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anonymous
writes:My husband is circumsized, and lately I've found myself CRAVING sex with an uncircumcised man. I've been with both cut and uncut men before, and hands-down I've found sex with uncut men to be more pleasurable. My husband knows that I've been with uncut men in the past and early in our relationship he asked if there was any difference between the two. Not wanting to hurt his feeling since I know he regrets being circumcised at birth, I told him that there's no difference. I felt terrible lying to him, but I didn't know what else to say, and I didn't want to give him a complex, especially over something that's not his fault.I thought I'd be able to live the rest of my life only being with a cut man, but lately I just can't get the thought out of my head of how nice it would be to be with an uncut man again. I hate feeling this way because it's not like my husband asked to be circumcised, and there's nothing that he can do about it. I've even wondered if there is maybe a simulated uncut vibrator or something that I could get, but I think that might hurt my husband's feelings as well. We've both looked into foreskin restoration and it's really not practical so that's out of the question too. I just kind of get this sinking feeling when I consider living the rest of my life, never feeling the wonderful sensations of having sex with an uncut man again. What the heck can I do to get over this?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 Here you have mistaken concept about 'sex-pleasure'
What is the root of pleasure, sex organ and its size or type? does it a determining factor? If anybody think so, then it is a gross mistake, and missing most important aspect of pleasure.
see, the true vision about pleasure is this: sex organ- of male and even of female also, do serve only one purpose, just it express pleasure through hardness/wetness...but it is not in itself a root of pleasure. It is chemistry or hormone, of the body, and its quality determine the strength of 'wave of pleasure. It is so, because after male ejaculation no one feel any pleasure...is the point of proof. It is evidenced. it is universal evidence without any dispute. In female, without proper wetness, sex became painful for female and even for male also....have you observe this difference?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 December 2009):
 Based on the two key words "drying" and "fluid", my suggestion is to load up on the lube. I think perhaps the lubrication may be an issue. Is it possible that you are producing less? Perimenopause, perhaps?
Anyway, give that a try and see if things don't feel more like you're hoping. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn response to one of the anonymous respondents, yes this question is for real.
I was with two uncut men in the past, both were sort of flings and I didn't form any strong emotional attachments with either of them. So this isn't the case of my imparting any emotional feelings associated with these guys to their penises.
I know that other women here have posted that there is no difference but that was not the case with me. Maybe it has to do with how my particular lady-bits are oriented, or maybe it has to do with where my most sensitive areas are, but I felt such a difference between my cut and uncut lovers. One big difference I noted was the lack of any sort of drying out during any prolonged love-making. Also in general the feelings of movement had a far more deliciously fluid quality to them, everything just feels so smooth and effortless and natural. I haven't been with tons of men but I've been with enough to note that this wasn't a difference of size or shape and it definitely had to do with the presence or lack of foreskin.
I'm certainly not planning on leaving my husband only because I want to be with someone who is uncircumcised (that would be silly), I'm just trying to think if there is maybe some way to get over this?
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reader, duce00 +, writes (15 December 2009):
 If I had to guess I would say that the OP associates an uncut penis with a previous lover who pleasured her in a way her husband does not. Call me unkind, but there doesn't seem to be a more logical explanation here.
If my assumption is right then maybe there are some areas of your sex life that could be improved to ease your fascination with uncircumcised penis's.
All I know for sure is that the only attribute I have ever found lacking in a woman I have been with had nothing to do with her body. I think that is also the message you are hearing from the women in this post regarding men and their dicks.
It is a two way street...but on a different level if you catch my drift.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): I don't understand how uncut could be better. But Google TLC Tugger for a restoration product.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): How shallow can this question be.
It's the same as saying I can't stay married with my wife because the shape of her ear is not exactly as I dream it to be...so when I nibble on it, it feels different.
I think certain compromises are necessary in ANY relationship. If you can't overlook this minor issue---I have doubts about the longevity of the relationship and depth of your commitment.
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reader, Luvr Buoy  +, writes (15 December 2009):
Many ppl have differences preferences... More like a fettish... Some ppl have a fettish for nice knees, or nice hair or lips... u just have a fettish for a foreskin... I think it's all about ur fettish and thinking... try thinking freaky things about ur husband... that may help! God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): I had both, i never felt any difference. I heard that circumsized men last longer, but w/my experience there was never significant difference.
May be you havea sinking feeling because you realized it's not going to happen w/any men, but your husband
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reader, Violet009  +, writes (15 December 2009):
 My two main relationships I've had was with one cut and one uncut. I honestly didnt notice any difference during sex. I agree with other posters and really curious as to what made it so much better for you?
I have no personal preference. Its the man I love as a whole, cut or uncut :)
I think this is probably just a psychological thing. Perhaps the idea of never being with an uncut man translates as never being with another man again? But I dont know as you sound very happy apart from this strange issue.
Hope it works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): I have to ask....is this question even for real?
It almost seems to as if you are looking for justification maybe go outside your marriage.
I have slept with my fair share of guys and there is no difference b/w a circumcised or non-circumcised man. I honestly question the motivation and thinking from anyone who says so. Can you honestly sit there and say you feel a difference in a few milimeters of skin?
Come on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): "starrbaby" you asked the female poster what the difference is, but as the owner of an uncut penis, maybe I can help?
I have been told that it feels good having my foreskin roll back on entry, and cover again on almost withdrawal, the major feeling coming from the outer inch or two of the vagina and g-spot, of course.
A tight vagina and/or thick penis accentuates the effect....
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 December 2009):
I really think that it's all in your head, there really is no difference. Maybe the uncircumsized guy just happened to have a different shaped penis that pleasured you better...because having a foreskin shouldn't make any difference.
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reader, called Steve  +, writes (14 December 2009):
 As the skin is cut to the length and joined behind the glans when erect, there is little difference between the two when erect.
The only difference is when flaccid. The skin is just more 'floppy and loose'.
I feel the difference is purely personal preference when not erect, there is very little/no difference.
I find that as the Glans are always exposed, it is easier to stimulate a 'clean' Penis. The hygiene issues speak for themselves...
Steve
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (14 December 2009):
 I am at a loss as to why you feel there is a difference, because physically during sex there is none.
It is all psychological.
A man who is not circumcised will find that his foreskin retracts upon vaginal entry. No ifs or buts about it. Penile skin is made almost specifically to do that very thing.
So sex with a cut or uncut man is the same. The only difference is in the 'look' of the penis. There is absolutely no difference in 'feel'.
I know this, as I am not circumcised.
Strange question, hope I helped a little.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (14 December 2009):
 Honestly, I'm with Tisha on this one. I'm a cut man and always figured uncut is better, but don't know how MUCH better or how it's too different.
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reader, starrbaby +, writes (14 December 2009):
 Girl, I dunno what to tell you about that but I have a question for you... what is the difference? I myself have only been with ONE man uncircumsized. I couldn't tell anything spectacular or so different about it. He was smaller than the average man but physically I couldn't tell without him telling me. So if you don't mind drop me a line and share with me...I am very curious now. LOL!!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 December 2009):
I'm dying of curiousity. What's the difference, if you can manage to tell us without being too explicit? Just use clinical terms and keep the tone dry. I gather that you didn't use condoms with any of these men?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Well, there is possibly good news for you both.
I have seen a television programme in which it described, and showed, men having their foreskins "restored" - yes, on TV!
I doubt that you would have seen it in the States, but as it was billed as "educational", it was allowed here, late at night and on a minority channel.
OK, the procedure as I recall wasn't particularly gruesome or painful, and entailed placing a thimle-like device under what remained of the foreskin and rolling it over the thimble, and fixing the foreskin there.
Repeated treatments eventually lengthened the foreskin back to its original size, and function was fully restored.
My memory is not 100% on this, because as I am uncut myself, I didn't need to take notes!
Maybe a Google search will find more details, or even a video clip?
Good luck.
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