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writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months now.We communicate well with each other and always have fun together. However, whenever I talk about my friends (which are mostly male) he'll start to get jealous. I bring up a simple topic like borrowing something from my guy friend and he'll get jealous. He even went as far as saying "she's mine" to a male friend of mine when we were just playing video games. I'm unsure if he trusts me or not. He's always questioning where I go, what I watch, and who I hang out with. Please help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 February 2016):
 This can be the beginning off very worrying behavior that may lie ahead. Yes you are right he doesn't trust you, he wants you all to himself and he feels like he is sharing you with other guys. This is not a good mind frame for him to be in, as this could progress in to him being possessive and abusive towards you at a later date.
So what you need to do now is to sit down with him, tell him that it was unforgivable what he said to your friend, explain to him that you are your own person that you do not belong to him. If he is continuously asking you where you are etc then you need to tell him you feel suffocated. Give him the chance to change, tell him if he does not begin trusting you then it is over. If he doesn't change or apologize for his behavior I would suggest leaving him, before it gets worse.
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reader, ellsie96  +, writes (3 February 2016):
 You're right. He doesn't trust you. But that's not your problem, it's his! He's clearly insecure and feels threatened by almost every guy you speak to, but don't feel like this is your fault.Guys who need to continuously check up on their girlfriends are not good ones to have - this is where a very unhealthy relationship stems from, sometimes even becoming abusive later down the line.You've only been with him for 3 months and my advice is to get out of this now. No man should treat his girlfriend like she is his, like she is something to be owned and possessed. Men like that need to learn how to respect women before they can truly be in a functioning, healthy and happy relationship.Maybe later down the line when he has matured more or become less insecure you could try again - but right now? You're young, enjoy it and don't waste your time on someone like this.Hope this helps :)
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reader, Denizen +, writes (3 February 2016):
 This is the time when he, and you, have to realise that you are NOT his. You are NOT a possession or a trophy. You WILL choose your own friends. You WILL decide who YOU talk to or not.
Insane jealousy is terrible to live with. Either he chills out, or you should find someone who is comfortable with you being who you are, and who you want to be.
Now is the right time to start standing up for your independence. The idea of women as chattels went out donkeys' years ago.
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