anymore. We do make do but she lets got to the point where I cant control myself. We have been fighting a ...
A. 22 October 2008: I think you need to just back off this girl. You have heart her really badly and she's still to angry to even think about accepting an appology.
Leave her alone and let her be the one to contact you. You may have to face the fact you have lost her... (read in full...)
I slapped him and he left me! What can I do?
Q. I lived with my boyfriend for more than 3 years. For the period of time we lived together I am always the one initiate sex. I'm always hurt when he postoned to make love to me, coz he is always busy playing cards or playing with his Xbox. I know he ...
A. 20 October 2008: You hit him! Yes you should feel guilty! Find him and apologise for being violent. Explain how hurt you are that he ignores you all the time and it had just built up until you exploded. Tell him you want to try again but you want a boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
Why is he so scared of relationships?
Q. He tells me he loves and protects me, but I still cannot figure out why he's so scared of relationships,...
A. 20 October 2008: Ask him! If he can't tell you and doesn't want to be with you then move on and cut contact. He might actually get some balls and come after you if he knows he's lost you. He may not. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I called my girlfriend fat, I apologized, she won't talk to me, will we get back together?
Q. My girlfriend (shes 18 and im 19) is through this phase thinking shes fat (trust me shes not). And because of it she wont let me see her naked anymore. We do make do but she lets got to the point where I cant control myself. We have been fighting a ...
A. 20 October 2008: You basically just told her "all those times I said you weren't fat, and every time I said you were beautiful... well they were all lies." Send her flowers - roses - and grovel. If she won't speak to you then you will have to do it through lette... (read in full...)
A new employee came in under my employ, and started to text me, with stalking, personal messages, how do I stop this?
Q. I've recently acquired a bit of a phone stalker... problem is, it's someone who really should respecy my position in the workplace as their boss. I try to mainatain a good relationships with everyone who works for me in my work - I try to be a fr...
A. 20 October 2008: First off, you have never said, stop this I don't like it / you in that way. You added him to facebook and he's probably got the message that you like him but are playing hard to get / are now his best mate but too busy to meet. Ask him to one... (read in full...)
Help me lose the party animal in me... I want to settle down!!
Q. Hello there Im newly single women, mid thirties how would love to settle down and have children. I worry that with my clock ticking that im running out of time to have children. Im an outgoing person and love to have fun.... but sometimes I worr...
A. 20 October 2008: Avoid shots, line your stomach with food before you go out, and alternate your drinks. So have alcohol and then a coke, alcohol and then a coke. Make sure you have a non-alcoholic drink every time you feel a bit too woozy and that will help your ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex bf insist on causing me misery..after he dumped me?
Q. Why does my ex insist on making me feel miserable after HE DUMPED ME? He keeps insulting me and calling me names, I already have a very low self esteem and this only makes matters worse. He already dumped me because he said he was fed up with me, ...
A. 20 October 2008: Wow, you got your self a right psycho there! He said all those things because he wanted to hurt you and knew that would work. If he thought it would hurt he would have said you were too fat / annorexic, a slut / frigid, to tall / short, stupi... (read in full...)
Have I sacrificed way too much on this man? Advice is appreciated!
Q. Right basically I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months now and I feel really annoyed because all the responcibility with everything is put on me and I can't stand it. When I first met him years ago we were friends and because of my drug problems ...
A. 20 October 2008: If I was in this situation I would leave, You say you are working so either get online and find somewhere to live or get on to your council and find out if there is a council house going spare. All you need is a room in a shared house and they a... (read in full...)
She says she's showing signs of a pregnancy and is threatening to sue me for child support! What should I do?
Q. I thought I had feelings for a girl but I realized that I didn't after we got naughty in the car. However she was telling me that she was on birth control and that I shouldn't have to worry about it. I didn't ejaculate at all during intercourse and ...
A. 20 October 2008: If it's within 72 hours then she can still get the morning after pill with prevents pregnancy. There is no way she can be pregnant now, let alone showing signs. She's just very hurt that you led her on and then dumped her as soon as you got se... (read in full...)
Am I losing my mind?
Q. Am I losing my mind? I'm in a long distance relationship, and recently my boyfriend and I had an "air clearing" session so to speak. He's told me how he really doesn't like it when he can't get through to my phone and it really pisses him off when...
A. 19 October 2008: I think pork chop is half right... It may not have been on purpose that he went to get food, but it certainly gave you a taste of your own medicine.
If you need to go and do something then hang up and arrange to call back in 15 mins and then he'... (read in full...)
Sex 3 times in 15 years of marriage.
Q. We have been married 15 years, We had romance and a lot of passionate sex prior to marriage, my husband was using meth at the time on occasion. On our wedding night no loving sex at all. From then sex only 3 times in the whole 15 years. I am very ...
A. 19 October 2008: I am sure your doctors will call you back tomorrow.
I am amazed you stayed with him for 15 years... I am guessing there are no kids in this relationship so why did you stick it out? Could you not have taken a lover? or agreed to an open relation... (read in full...)
As her fiance, am I wrong in asking her to break ties with him?
Q. My fiancee (we're getting married next spring), and I have been dating almost 3 years now. My problem is, she insists on keeping in touch with an ex-boyfriend that she dated for about 4 years. I believe that people (even married ones) can have ...
A. 19 October 2008: I think by telling her who she can and can't see, you are stepping over the line.
However, I think she should take your feelings into account a bit more too.
Have you sat down and told her that it makes you ill to know she's talked to him an... (read in full...)
I desperately need to get out of this house and find a place of my own.
Q. Hi, I'm still in same situation I was last time I left a question, a few of you said I should move out if husband won't. Is there anyone out there who has been in same situation, council house in both names he won't move so I need to know how to go ...
A. 19 October 2008: Well if it's a council house and you tell them the situation then they will probably be able to help you and sort out a new house for you.
There are hundreds of domestic violence helplines and organisations.
Get onto google and give them a ring... (read in full...)
Why do men lie about anything and everything they can?
Q. Why do men (husbands) mainly lie about any and everthing they can? They feel they have no need to tell their wife anything if he is feeling blue he just rather sits there to hiself than talk to me about it. I believe that's why our marriage is ...
A. 19 October 2008: Firstly, not all men lie. My husband doesn't lie, it's not a genetic thing that's built in, it's a personal choice that your particular husband is making.
As for not talking to you about things, that is not lying, but that is something that is ... (read in full...)
Why am I with a man I hate?
Q. How can I be with a man I HATE so much? I am on pills because of him, all we do is fight every day and all he does is call me names or hit me, I have been with him for 6 years and he has never talked to me about getting married or having kids. I ...
A. 19 October 2008: You can't have No where else to go.
Don't you have any friends? family? a woman's refuge? Anyone with a sofa will do till you can get a job, get a few quid together for a deposit and check the internet / local paper to find a room to rent.
... (read in full...)
A virgin male, a girl, and her boyfriend... going mad!
Q. Hello! First time poster here! This is about, well, two problems really. I’m posting here to get it off my chest because this is never the sort of thing I’d talk about – or at least not all of it – with people I know. OK, first I’ll give you so...
A. 19 October 2008: Well you have to keep your distance until she sees the light and dumps this guy. She'll lose money and get hurt and then she'll get over it and be ok. When he makes comments to her on nights out, laugh at him and then say "you are an ungrateful tw*t ... (read in full...)
We are having a baby through incest - what can I do?
Q. To everyone that doesnt understand, this will seem really wrong but i've been in love with my brother (no not step, my actual brother) for the past 2 years after he helped me get over my cheating ex. At the start i thought it was just an admiration ...
A. 19 October 2008: Unfortunately what you have done is illegal, and I don't know if you will be prosecuted for it when people find out. They take it seriously because it endangers the life of any children you create.
I don't know how you feel about abortion or how l... (read in full...)
How do I explain I love his looks and personality?
Q. hey! basically i've been going out with this guy for just over a week now and it's going really well. trouble is, his last relationship ended really badly and consquently he has some self esteem issues. he asked me the other day if i find him ...
A. 19 October 2008: Do you know what made me so depressed as a teen?
I could never get a boyfriend as I wasn't pretty or anything and my friends would see a guy and try and get him to go out with me and they'd go over and say "she's such a wonderful person she has ... (read in full...)
Why is the guy I like, lying to me?
Q. Ok, I have an issue with a guy that I like. Pleeease guys help me ! It may sound confusing but that really highlights my own confusion Basically I really like this guy, he's 19 I'm almost 18. He has told me several times he likes me, we met when ...
A. 19 October 2008: I'd let him continue on and then when you have absolute proof that he has been caught in a lie, then you can confront him about it and just tell him to drop dead.
At the moment he could just say that they've agreed to see other people or somethin... (read in full...)
I feel mislead about a job I've taken, what can I do?
Q. I saw a guest room cleaner job advertised at 15-20 hours per week. I took the job. I started thursday, and so far have worked 15 hours, and thats not including thursday the day I started when I was there for 3 hours filling in the paper work. I am ...
A. 19 October 2008: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Dl1/Directories/DG_10010999
This page gives you all the details of the national minimum wage helpline. From what I can see, your employer is acting illegally. Phone them up and check what they say. If they find out that... (read in full...)
My teacher teases me and flirts with me
Q. This is really complicated... well maybe not THAT complicated but still. ANyway, I'll start at the beginning: When I started Secondary School I had this teacher who also started at that school. He is unbeleiveably funny and witty and he gets on w...
A. 19 October 2008: You have said yourself that he is like this with everyone.
He's just having fun and teasing you like everyone else.
The fact that you are in love with him means you are hyper sensitive to his every movement and glance and because you are ... (read in full...)
I am being emotionally blackmailed and harassed by my ex
Q. I am being emotionally blackmailed, and harrassed by my recently ex boyfriend. We work together. I broke up with him a few weeks ago because i was interested in this other guy. My boyfriend and i were only going out 4 months, and it was more a fl...
A. 19 October 2008: Tell him that if he threatens you or carries out his threat then you will have him charged with harassment. Also if he says anything in these messages then it is libel and slander and you can sue him for lost earnings.
He is going to look like the... (read in full...)
Why is the guy I like, lying to me?
Q. Ok, I have an issue with a guy that I like. Pleeease guys help me ! It may sound confusing but that really highlights my own confusion Basically I really like this guy, he's 19 I'm almost 18. He has told me several times he likes me, we met when ...
A. 19 October 2008: Sounds like he wants to cheat on his girlfriend with you.
You know he has a girlfriend and you've been flirting and hanging out with him so he knows you are willing to be with him.
However, she is going to know something is going on by the ... (read in full...)
My teacher liked me and is now being prosecuted! How can I help him save his job?
Q. hi i have just been reading all the student teacher relationship questions and answers...and i really need help one of my teachers has told me he really cares about me and that he could imagine us spending the rest of our lives together i ...
A. 19 October 2008: Well if they asked your mum if she'd be ok with him teaching then they are probably thinking they'll let him continue.
You'll really just have to wait and see what happens, but if they are not pressing charges then it will probably be ok.
H... (read in full...)
Edwin and his sexy talk
Q. So I meet Edwin on tagged (it's like bebo) and I liked him I'll admit cuz he is very handsome, but the thing is we started talking sexually from the first time we meet, now what I want to know is how do I encourage him to have a normal convo with me ...
A. 19 October 2008: He only sees you as a sex object. If you try and have a normal conversation then he'll ignore you and talk to one of his other girls.
There is no way you'll be the only one so he'll not hang around to chat about the weather when all he wants is... (read in full...)
I have a cyst that causes an itchy feeling outside my vagina.
Q. I have a cyst outside my vagina and it feels itchy. I don't know where it came from, the fact that I use a feminine wash.. Can anyone tell me what's happening to me please? ...
A. 19 October 2008: You are going to go and see a doctor and he will get rid of it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We got close dancing but nothing happened, now my boyfriend won't speak with me. How can I fix this?
Q. i'm currently in a two year relationship, where i've know my boyfriend for 3 years. we have had many ups and downs in our relationship for its duration, where i mostly was the one at fault. currently i celebrated a birthday and he didn't spend it ...
A. 19 October 2008: You have to give him time to calm down. At the moment he is angry so all your calls and texts will just make him think you have a guilty conscience.
Let him calm down and he will be back in touch.
I am sure you explained it was just a dance and... (read in full...)
Why did he break it off with me? It doesn't make sense.
Q. I was seeing someone for 3 months, at first he was very attentive, calling texting every day/night. We worked together and he never wanted anyone to know we were seeing each other and he said he liked to keep his personal life private. He never in...
A. 19 October 2008: If he's the kind of guy who wants a casual girl friend who can take things slow and not be needy and can look after her self... then yes you probably terrified him when he found 10 missed calls and was being asked to introduce you to his parents etc ... (read in full...)
Will I want kids one day? I feel so bad that I have no interest in them.
Q. Hi, thanks for taking the time to read this. Im 26 and have been with my fiance 5 years. He is a wonderful guy and im so lucky to have him. There is 1 thing that keeps bothering me though.I have never been the broody kind when it comes to chi...
A. 19 October 2008: There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. I'm 25 and my husband and I haven't decided yet whether we will have a family. But we have both said that neither of us will be hurt if it doesn't happen.
The whole child birth thing TERRIFIES me and I... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to want a sugar daddy?
Q. I'm 25 and not interested in men my age or a few years older- I have dated them but it's just not a turn on. I keep falling for men in their 40's. I want a sugar-daddy and I'm so attracted to divorced men with children who have a high powered job ...
A. 19 October 2008: If you want to date men in their 40's they will be more than thrilled to take you out.
Whether they will see you as some one who is after their money, or someone to dump once you get a bit older so they can go out with another 25 year old is up to... (read in full...)
My teacher liked me and is now being prosecuted! How can I help him save his job?
Q. hi i have just been reading all the student teacher relationship questions and answers...and i really need help one of my teachers has told me he really cares about me and that he could imagine us spending the rest of our lives together i ...
A. 19 October 2008: I'm sorry to break this to you but he broke the law and is going to be punished.
It is illegal for a teacher to have a relationship with someone. It's abusing their position of trust and the authorities have to have a zero tolerance approach... (read in full...)
She left me and taken the kids to go out with a barely legal teen!
Q. my 27 year old girlfriend has left me for a sixteen year old boy,we have two children together and two more from her previous relationship.im not sure if she see's a future with him or if she is having some sort of mid life crisis.she's drinking on ...
A. 19 October 2008: If you are worried about the kids then tell her you want custody of them. It's hardly great for them to grow up watching their mother molest a teenager and drink.
They will be better off with a stable responsible father than a mother who acts lik... (read in full...)
I've had offers to be with other guys but I want to stay with him...
Q. I've been with this guy for over 2 months now and we got on so well at the very start and we have told each other that we love each other. I dont no if i do love him because i have never felt love with a man before but it feels real. He is 25 and i ...
A. 19 October 2008: Well if you want to be single then you should be single.
People in love don't want to be single.
You say you know it will never happen for you long term and I think deep down you know that although you have strong feelings for him and it's all... (read in full...)
I feel like she sees me as a compassionate friend rather than a lover.
Q. Hi all. I have a problem where I love a girl way too much. We are in a long distance open relationship. After having a few talks and arguments with her, I've found out that her interest in me was misplaced. I think, (90% positive) that I represent...
A. 19 October 2008: There is no way this is going to have a happy ending. She's seeing you as her friend and an easy way to get self esteem. You are like a drug to her because you make her feel good and she doesn't have to give anything back.
Basically she is using... (read in full...)
I have this friend with benefits but he's changed lately... what's the matter?
Q. I have this friend with benefits, he's great, I fell in love with him, but he doesn't want anything serious and neither do I, we have tons of fun and I love everything about the "relationship". It's been a while since we don't sleep together or ...
A. 19 October 2008: He's developed a conscience and then blown it.
He felt bad about using you and apologised because he knows he is going to hurt you some day when he gets a girlfriend and drops you like a hot potato.
But I bet when he said all this and offered... (read in full...)
I'm tired of either waiting around or having to initiate contact?
Q. Hello, Ok, I really [REALLY] like this guy in one of my classes at college. At first I didn't notice him but after we had to do this group project (we had to spend the afternoon together), I started to develop feelings for him. My 'relationshi...
A. 19 October 2008: Well it looks like he doesn't like you as much as you like him or he would have asked you out by now.
You can keep talking to him online and try and make a connection with him so he gets to like you... but you risk being obvious about it.
O... (read in full...)
Is it possible or just a hopeless desire?
Q. hello there, I was just wondering: If your guy is too busy with school at the time being, but you think that you really could work it out because you're both in the same boat and you could just visit each other once a week to actually ha...
A. 19 October 2008: It's very possible for a relationship like this to work IF both sides want it to.
If he doesn't want to then you are pretty much stuffed.
The only chance you have is if you agree not to see him and then he sees you looking gorgeous around ... (read in full...)
I'm so lonely! How do I deal?
Q. Hi,im in college and even though i go to a school of 14,000 people, I have never been so lonely in my life. I dont have any close friends here, just acquaintances and the people who I live with dont have anything in common with me and think i am a ...
A. 19 October 2008: There will be millions of societies, clubs, groups and organisations at your college. Join some!
Be in a band, have a go on the student radio station, become a member of the climbing club, something new and exciting.
The only way you can meet... (read in full...)
How do I convince her parents?
Q. Heres my situation, me and my gf ahve been dating for about three months and her parents wont let her see me unless her mom goes. And her mom wont let us hang out at each others houses. Also i have family in vero beach which is about two hours aw...
A. 19 October 2008: I have to agree with Q.
Getting to know her parents will help your cause, but surely since you've been going out on dates with her mum, you should have been getting to know her too and showing her what a fine upstanding young man you are.
... (read in full...)
I slept with the guy I like's roomate! How do I fix this?
Q. like a year ago (nov), i met B, who i worked with at a pub, i was very shy at first and i liked him, i used to hang out with him and his two roomates and party at there apartment after work, now i always had a thing for ben, but i befriended his ...
A. 19 October 2008: I think you need to back away from all of them and stop hanging out there.
Ben could well have been keeping his distance so M (who he knew liked you more than he does) could have chance with you.
Ben will hurt M badly if he goes out with yo... (read in full...)
Would you still go out with this girl?
Q. Hi this question is for the guys but girls you can give your input too. If you asked a girl out but she responded by saying she is busy for the next week and will call you after a week but actually only calls you after a month, what would you think ...
A. 19 October 2008: Take her out and find out what she's been doing for the last month.
She called now, she wants to go out now, that's all that matters.
If she called a month ago then she may have been in a bad place and you wouldn't have liked her so much.
... (read in full...)
Keep thinking how it would be like to date around, I'm 25, too young to feel tied down. I'm confused about my relationship.
Q. I'm a little confused as to what's going on in my relationship right now. Maybe it's partly my fault but I want you to tell me what you think. Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together for four and a half years so far. I would look at it as be...
A. 19 October 2008: At 25 the world is your oyster.
It's the age when you could just settle down, find a nice job somewhere and get married and start a family... or it's the age where you could be enjoying having no kids / mortgage and flying around pushing to get a... (read in full...)
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