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writes:i keep having really long vivid not very nice dreams. i wouldn't call them nightmares because they don't scare me as such, they are just unpleasant and do not give me restful sleep as i seem to act out my dreams in my sleep (or thats how my muscles feel when i wake up).there does now seem to be a theme emerging, its me running. in both dreams i have been running away from a relative who has upset me, both in my dream and in my waking life, but then it changes, i no longer feel the need to run from them but i can hear my fiance either calling me or chasing after me and i have this overwhelming urge to keep running. last night i was running round streets i had never seen before and i ended up climbing a tree which turned into a climbing frame. as i hit the dead end i could hear and see my fiance catch up with me and i screamed and woke up, rather than being relieved to have him take care of me which i know he would do in real life.i would really like to know what this means as it is driving me crazy. also does anyone have any suggestions as to how i could stop dreaming, even just for a few nights so i can actually get some rest. thanks
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 December 2009):
 The best place to start would be to reread the answer from Anonymous lady, she seems to have a very good handle on dream interpretation, I also think the old saying "mother knows best" has more than a grain of truth in it, perhaps listen to your mother, and because I get the feeling you are going to discount what she says, listen to her more than once.
Ask her what she see as being the main stumbling blocks to this relationship of yours working out.
Dreams are very powerful, some people claim they are just our subconscious working on our behalf and other claim they are messages from our spiritual guides, whichever you chose to believe their power is not diminished one iota!
Listen to your dreams, and listen to your mother, she has your best interests at heart!
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reader, PixiePie +, writes (13 December 2009):
PixiePie is verified as being by the original poster of the question how do i do this??
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (13 December 2009):
In reply to you more recent question, it would appear so!
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reader, PixiePie +, writes (13 December 2009):
PixiePie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou so much for my help but i see that i have not given enough information.
the relative in my dreams is either my mother or my grandad.
i understand 17 being seen as too young to be engaged but i don't.
and probably the biggest bit of information so far is that S (my fiance) is also my cousin. i have come to terms with falling in love with a relative and no longer see him as that.
my mother has a problem with it, i don't expect her to be ok with it, but i have to choose between spending time with her and spending time with S. she also bitches about him to me saying he's this and that when i am utterly in love with him which is hurtful.
my grandad treats me differently from everyone else in the family, even S. he treats S fine, but has all but disowned me, which i feel very hurt about as i have done no more wrong than S has.
i agree that i need to address what my dream is telling me, and in fact today it has been playing on my mind so much i nearly broke up with S but i could't go through with it, it just didn't feel right and i know it would make me more unhappy not less.
the trouble is i don't know how to get out of this trap i am in, is that the only way to rid me of these dreams?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Something is really bothering you. That is why you have these dreams. When did they start?
My initial though was the same as Aunty BimBim. If your age is correct (16-17) then you are too young to be engaged. Even if it is not the correct age, the dream tells me that you are unhappy with having a fiance. Nothing personal against him. Every person you meet in your dream is a symbol, and not necessarily of the real person. You seeing your finace and screaming, even though awake you would be happy to see him. It means you are worried about the situation you are in, the state of being engaged.
Running away is what it is: it's trying to escape. You didnt tell us why this one relative is upsetting to you? But as already mentioned: once you deal with the situation when you are awake, the dreams will change. Dreams are what your subconsciousness picks up from your consciousness. What the conscious hasn't dealt with properly, the unconsciousness brings to your attention.
The fact that your dreams are long and vivid, as well as having an effect on your body (you feel it in your muscles) points to the importance and severity of these dreams. You should take them seriously, because if you do not deal with these things in your life you can end up worse off.
You are looking for escape routes, ways to get out. But you have captured yourself. Only you can say what is truly worrying you.
One last clue though. "but then it changes, i no longer feel the need to run from them but i can hear my fiance either calling me or chasing after me and i have this overwhelming urge to keep running." Is this the same dream, or the dream changing into another one? The dreams being linked together can mean either you receive a new worry, or there is another worry on top of the older one. Your fiance can be the one releasing your from the old worry, but in doing so he becomes the new worry. Or, your fiancee takes precedence. The "problem" you have with being engaged, or with being with him, or the situation he puts you in, has taken precedence over your past worries. In that case you have two concerns, two issues you need to address.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): HI,
All of us have weird vivid dreams sometimes. I am not sure what running in your dreams means, but I know that certian medications can make you have really weird dreams. If you are on any medications, talk to your DR.
I have also found in my life that once I tell someone my weird dreams I tend not to have them again.
Good luck.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (13 December 2009):
A quick google (because I can't find my Dictionary of Dreams book by Betty Bethards the best one ever!) shows that your running away dreams mean that you are avoiding an issue.
Based on your age listed on your ID, naturally I have to assume that you are too young to be engaged or thinking about marriage and this could be one of the issues you are avoiding, same with the relative you appear to be having some problems with.
Deal with your waking problems and your sleep problems should alieviate.
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