My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while, but without having sex, she says she doesn't want to be end up like her mother, who did not attend college, married her dad, and are struggling now, is this just an excuse, not to have sex, or what?

A male age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Me and my girl have been dating for a while. I've given her oral but she's never for me. I don't expect her too though, I consider myself lucky that she even touches me. It's not that I'm bad looking it's just that she's so amazing. Anyway, the other day we were making out and I was basically dry humping her. And somewhere in there I mentioned how in just a few years, on our honeymoon (oh yeah, were engaged) there wouldn't be clothes between us. She said she couldn't wait (figure of speech) Then she asked me, if she asked me to do it would i? I of course said yes. Then she said she was willing. I froze and immediately asked if she was sure. She was kinda frozen too, obviously really thinking. In the end she said no. She didn't. Later when I asked her why she said she was and why she decided she wasn't ready her answer was that it must've been the heat of the moment and that she didn't want to end up like her mom. Her mom gave up college to marry her dad and now they're struggling to keep the house. I know she doesn't want to be like her mom but how does us having sex guarantee that? What do you think?

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