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writes:Ok i am 13 years old and have a girlfriend who is friged but dosent want to be and she gets scared and backs away when i try to kiss OR EVEN HUG HER i like her alot and really dont want to dump her but for weeks now it seems that she dosent even want to hang around with me at school also there is a boy who ceeps trying to break us up should i beat him up for it or warn him to stay away PLEASSSSSSE
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reader, Blamongo8 +, writes (3 January 2010):
My advice is do nothing. If she loves you she will hang out with you again, and you will eventually get to the physical side of things. I don't think you should beat this other kid up. It would be pointless and it would only get yourself in trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): I had the same sort of problem with my girlfriend, but I wouldn't say she was frigid (That's kinda harsh). I was just patient and it ended up being two months before she was ready to kiss. I'm glad I waited though, and as for the other guy, just ignore him and he will go away.
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reader, jozzerrrr +, writes (17 December 2009):
Hi thanks to all you people who have wrote in apart from the ones sending bad things in i cant beleve so many people take things like that the wrong way and thankuou espessially to the thirteen year old yours was the most helpfull we are both verry happy now... THANKS AGAIN :)
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reader, lolita14  +, writes (14 December 2009):
 Talk to her! She might be too nervous or there might be something wrong in her life (with her friends or at home). don't call her frigid, it's just too harsh. trust me. ignore this guy, and wait for your girlfriend, if you really like her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): fail, but a win in its own way :)
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (14 December 2009):
 For goodness sake! You are both only 13, that is waaay to young to be accusing anyone of being frigid - do you even know what it means??? Its actually a pretty nasty and hurtful insult.
I feel sorry for your girlfriend. If you really cared about her at all, you would be willing to wait as long as needed for her to be comfortable with the idea of kissing.
She is 13, which believe it or not is very young to be having bf/gf relations, let alone, kissing or anything else. Girls get nervous, scared, and essentially take time to TRUST the boy we are with. At the moment, ultimately she cannot trust you, because of the way you are behaving.
If you are pushing her into something she isnt ready for and calling her frigid, im sorry, but that makes you a pretty selfish boyfriend. You are only thinking about yourself.
Now is the time to show that you are mature - go at her pace and wait until she is ready - and if that means waiting weeks or even months, then that is what you have to do, IF you really care about her.
If you are only after a bit of kissing, or worse, then spare this poor girls emotions and find someone who doesnt care if you use them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Maybe deep down she senses that your a jerk and not to be trusted. Women are good at that, and odds are good your going to see a pattern of this kind of response.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Well.... take it from a girls point of view, i get nervous with guys all thee time. But you should really just talk to her see how she feels. Then you can take a step forward but don't go too fast. Take it slow and be respective of her decisions. I am 13 too, and she is not doing anything that i wouldn't do. Well have your girlfriend start out by sitting bye you then see how she feels with putting you arm around he shoulders dont go by her waist it will just make her even more nervous... If you need anymore help with this, just send me a message okay? Well wish you lots of luck.
♥ sighned- Confused by Myself
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 Have you considered that she could be nervous, have you considered she might not be ready to kiss, 13 is very young to be going around accusing people of being frigid.
Back off a little, relax, take one day at a time, you dont need physical contact to enjoy each other's company, have fun, laugh a lot, and build a nice firm foundation, and I'll bet you anything once she feels safe and secure in your company she'll be very happy to kiss you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 December 2009):
First of all, don't beat that guy up. Girls are not impressed with a violent tough guy. Not the happy ones anyway.
It sounds to me like your girlfriend us just very nervous. You're still young, as is she, so don't rush it. Just spend time with her, get to know her and make sure she knows you can be trusted and that you're a good guy. She'll open up a bit more. Take time over her.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 December 2009):
If you are your girlfriend's first boyfriend, then she's probably just really nervous and scared. It can be that way when you're only 13. As far as the other boy...he's not worth your time or energy; just ignore him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): give her a few more days then have a talk with her.she is probably just nervouse.
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