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writes:I never thought this would be me. I never thought I would be in this type of situation, ever. Especially not with someone who I thought was my bestfriend. Me and my "bestfriend" had sort of a fwb thing going on while he had a girlfriend. This has been continuing on and off and even though we haven't done anything physical lately (in about a month?) we have continued sexting. The thing that is driving me insane is that I think throughout this whole thing we lost our friendship. My friend shows no reciprocation. I do everything for him! Whenever he needs help with anything I'm there. And he's says how much he appreciated everything I do but I don't think that makes a difference if he's not doing anything for me... I've done so much for him! I've stayed up helping him with work as long as it took and I've tried to support him whenver he needed it but he never tries to do the same. Sometimes I feel like most of the time we talk or hangout is because I'm doing domething for him!Also, he asked another girl (not his gf) to be his date for a big event. The funny thing is, he was asking me for explicit pictures just this week. I didn't let it bother me for the night but I am really mad about it. Do I have a right to be? I just feel done with it all...I feel so tired of all of this drama and I'm tired of doing so much and not getting anything in return. I'm putting alot into a friendship and he's not even trying!And, I don't know what this dude wants! This week I was mad at him and not talking to him and he kept trying to talk to me the whole time. I was ignoring him or barely talking to him when I saw him in person and then I was getting numerous text messages from him asking me to please talk to him. Why? Why does it bother him so much when I'm mad at him? I'm thinking I need to completely forget about this guy right? It's just really hard because we've been friends for about four years. It's hard to let this friendship go. Please help? Any advice? If I do need to let go, any advice about how to go about doing this? Thanks everyone :).
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 This dude wants his girlfriend. He also wants to take a different girl to a big event. He also wants you to be available to help him with his work, and to open your legs when he feels the urge.
I am glad you put "best friend" in inverted commas, his actions don't seem the actions of any sort of friend to me.
You can't 'dump' him because he is not your boyfriend, but you can cut contact, you can stop being there for him, you can move on, you can find other things to do and other people to call friends because this one doesn't quite make the grade.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Guy has a GF but has sex/porn exchange with you.
Asks another girl out for a big event (not his gf).
Uses you and then ignores you then gets needy.
What a loser. Dump him. Can't you see it? Is the guy so damn amazing that you should be treated like this?
You're just being used ... for sex... for whatever.... sure those pics aren't going on the net?
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reader, wee_neko +, writes (4 October 2010):
forget him. Why were you sexting him when you knew he had a girlfriend? You had to know that if it did go anywhere, that would just mean you were the other woman and that meant that he was just as likely to cheat on YOU as any other girl.
Drop him and start over with a new single guy. Or take time off from dudes and hit up a spa or something.
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