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writes:Hey, im 14 and my boyfriends 15. i'm worried about his sexuality and i'm not sure if its just rumors starting to sink in or if he really is. don't get me wrong he is really sweet and very funny but sometimes he sends off signals. when we first started dating people questioned why and would say things like "didnt he come out last year?" i told him what i heard and asked him about it, he of course denied it and said it was just a rumor. another thing is that he was on the cheerleading team at our school which caused alot of those rumors. i hate to think that he is but i can't help but wonder. please help, thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Don't listen to what other people tell you. If YOU think he is gay, then maybe break it off, but dont break it off based on what others think. Others are not the one dating him, you are. Therefor only your opinion matters.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (13 December 2009):
don't pressure him about it. Make him your friend and confide in him a little so that he feels you can be trusted. Then let him know you would be ok with it if he was bisexual. After a little while he will open up and admit whatever he is. Then you ca decide to stay with him. Make him think its ok whatever he is so you get the truth
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reader, lucy.whittaker  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 Hey,
I think that you shouldn't worry too much about it, rumours are hurtful and childish, and if you can rise above them then it shows a real strength of character. You're still young, and at 14/15 a lot of people are still working out who they are. The most important thing to remember is that if that by any chance he does turn out to be gay, it is NOT your fault. The same thing happened to me, and I spent a long time beating myself up about it. Realistically his orientation isn't anything to do with you. Although I'd bet that they are just rumours and that nothing will come of them. Just hold your head high and don't bother with them.
Good Luck,
Lucy x x x
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 well because you and he are really still very young, and because it is very unlikely that you and he are likely to end up living happily ever after (because as you mature you will both change and probably go in differnt directions), and because you are very, very sensible and wont be indulging in sexual activity for a few years yet, his sexuality shouldnt be a factor in your relationship. Rather focus on the fact you enjoy each other's company, have laughs together and enjoy the same sorts of things
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