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41-50,
anonymous
writes: Why does my lover push and pull? I am actually quite fed up with it. After 5 years, I don't want to be ignored and sent minimal three word texts. Have told him as much. I would much rather be told if he needed his space, didn't want to message. Not dealing with this BS push and pull behavior. If he wants to stay away, then he should just stay away. I don't appreciate such games and surely at 40, this is not needed. I am just exhausted with this behavior- and always wondering what's going on. Should I just walk now and stop contact?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 February 2016):
 You are correct @ 40 pushing or pulling on things is too much effort. Why waste time and energy pushing or pulling on anything just relax life is short pushing on stuff is hard work then pulling on it is way over the line. Ya'll going to wear yourselves out before you turn 50 so Stop!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (19 February 2016):
 "Should I just walk now and stop contact?"
Yes.....
Isn't that easy?
Good luck...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 February 2016):
 He obviously doesn't care for you as much as you do for him. Dump and get someone who actually wants to be with you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 February 2016):
 He can't "play" the push/pull if you don't play along.
My guess is.. the guy is married? So you are NOT the top priority.
You make this ALL his decision, why?
If you are sick of it, CUT the cord! Why is it up to HIM alone to decide that this doesn't work for you any more?
Make a choice. Either suck it up or make it stop.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (19 February 2016):
 Stop being so available. It sounds like you are at his beck and call. You are the other side of this push pull game. So decide you aren't go to play by his rules anymore. It's time to turn the tables girl!
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