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writes:My ex and I broke up 6 months ago. We started out in a wrong way both our marriages were ending when we met. I was in an abusive marriage . He was and his now exwife had been living as roommates for 3 years ( his ex wife told me this herself, said we made great room mates)About 3 months after meeting we end our marriages and were together for 2 years before we broke up. We both worked on issues we had . We have started dating something we did not before. We both love each other deeply.Please don't tell me a cheater is always a cheater or that we were wrong to start as an affair I know these things.AFter 6 months apart and starting like a normal couple can this work out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't think once a cheater always a cheater , I have just been told this over the 2 years we were dating .
We have started the whole going to dinner coffee , out for drinks over the past three weeks and it is going well.
THe trust is there between us we are very open with each other always have been .
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 I am a bit confused, in light of the fact he and his wife had effectively stopped living as partners such a long time ago, he doesn't sound like a cheater to me.
I say go for it, the fact you have both worked on your pasts and are now willing to restart your relationship from the beginning with dating etc, would indicate a willingness on both parts to get this one right!!
Good luck, now that you both know what NOT to do I think you have an excellent chance of making this one work!
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (13 December 2009):
CAN it work out? yes. Is it likely, no.
It will take a great deal of commitment, transparency, and communication on both of your parts. The old "once a cheater always a cheater" mantra isn't exactly correct. Often, but not always.
Being patient, communicative, and above all, open and transparent with one another's whereabouts, and goings on will go a long way to helping make it work.
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