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writes:Help. This is really weird and I don't know why I'm doing this but anyway.I'm 13 and I just started my period this afternoon. I have already had a "slight leakage" or watever so technically this is my second period. And my mum got me a box of pads at the start of the year so I have some (also II earn money and know were to get pads from).My only problem is I don't want to tell my mum. I cant even bring myself to say the word "period" out loud, I just break down and stat crying.I don't want to tell my mum cause it's not like I'm very close to her. She IS my mum but the last time I came to her with advise was two years ago. It sounds harsh but I can't stand her, were too alike (independent) I made up my mind a few months ago and ever since it's getting harder to try and love her.So what do I do??I Can see myself never telling her and getting by on my own, but I will eventually get my period at the beach and I have no clue about tampons.And I'm not the kinda person who would tell my friends, so I Forced to ask a bunch of randoms on the internet.Please help:):))
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): FROM ORIGINAL ASKER
Some of the people who have answered this question don't realize that I DON'T TALK TO MY MUM, end of story- period (pun intended). it's awkward and doesn't go around boundaries of her getting me to places or how her day was, that's about it.
It sounds sad but that's my life.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 You should really talk to your mum, you never know, one day she may not be around for you anymore.
My mum and i were never that close, until dad died and my brother moved to Australia. Now we talk about everything!
If all else fails, talk to your doctor, he/she should be able to answer any questions you have. Best of luck hun x
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reader, londonmiss +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Hey,
You're right, your mum is like you, she also once had a first period and told her mum about it!
Listen, all women have periods, it's natural, it's part of the life cycle! A period is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of, you should be grateful you have one! Although it is something new and scary at the moment, in a year or maybe in a few months you'll wonder what all the fuss was about!
To tell your mum, when she is by herself just tell her! She will most likely give you a hug and be happy that her baby is now growing up hahaha. You can still keep you're independence and yeah as you said all you have to do is use the pads, but it's nice to get a bit of advice and sympathy especially when you have a stomachache one day or you are a bit moody :)
Honestly, don't worry! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): I am exactly the same as you!!!
I've never admitted to my mum I've started my period and I'm 18 now
and started when I was 11!!!
My mum fortunately buys them without discussing it because we're not close at all, but you could say you have stomach cramps and it really hurts, ask for a hot water bottle or painkillers and she should get the point.
She'll probably know with your mood swings anyway, but you could just slip hints in without actually confessing to her.
I really understand how you feel, but she should pick up on it soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Tampons aren't that bad, and you can even find demos online for how to use them. But, you should tell your mom.. you can just say, 'thanks for these' and hold up the box and she'll get it. It's something all women get and it can be a bonding experience for you. Maybe you can write her a letter, leave a used pad in her bathroom trashcan or go shopping in the grocery store together and go down the isle and start browsing. Get it over with though, it's better that she knows for medical reasons too. She can sympathize when you need pain reliever and help answer questions. Plus, if you wait too long, it could get worse. My mom took me shopping when she found out, she bought me a really expensive dress and stuff because 'I was a woman now'. But didn't make it into a big deal and embarrass me. She was just like, 'oh, well, let's go eat chocolate and buy things' I know it's hard, but you gotta figure out a way... you can do it!
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (4 October 2010):
 well, this random is okay with your being forced to speak with me .....
your hormones are going crazy .... and this could be part of the reason you are having problems communicating with your mum. It also explains the breaking down and crying. And what's more, mothers are such embaressing creatures, the more we can avoid them until we are about 25 or so the better hahaha.
Don't give up on your mum totally, you never know she might come in handy one day, and in the meantime, get a packet of tampons and practice with them, I'm not sure if Tampax are still on the market, but some people preferred those because they had an applicator, but there are a few mini brands around too that you might be better starting off with. Just go cruise the aisles, and be thankful you dont have to sneak into the chemist and ask for a "brown parcel" like I had to, hahaha as if nobody knew what it was!!!
Chin up, it only gets worse from here ....
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Well seeing as she's already got you a pack of pads she kind of already knows anyway. Whether you want to tell her that you've started your period "properly" now or not is up to you.
As for the tampons, don't worry, they always come with instructions.
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