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anonymous
writes:Hello, I need some thoughts about this, I have been with my boyfriend 9 months, he has introduced me to his friends, I cannot say that his friends are bad people but they are people that I wouldn't choose to be friends with me because they dont have professional ambitions. But at the end of the day we hang out together and we have a good time, obviously I always encorage my boyfriend to spend time with them because those are his friends. The thing is that one of them is a female and she is a nice girl, my boyfriend and her are close, so one day my boyfriend makes me the comment that she didn't have a job, so I told him that I could check in the database of the company I work for ( I work for one of the biggest companys in the semiconductor bussiness in the world) because as my company is so big there can be a lot of oportunities. So she send her resume to my boyfriend and he send it to me, so I wrote her an email telling her that I will do my best to try to get some kind of job to her and I gave her my phone number just in case that she had any question. Then I send an email to my boyfriend telling him what I have done, and he repply to me saying thank you to help my friend, you are so nice always, and such a good person, that's why I love you so much, but the thing is that this girl ( his friend) hasn't even reply to my email even to say thank you or she hasn't call or text me. Don't get me wrong, but if someone try to make me a favour I will always, always, say thank you. I don't want anything in return from her, but for me this looks bad, any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): You're third person removed. So boyfriend gets thanks from her and you get thanks from him. Whats your problem? you are nit picking. You have already made assumptions about his friends, like your profession denotes your value as a person. To tell us who you work for enforces this view.So which ones best, a lying cheating doctor or a honest roadsweeper?Good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 October 2008):
Perhaps she thinks that you are just passing the CV on and nothing will come of it anyway so she is not saying thank you because she thinks you are just forwarding.
Perhaps she is waiting to say thank you in person.
Perhaps she asked your boyfriend to say thank you for her.
I would give her the benefit of the doubt but don't go to too much effort for her next time if the situation doesn't improve.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Its damn annoying isn't it. I gave my 2 leather sofas to a friends sister when I ordered new ones. I had sent her sister pics on the phone, she loved them. Her boyfriends mates came round with their work van to collect them. Not so much as a thank you from them or a thank you txt from the girl after. I could of sold those sofas for atleast 100 quid. Very good quality. But didn't ask anything for them, didn't expect anything for them, would of just liked a thank you atleast! Never had one to this day.
I would be tempted to not even bother putting yourself out for her, unless there is a reason she hasn't emailed back yet? It doesn't say a lot about her, and if she muffs up at work, its not going to look good on you is it.
C xxxxxx
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