He seems to be so mean to me when he's drunk.
Q. Okay - This is probably not a big deal but I don't know how to handle it. My bf and I have been together about 1 year. We are buying a house together. Twice now he's gotten drunk and and is so mean. Not physically abusive or anything. But he'll say ...
A. 16 January 2010: What do you mean "it's probably not a big deal"? OF COURSE IT'S A BIG DEAL.
You need to talk to him about his horrible behaviour and let him know that you will not tolerate verbal abuse, no matter how scarce. Stand your ground on this issue. H... (read in full...)
My ex lives in my house and its not working
Q. Hello: This may sound crazy I have lived with my ex boyfriend for 2 months he uses drugs okay I have a small apartment and of course he sleeps when he has sometimes I think the walls are going to close in around me I can get so bored I have a 16 ...
A. 16 January 2010: Hon, you know the answer to your own problem. You don't need us to tell you. Get rid of 'em. Where he goes isn't your problem. Your child comes first. He'll make due. There's no purpose for him to still be in your life if you two have ended your ... (read in full...)
I told a girl I loved her, and she said she has feelings for her ex
Q. i told a girl i loved her n her reply was "oh rite" the following day she told me still has feelings for her ex but she cant go with him..... was i right to till her to stay out my life forever?...
A. 16 January 2010: You will find out later in life just how rare it was that this girl was honest with you. Most women would just say they love you too because they're afraid to tell the truth or feel obligated to say they love you so as not to damage your feelings. ... (read in full...)
She was my first, but I wasnt hers, and that makes me angry!
Q. She told me about one of the guys she has had sex with before me and Ive been wanting to kick his ass so bad. I saw him tonight and got so close but it didnt happen. She was staying with him when she got kicked out of her house and she had sex with...
A. 16 January 2010: Who she has had sex with before she was with you should not provoke any type of angry/resentful feelings. It certainly doesn't merit any type of physical harm towards the other male. I suggest you seek counseling for your anger management and ... (read in full...)
I am 16 and expecting twins!
Q. I am going two give birth to twins for the first time and does it hurt...
A. 16 January 2010: Well, sweetheart, yes it does hurt, but don't be afraid. You have several options for pain management while in labor. I had an epidural when I had my little one and it helped so much. It was the worst pain I've endured thus far in my life, but it ... (read in full...)
HE asked for a one night stand does this mean he likes me or not?
Q. this guy in mii class asked me to have a one night stand with him...oh n i aint in skool...so does this mean he likes me? that he wanted to start a conversation? or was he just a perv? n he never texted me/messaged me since i said no... but i really ...
A. 16 January 2010: This does NOT mean he likes you. This means he wants to "hit it and forget it." He simply wants to add a notch in his belt and if you don't want to suffer from severe heartache and/or embarrassment you should steer clear of this fella. He's bad news ... (read in full...)
Is he playing with my mind or does he really want me back?
Q. I really want my ex back after 2 months, we are still sleeping together about 2 times a week, talk on the phone everyday, and see other most days down the pub, He knows i still have feelings for him and would go bk to him , but he says we are frie...
A. 28 November 2008: It sounds like he's either scared of commitment or using you for sex. I was with a guy like that. We'll call him Thomas. He broke up with me and we became "friends with benefits" shortly thereafter. I was in love with him but he didn't want any ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a lady plays with her ear lobe?
Q. What does it mean when a lady plays with her earlobe when talking/flirting with a man?...
A. 28 November 2008: I wasn't aware it meant anything. I've flirted plenty of times and don't believe I ever played with my earlobe. The only time I mess with mine is when my earrings are too tight and it hurts. Maybe her earrings needed loosened. LOL. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I know that she's having an affair?
Q. i know my wife is havingan affair with a man where she works, should i tell her that i know?...
A. 23 November 2008: Before you let her know you should decide what the next step will be. Plan it out. If you want to try to make it work or if it's over. You can never plan what her response/reaction will be, though. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He's the best thing that has happened to me in a long time but he's married, what should I do?
Q. hi, i've been seeing a married man, we've known each other for 16 years, but we started talking again 6 months ago and hit it off straight away, we fancied each other all those years ago but never acted on it, until now. We've spoken about how thin...
A. 23 November 2008: run run run run run run run run run!!!!!! Girl, if he'd cheat on his wife to be with you then what makes you so special that he wouldn't do the same to you? He has a FAMILY. You're not part of it. You don't want to be labeled a HOMEWRECKER. Let... (read in full...)
After our first date he said he'd text me - should I wait for his call or initiate it myself?
Q. hi i went out on a date with this guy it was our first date, but i've been left with a confused feeling i don't know how he feels maybe you could help! during the date he kept asking questions getting to know me better, he even said its abou...
A. 23 November 2008: Let him be. If he doesn't call/text then you know he doesn't like you. If you contact him when he said he'd make the contact it may make you look desperate and/or turn him off. Plus, the best way to find out if he really likes you is to wait for the ... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex for a last goodbye or not?
Q. hi i was wondering if anyone would be able to help me ive decided 2 meet up with my ex one last time to say are goodbyes we both like eatchother stil and he said he allways will but its the age diffrence hes 15yrs older than me i dont know whethe...
A. 26 October 2008: Hon, I don't know how long you two have been seeing each other, but it's not a relationship that you should feel comfortable with and you sound like you are. Go with your gut feeling. He can and will go to jail for having a relationship with you ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed between periods whilst on the pill?
Q. Ive been on the pill for a week now, I've finished my period and i keep bleeding, its dark and blotchy and has happened about three times now, is this normal? ...
A. 26 October 2008: It is very normal to spot between periods when on the pill. Read the pamphlet that came with your pills and it will fill you in on a lot of missed details. If the symptoms persist after 3 months then you can always change brands and that sometimes ... (read in full...)
This is really embarrassing.. but my vagina smells gross!
Q. this is really embarrassing.. but my vagina smells gross! I produce a lot of discharge, clear and white. its gross. it smells nasty. I probably produce more than the normal amount. what can I use to clean it? I wash it everyday. should I douche? I'm ...
A. 26 October 2008: A lot of hormones are being produced at your age so it might not be anything to worry about.But I'm certain it's grossing you out and making you self-conscious to boot.
Douching is a wonderful way to feel "fresh" but also realize that doing it... (read in full...)
Why can't he just leave me alone so I can get over him???
Q. My boyfriend dumped me for another girl a few weeks ago. He stopped talking to me for a while, then he sends me random messages like asking what a good dare is for truth or dare, or if I got my book back or whatever. Then a few days ago he sent...
A. 26 October 2008: I've heard this one before. What he's attempting to do is make himself feel better. It's his conscience getting to him. He feels like a jerk for dumping you and he's trying to create the illusion that you two are still friends in order to ease his ... (read in full...)
What is the best form of contraceptive?
Q. What is the best form of contraceptive?...
A. 26 October 2008: Well, abstinence is the best way not to get a girl pregnant, but to those who aren't trying to be monks but also don't want to be parents yet I've never gone wrong with a condom. Condoms do break, though. Then there's the pill, but if your girl ... (read in full...)
Should we ignore our culture and just do it??
Q. Should we say no to our culture and do it? We are related. My grand father's mother is the sister of her grand mother's father. We love each other so much. But it's almost impossible to get married for us because of our relations. ...
A. 11 November 2007: So her Great Grandfather is your Great Great Uncle? It seems like pretty distant relations to me... Are your parents related to hers?... (read in full...)
How can I love him if I kissed another boy??
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half but yesterday i got drunk at a party and kissed another boy. I told him straight away then left the party and went straight home. My boyfriend came round , i told him exactly what happened and he h...
A. 11 November 2007: You are learning early that love is a very confusing thing. I wouldn't even use the word love at this stage. It seems to me like you can't forgive yourself and that's why you don't think he should've forgiven you. The fact that you are angry at... (read in full...)
The guys in my form keep picking me up. How do I stop them without making a fool of myself?
Q. The guys in my form are always picking me up or squeezing my sides and genraly pushing me around. it never really hurts and they are always doin it as a joke and i usually just lauph and slap there arm. i do fancy one of them and dont mind when he ...
A. 11 November 2007: Well, for starters you can stop acting like you like it. Tell him them to cut it out. Don't laugh or even crack a smile. Just look at them and say can you please cut it out with a serious look on your face. You don't necessarily have to be stern or ... (read in full...)
Is this normal for my pregnancy test?
Q. is this normal? i bought 1 pregnancy test the walmart brand and took it it came out inclusive then 2 days later i took the early test and it didnt do anything at all, can i be pregnant? thats why the test comes out like that? ...
A. 11 November 2007: Just go to the doctor and have a blood test done. This will be the quickest way to determine your pregnancy status. That way you don't have to sit around taking test after test and wondering. Just go.... (read in full...)
Should I let them sleep together?
Q. Hiya i'm a mum of two my son is 20 and my daughter is 17. Well, my daughter has got her first bf and someone who she has been best friends with since they were little, hes really nice and kind and isn't like most lads. In fact im really pleased ...
A. 11 November 2007: A mother with any decency would not allow her daughter to share a bed (or even a room for that matter) with any man besides her husband. Whether or not you trust your daughter should not come in as a factor. She is still young enough to be imp... (read in full...)
All the girls I've been attracted to seem to be incredibly unfaithful and unable to commit!
Q. Why can't I find a good girl? Every girl I encounter who I seem to get along with seems to be promiscuous. I know that sounds harsh, but it's true! All the girls I'm attracted to and likewise seem to be incredibly unfaithful and unable to commit...
A. 26 August 2007: Well, you sound like you're on the right track then. You just haven't found the right one. give it time.... (read in full...)
Is it normal when ive got an erection my penis doesnt point to the ceiling???
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-this-normal-that-my-penis-doesnt-stand.html I found this on this site and my case basically exactly matched his. Although I have heard something about suspensory ligament damage. When I was young I didn'...
A. 26 August 2007: Not all penises were created equall. I am a female and I've seen a few and they're all different. Some point to the left others to the right. I have never encountered one that points down when guy is laying on his back, though. Usually points ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. He's convinced me to have sex, I'm nervous, any tips???
Q. hi guys,well I'm a teenager and i have a great bf i no I'm under aged but he has kind of convinced me to have sex with him.i was just wandering because it's my first time and I'm slightly nervous any tips on how to actually have sex?i no that sounds ...
A. 26 August 2007: Well, honey, there really isn't much to it. You lie there and he does most of the work. There are other positions but I suggest you stick to missionary for your first time. Since you mentioned that you are underage does that imply that the b... (read in full...)
Scarily, it felt someone was trying to sleep with me, my brothers deny having approached my bed but I have suspicions of the older brother!
Q. I'm freaked out a bit. I share a room w/ 2 brothers - a 19 year old and a 16 year old. I'm 17 and female. Last night, i felt someone near my bed, and it felt like someone wanted to sleep w/ me. I had my blanket over me... and i opened my eyes ...
A. 26 August 2007: First of all, it is unfortunate that you don't have your own personal space at your age. Secondly, this is an issue that should not be taken lightly. Teenage boys have raging hormones and do not always know how to deal with them. You need to tell ... (read in full...)
We watch porn together but i found a mag with only women in,he hid it from me, should i be hurt?
Q. My boyfriend and I watch porn movies and magazines together but I recently discovered a magazine that wasn't porn, just women,I feel more hurt because it wasn't porn and he hid it from me. Am I wrong in feeling this way? ...
A. 26 August 2007: All I can say is that men will be men. If the two of you watch dirty movies together he may have thought dirty mags were acceptable as well. Many men across america own nudie mags and have healthy relationships with their wives/girlfriends. ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity, what do i do?
Q. Hi everyone. I kinda need help. you see im a virgin and i think im ready to loose it to this guy i know. I mean like he is soo sweet and he makes me feel sooo good inside. but the thing is hes not a virgin. we talk about the subject "sex" when we a...
A. 25 August 2007: There are people who say to just do it and get it over with and others who want to make it "special." I personally don't think there is anything special about the first time. It's awkward and painful. The second time isn't much better. It takes a ... (read in full...)
Help, im 15 and my Girlfriend is 14. and possibley pregnant...
Q. Hello, i am 15 and my girlfriend is 14 we had unprotected sex, 3 days from now, and i am really worrying about her being pregnant, shes a very shy girl, and doesnt like doctors, injections, and so on... I only put it in 3-6 times and diddnt come....
A. 25 August 2007: I think I have a bit of advice to ease your weary mind. The chances of her being pregnant from what little you described are slimmer than slim to none. This does not under any circumstance make it okay. What were you thinking? Everytime you get ... (read in full...)
My Mom is afraid I will become a 'loser'. Maybe I should just prove her right!
Q. My first relationship I ever had was an abusive one, that was this year and I am 18 years old. I broke it off not too long ago, however the effects are still evident. My mum thinks that my ex bfs bad influences on me are still obvious and that ever ...
A. 25 August 2007: The question you need to ask yourself is does your mother's opinion of you define who you are? The answer is no, so try to avoid being spiteful. Her words may hurt, but what they show is that she loves you and is worried about you. She's attempting ... (read in full...)
What can I do during this painful waiting period while she second-thinks our relationship?
Q. I have dated this girl for the past 3 years and it's been great. We're good for each other and everyone at my school knows that we have a solid relationship. But just recently she said she wants to take a break so she can make sure that our ...
A. 25 August 2007: Whether you're young or old, love is a complicated web of mystery. One day you think everything is fine and the next day they're gone. You need to hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. There could be many reasons why she's wanting to ... (read in full...)
My inner lips are bigger than my outer lips! What will my husband to be think?
Q. i'm a female i think that sth is wrong in my vagina,i mean that i have an inner lip bigger than the other(meaning libia minora).it disturbs me so much and i'm going to get married,will i find any problem in intercourse and how my husband will think ...
A. 25 August 2007: If you are not experiencing any pain or discomfort then chances are there is nothing wrong with your vagina. Everyone's bodies are different and not all genitalia are alike. Many women have similar problems with their labia, but do not be afraid ... (read in full...)
I keep losing my erection mix-sex... why?
Q. I'm 20 and healthy. I was a virgin before I met my girlfriend. She is not, she had one partner before me, she said he was awful. Now we have had sex four times recently, on the first night I was in the missionary position. Everything was going ok, ...
A. 25 August 2007: When you don't feel your orgasm is there any semen present in the condom? Have you ever felt orgasm before during self-gratification? If you have and your equipment still works fine when you're "alone" then it could jsut be nerves. Perhaps you ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I'm still bothered by him seeing other girls
Q. Lived with longtime boyfriend of 6 yrs, Moved out because he did not want to take the next step, he has committment issues (at 45 yrs of age) also he wants to date other woman. But he still continues to text, email, calls to ask me out to dinner...
A. 25 August 2007: Plainly put, he wants to have his cake and eat it too. This man wants to have the benefit of your company with none of the strings attached. And as long as you allow him to believe it is acceptable the longer it will go on. Give him an ultimatum: ... (read in full...)
How weird is this?
Q. Well I have a question about my bf. Well we had been dating for about a month or so and we fell for each other and soon after were having sex. The usual. Whatever. Anyways, one time I was at his house and I was sitting across from him on his couch ...
A. 25 August 2007: Wow, that does seem strange. First and foremost you need to talk to him about it. Communication is key to a healthy happy relationship. It may sound gross, but maybe he likes to pleasure himself. It's good that he would rather pleasure himself ... (read in full...)
All the girls I've been attracted to seem to be incredibly unfaithful and unable to commit!
Q. Why can't I find a good girl? Every girl I encounter who I seem to get along with seems to be promiscuous. I know that sounds harsh, but it's true! All the girls I'm attracted to and likewise seem to be incredibly unfaithful and unable to commit...
A. 25 August 2007: Have you considered where you meet these women? Perhaps you should try church or the library or even the city park. There are plenty of nice girls out there if you look in the right places.
If you pick up a woman in a bar/club or at a frat par... (read in full...)
Should i be unfaithful or should i just end it?
Q. Hi, I got a bit of a juicy one for ya. I've been going out with my girlfriend a little over a year now, and we've had some really good times, along with a few rough patches. Lately, its been all good, really. However, I'm 22 and she is 25. I have ...
A. 25 August 2007: Well, by NO means should you be unfaithful to her. I can tell you that will hurt her more deeply than anything you could possibly do by cheating. Age doesn't have everything to do with how willing you are to commit. It depends on your state of ... (read in full...)
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