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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ive been with my husband for ten years we have three kids together ages 3,4,8. and he amitted that he cheated on me with his manager . He said he slep with her three times he claim he dont remember when because he was really drunk and she agreed that he was drunk because i ask. But now she is saying she is pregnant by him with twins what should i do?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 September 2010):
 You husband is a douche bag. Drunk my tail! Being drunk is absolutely NO excuse for cheating and CERTAINLY not for having unprotected sex with anyone else either.
Could she be telling the truth? Absolutely. If she claims him as the dad, he will HAVE to do a DNA test and if that proves he is the father, he will HAVE to pay child support.
Now do you think you can forgive all this? If not, I suggest you start getting your ducks in a row. Find a job (if you don't have one), find a place to live and then divorce him and file for child support.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 September 2010):
'He doesn't remember" - Busted and he knows it.
A DNA test will tell the tale. I'm with the post below.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Before you can decide what to do you need to decide what you want, to stay and work on the marriage or to leave him to it?
If you decide to leave the marriage you need to work out what you will need to ensure you are okay once that happens, such as how do you tell him to leave the house, access arrangements, child support, spousal support etc, and how you are going to manage financially.
If you are going to stay in the marriage what do you want changed?
Whatever happens, if these babies are his (and I would be asking for DNA tests what ever you chose) your children are going to have new siblings. Nothing you do will alter that fact (if the DNA supports this woman's claims). You will need to rise above any feelings you have about the babies mother and father and put steps in place to make sure your children's relationship with their new family members is healthy and sustainable.
Me, personally, I think your husband is a ratfink. One drunken encounter can be forgiven, three, for me, is beyond the pale.
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