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I can relate to many of the problems identified and have always been able to come out of them with my head held high. I would like to help others do that to and see that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.
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Married teacher is always staring at me....what should I think?
Q. OMG, I just can't figure what's going on? (my male teacher) He's married and he's 32-33 - ALWAYS stares ONLY at me in class for so long and sometimes I look back, but he doesn't turn away and stares deeper in my eyes, so I instinctively felt that he ...
A. 10 April 2012: It is nice to be noticed and yes he probably is attracted to you. However, he is your teacher and you need to keep to the boundaries or he will lose his job.
When he stares at you, avoid staring back. Consider how you are wearing your uniform ... (read in full...)
I have no friends! How do I get out of this mess?
Q. i feel like i have no friends at all they have all gone there seperate ways and just don't bother texting or even replying i don't get invited to any parties or anywhere anymore i feel really left out and feel like im just billy no mates. ive ...
A. 29 December 2011: Best way to make friends is my finding an interest. I met most of my longest friends through music as I used to sing and perform in bands. Find something where you will be around people for a long time. This could also be voluntary work. A lot of ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my married boss!
Q. I'm madly in love with my boss. He's the company president and I'm his executive assistant. He's very good-looking and smart. I can't stop myself from faliing for him. He's living alone now but he's married and have kids in california which is very ...
A. 26 September 2011: You did not say whether he liked you or whether he has given you any clues that he fancies you.
A lot of people meet at work and form relationships. Just do not allow yourself to be used and made a fool out of.
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She never invites me to her home any more. Why does she only suggest we "get a room"instead? What's going on?
Q. Let's say you are in a relationship with woman where is has been off and on for years and have been to her place before, in the beginning. but now she moved and told you "she brought a house" and I live out of town but every time I come into town...
A. 26 September 2011: She is clearly hiding something. Either she is living with someone, or maybe she is embarrassed of her purchase. do you ever invite her to where you live?
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I do all the loving and giving but don't get much back in return
Q. im finding it very hard moving on from a relationship weve spilt up 6 wks ago and were together a year. ive got a daughter and he had a son. so the rountine was basically this,pretty much moved in with me as he had a job in my town as he lived ...
A. 24 September 2011: Sorry to be the bearer or bad news but you have allowed this guy to use you. You are treated the way you want to be by people. No one forces you.
Have a look at the things you were doing and what he was doing in return.
Let this experience ... (read in full...)
My parents are disgusted by me after they caught me masturbating
Q. Okay, so I'm around 19. I'm asian, and my family are catholic nuts. (No kidding, it's all they talk about) So lately i've been kind of stressed out because i recently got unemployed and looking for another job and school work was taking it's toll...
A. 24 September 2011: Masturbation is not a sin. It is natural. We all do it - even your parents. I feel what was most embarrassing was the way they caught you. It could have been worst. You could have been having full blown sex with a girl in the house - now that ... (read in full...)
I think my Dad's having an affair
Q. i think my dads having an affair. My parents have been married for 15 years,they argue reguarly and iv been thinking for the last 2 years that they were going to split up but they havent.The other day my dad was out and he'd left his phone charging...
A. 27 April 2011: You sound so mature for your age. I realise it is a very difficult situation for you. I dont think you should say any thing to any one. Firstly who should respect your dad's privacy. How would you like him reading your text messages.
Leave... (read in full...)
Obsessed or massive crush?
Q. There's this guy. We aren't really friends or anything but we have spoken. From the conversations we've had, he seems smart, interested in you and what you have to say and has a great sense of humour. I've known of him for about 7 months now, but ...
A. 30 March 2011: Its a shame they dont teach how to flirt at school as a lot of young people find it hard to make that initial break with someone they really like.
There are loads of articles on flirting on the internet. Read up.... (read in full...)
He wants space. Will I be able to heal if I have to move on?
Q. How do I get over him? I was with my fiance for almost three years. In that time we had a lot of ups and downs, mostly due to my mental illness. I cheated on him whilst I was ill and then tried to kill myself when we broke up, and then again a few...
A. 30 March 2011: Your illness must be really scaring him. You really need to work on a way of dealing with it or else you will find a lot of men coming and going. Do you want a man to be with you because they love you or feel sorry for you?
Mental health c... (read in full...)
I love her. She doesn't even like me. I don't know how to deal with it.
Q. i am 16 and i love this girl. She knows this...she doesn't like me...after knowing this she hates me now...she hesitates to talk to me and talks to my friends and other guys more...her friends like me...they think I'm a nice guy and i mostly t...
A. 30 March 2011: I experienced a guy loving me at the age of 16. He really upset me - why? Because I did not know him and he was too much in my face and he frighten me.
How can someone love someone they hardly know! You are probably doing what this guy did too ... (read in full...)
Has he lost interest in me?
Q. I am falling in love with this man, and he used to feel the same, but I think he may have gotten over me. I think this is my fault. I tried to tell myself I didn't love him, so I began to ignore his flirting, glances, and just him in general. Now he ...
A. 30 March 2011: If neither of you told each other how you felt about each other of course it will eventually go. Relationships start of with flirting. Some people can read body language really well, others take a bit longer. With you giving him the non-verbal ... (read in full...)
What does 'lets take a break' mean?
Q. MEN what is a man really trying to tell us women when he says lets take a break?...
A. 30 March 2011: I am not a man, but I use to get this a lot from an ex boyfriend. He wants to break up but does not want to say so too blatantly for fear of what you may do. He wants to see other women but if things dont work he wants you to be there waiting.
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He thinks he's gay. Is there any hope for this relationship?
Q. I've been with a guy for 8 years and have a child together. Recently he came to me and said that his confused and thinks he's gay. I told him to find out if he is or not. The other day he came to me and said that he gave a guy a bj, he said he liked ...
A. 30 March 2011: It sounds like he is having a crisis at the moment and experimenting. I can imagine how traumatic this must be for you. If you are still turning him on, you are clearly doing something right and there is clearly something still there. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Mid-life crisis, depression or right to feel this way?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 6 years, together for nearly 17 and we have a young son. We recently went through counselling on account of me getting seriously interested in sex over and above anything I've been interested in before. The ...
A. 30 March 2011: I didn't read your text fully but I really feel for you. You seem highly sexed, love your wife but are incompatible. It seems like there is just one answer. You only have one life. Do you want to spend the rest of your life feeling frustrated. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my teacher... I think?
Q. basically i have a obsession with my teacher. whenever hes behind me i feel sick and like im going to faint, when i'm in his class i'm quiet but he doesn't notice me? he notices the naughty ones, should i start being naughty? and well to finish this ...
A. 30 March 2011: Lots of girls have crushes on their teachers. Its your age and hormones. You will get over it. You dont want to attract attention to yourself, so being naughty is not going to help. You will just look stupid. See him as a friendly teacher. I ... (read in full...)
My depression ruins all my relationships
Q. Hi ,I've had anxiety and depression ,my entire life... Every relationship I've ever been in ,I've pushed the guy away with my worrying, flip outs and not feeling good enough... And right now the best guy I was ever with just broke up with me ...
A. 29 March 2011: I am not a medical person but I feel the best way to snap out of a depression is to throw yourself into something worth while that you will enjoy. Working, writing music, stories, animals. There must be something you enjoy.
I have suffered... (read in full...)
I just don't want to have sex with him anymore
Q. I am a 27year old female who has been in a relationship with a guy for 4years now. We have had a daughter together and we live together in a home with his parents. For the past 2 years after i had our daughter i am not interested in having sex with ...
A. 27 March 2011: You dont really want to leave this guy. You want change. However change is not going to happen unless you COMMUNICATE with him. Tell him exactly what you told us. You want to be treated and respect like a women. However, in times of equal ... (read in full...)
Fiance wears inappropriate clothing. Is she trying to attract other guys?
Q. Girls: My Fiance, wears clothes that are not appropriate, showing her cleavage, very tight pants, lots of perfume, make-up and hairstyle everytime!!! i feel insecure, what do you think girls, is she trying to impress other guys?...
A. 20 March 2011: She probably thinks this is what you like. Is this how she was dressed when you met her? If you dont like it tell her to tone down a bit. It is also embarrassing you as girls who dress like this do appear to look very tartish.... (read in full...)
He won't introduce me to his parents!
Q. hi am loving a guy for past five years.. but he is scared to tell his love to his parents or to introduce me.. now my parents looking a guy for me but my mind not ready for another relation and my lover know this pretty well he holding me back fro...
A. 20 March 2011: If you never want to get married and remain miserable and something that he is too embarrassed to introduce to his parents - stay with him.
If you want a NORMAL relationship, move on.
Often when men do not introduce you to their parents, t... (read in full...)
I need practical suggestions to help get over my crush on my married boss
Q. I'm a 42-year old divorcee. I had a crush on my boss who is 15 years younger. But the biggest problem is, he's married. I think he's also interested in me cos' had been getting many hints from him! I know it's wrong, so I tried to "disagree" with ...
A. 20 March 2011: It is so easy to form relationships with people with work with so closely. See him as a friend. You can love your friends. Dont me the older pathetic women who allows herself to be used and then asked to leave the organisation due to the ... (read in full...)
My obsession with this guy is consuming my life!!
Q. I would like honest answers to my problem. I am worried about myself. I am currently obsessed with a guy Ive only met twice. He lives far away so we are not together. I cant get over him. He fills my thoughts permanently to the point where my work ...
A. 20 March 2011: I know it sounds cruel but it sounds like you need counseling. You must have experienced some sort of rejection as a child. Something has happen to you that has damaged you. I am glad you realise it is not normal behaviour. You should have to ... (read in full...)
Mistress being dragged into marriage, please help!
Q. he lost his wife to ovarian cancer 4 months ago and has 2 kids,8 year old and 11 months.i have been his mistress for 2years.i have a son from a previous relationship but he lives with his dad.Problem:he wants me next to him always and wants us to ...
A. 20 March 2011: Just as you told us - tell him. Explain why you don't want another child. Communication is good.
You would think he would be mourning the lost of his wife, not thinking of impregnating another women so soon. what kind of man is he?... (read in full...)
I feel confused, bitter, angry and yet I can't seem to stop wanting contact with my ex...even though I'm married
Q. I'm obsessed with my ex-boyfriend and I'm married. How do I get over this? I dated my ex for 7 years saw that it wasn't going anywhere and wanted to marry someone who shared common values (faith, kids, family). I communicated this to my ex on many ...
A. 16 March 2011: If your ex wanted you he would have married you. I have seen this over and over where ex's are attracted to their ex partners when they see someone else is attracted to them.
Stay away from him. He is bad news. Concentrate on the man who took... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so jealous?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend now for almost a year. Started going together last April, but I moved away in August. We decided to keep things long distance. Hard. Anyway, back in December his friend that is a girl asks him to kiss...
A. 16 March 2011: It sounds like this girl is trying to make to make you feel the way you do and its working. Ignore her and concentrate on a relationship with your boyfriend but tell him that that incident did hurt you.
Some girls get a kick out of feeling ... (read in full...)
I got over him before, but now I like him again!
Q. I really like one of my best friends brother. He's a year younger than me but very mature for his age. I liked him two years ago but I was very deluded, my best friend was fine with it then, it actually made us really close. I got over him. But n...
A. 13 March 2011: If you like someone tell let them know discreetly. If he is in a relationship, you have to decided if you want to embarrass yourself. We only live once and its always best to live know that you tried that in regret.... (read in full...)
Why do I feel scared and nervous with him?
Q. I met this guy a few months ago and i kind of got the feeling that he liked me and i liked him back. So we would text and get to know eachother but flirt sometimes. But the thing was he wouldnt make a move and i wouldnt either i was too shy. But ...
A. 13 March 2011: I dont think you are scared of him, but more what he may do to you if you allow him. Its your body. Just because he has had sex with other girls does not mean he HAS to have sex with you. If you are not ready do not do it. Preferably do not do ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and want to have sex...Advice?
Q. Hello Everyone, I'm 15 years old and recently I have started thinking about relationships and sex . . . Firstly I'm not in a relationship I prefer to focus on my studies for now and then think about getting into a relationship, which will proba...
A. 13 March 2011: I dont understand why you are asking these questions for preparation in 5 - 6 years time. If you are thinking of doing it now, you are far too young and will be branded cheap by boys who use you and then later go off and marry the girls who ... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend through his divorce?
Q. Please help I am very caring for my boyfriends feelings. He is going through his second divorce I try not to ask to many question but i need to know whats going on. He has told me he wants the divorce done, he says its taking to long. I have not ...
A. 13 March 2011: Be a shoulder for him to lean on when he needs one. Do not keep prying. Let him tell you what he wants to on his own time. Its best that you are not living with him while he is going through this as it gives him time to think things through. Be ... (read in full...)
Are these signs that he is interested in me??
Q. so i've posted other Q's on here about a guy I have a thing for, but i'm not sure how he feels about me. one day he cant stop starring at me, messes up words when i come into the room, looks at me instead of who he's talking to, is playfighting ...
A. 13 March 2011: It sounds like there is an attraction but he sounds young and not sure how to develop it probably due to immaturity. Help him out if you like him. Become his friend. I did not feel it was appropriate him touching you in a sexual manner. If you ... (read in full...)
This guy says he likes me but always criticizes me for being clingy. Should I move on or work on not being clingy?
Q. This guy says he likes me but is kind of a jerk. He says I'm clingy and i freak him out sometimes ....but he still wants to be with me. I have no clue what to do... should I work on not being clingy or should i move on ?...
A. 13 March 2011: If he did not like you, he would not try to help by telling you what the problem is. Do you understanding what clingy means? Its normally someone you acts as if they have no live of their own and are trying to live in his. You are always there... (read in full...)
My boyfriend values me at the same level as his gym!!
Q. Iv been going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months. We always go through phases where we fall out at least once a day. I know its partly my fault but I genuinely can't see how. I hate it when we fall out and so does he but it never seems to stop ...
A. 13 March 2011: I think a qualification in how to deal with relationships should be placed on the school's national curriculum, so many girls make the same mistake. You are making him the centre of your life. It is clear that you are not his. He is also simil... (read in full...)
My boyfriend leapt away from me like a scalded cat at the very mention of sex!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been unable to have sex as I have been finding it really painful. The last time we had sex was 18 months ago. I found out that a medical condition was causing it which is now cured. We have been satisfying each other in ...
A. 13 March 2011: You have not stated what the medical condition was. Maybe he does not understand what it was and needed more information. I was suggest sitting down with him and talking about it. If he did not want you, I dont think he would be allowing you to ... (read in full...)
I was cheated upon and although we're trying to make it work again, I cant get over it...
Q. Hi all, About two years ago I seperated with my wife of hour years because I wasn't happy in the relationship. There was no big drama, we had just got together far too young and hadn't matured before marriage. A few months later I met a girl an...
A. 13 March 2011: If there is now trust in a relationship, it is not going to work. You will always feel paranoid. Making a move to another country is a huge commitment. You need to think whether you are doing this for you or for her.
Long distance relation... (read in full...)
If there's no one else in his life, then why did he push me away??
Q. Why did my boyfriend do that? did he really love me? ? I was with my ex boyfriend for 5months, we were so in love and everyone thought. We were the cutesy couple. I believed him when he told me he loved me, but I was so paranoid in our relat...
A. 13 March 2011: When relationships begin there needs to be a bonding time, a time to get to know each other. Five months is a very short time. You may think you were in love but I believe it was more infatuation and lust. This is good as most relationships start ... (read in full...)
If there's no one else in his life, then why did he push me away??
Q. Why did my boyfriend do that? did he really love me? ? I was with my ex boyfriend for 5months, we were so in love and everyone thought. We were the cutesy couple. I believed him when he told me he loved me, but I was so paranoid in our relat...
A. 13 March 2011: When relationships begin there needs to be a bonding time, a time to get to know each other. Five months is a very short time. You may think you were in love but I believe it was more infatuation and lust. This is good as most relationships start ... (read in full...)
Should I let him see his son?
Q. my boyfriend of 3 years has agreed to let his ex-wife move back in with him. she left him and the kids and moved country. he gave up his job to raise the kids. she now wants back into the house and he has agreed for the kids sake to share the ...
A. 7 March 2011: Why does he not move in with you, its sounds logical and less complicated. He could rent out the house to the ex-wife!... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits... With my ex?! Help!
Q. Me and my ex dated for 2 months. We had a great relationship, it was fun, cute, and made me really happy. His friends are friends with my friends, and we always hung out. It worked out great. And before we dated me and him were great friends too. He ...
A. 7 March 2011: He needs to make it clear what he wants from you. Either he openly admits that you are his girlfriend or you go out with someone else. Dont let him use you. How do you know he's not going to jump into the arms of someone and then say to you, we ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend genuinely cares about me, but has issues with porn and looking at other women
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. When we initially started dating he seemed flawless! After we began to get serious I started finding porn stashes in his room, and caught him staring at women. It really hurt me, to the extent of making ...
A. 7 March 2011: You have not said how old your boyfriend is but he sounds very young and immature. Its obvious he has a high sex drive by the way you have described him. It does not sound like any amount of talking is going to change him. Either you love him for ... (read in full...)
I just want to know if you can or not....
Q. I am a virgin but my boyfriend has been fingering me a few times. I was wandering if there is any way I can make my vagina hole smaller again???...
A. 27 February 2011: What your boyfriend is doing will not increase the size. The muscles stretch and then recline. As long as he has not gone too deep, you should still have your virginity intact.When aroused everything feels bigger.
Do not allow your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I'm not that experienced but my boyfriend is, I need help..
Q. Okay so my boyfriend has been pretty sexually active before and I haven't. I want to know how to practice giving a blowjob before I do it on him?...
A. 27 February 2011: As long as you are old enough, he sound guide you. No DVD will teach you. It is quite an intimate act so ensure that you are ready.
Dont feel forced into doing something that you are not ready to do.... (read in full...)
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