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writes:When I was a fourteen year old freshmen, I met a boy who was absolutely gorgeous, and was a senior. He and I started dating a week after meeting. It was a really great relationship until he cheated on me so I broke up with him. He threatened suicide and went as far as taking a bottle of pills and sending himself to the hospital so I agreed to date him again. Everything went pretty okay until I finally found a situation where I could end things (he left for college).Well, six years later, (about a week ago) we saw each other at a party, we were kind of drunk, ended up having sex, and then the next night he asked me back out and I refused. He then asked me to marry him (same night) and I refused. He's now threatening suicide again unless I agree to go back out with him. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): well he is crazy ... its either he comits suicide if u dont marry him, or he kills both of yall if ur with him .... he is a nut job!!!!! get a restraining order put against that guy! he is nuts!
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (28 September 2010):
 I hate to sound insensitive but, DON'T feel you have to do anything besides report his "intention" to authorities or family. He sounds VERY ill!! He's played with his life before just to manipulate you into doing what he wants. Very sick. I would have ran the other way when I saw him at that party. I don't know what's happened in the six yrs you didn't see him, but it's either he's gotten no help or is bluffing because he's done what he threatened once and knows you'll believe him this time. So, call a local police station. Explain the situation, they'll know what to do and prevent him trying to commit suicide if he indeed goes out to try and do so. And if they find nothing amiss, file a restraining order cause he sounds very imbalanced and if he cares so little for his life-how will he treat your own?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2010):
Don't have anything else to do with him, and make sure someone knows he might do this. Even if it's the police. I don't mean this disrespectfully to you, but it was a huge mistake of yours to get involved with him again after what he had done. I'm not blaming you for his state of mind, but he's so obviously in need of psychological help and now he is affecting your life because he has dragged you into his little world again.
Tell a doctor, or the police that he has threatened this and has done it before. They will take care of it.
You MUST NEVER speak to him again, or have anything to do with him. He is blackmailing you, and you're not doing the right thing which is to close the door in his face. What he does is his own problem, not yours. You're not at fault if he goes and kills himself. That's his problem. Your problem is that you put yourself in a situation and have allowed yourself to once again be a pawn in his little world. that must not happen again. You can't afford to know this guy. Warn someone, such as a doctor or police, as to what has happened, then tell him it's over and cut contact. Never again speak to him. Ever.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Oh, what a jerk this person is. You need to talk to somebody with some authority, is your father capable of seeing him off with his tail between his legs?
Or a burly brother or uncle, or an older female who will put on a steely face and scare the sass out of him.
Or contact your local police, tell them he is threatening self harm, they might cart him off and lock him up for a few weeks, that should stop his manipuating games and threats.
Whatever he choses to do is not your problem. You problem is getting his sorry ass out of your life, and a little intimidation from somebody speaking for you should be all it takes.
Good luck!
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