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*houghtless
writes:My boyfriend has been acting weird lately. Like he doesn't care and seems uninterested in me. So i started thinking he is seeing some other girl and decided to snoop in his email. I found pictures of naked girls i his inbox and outbox pictures of his penis sent to these girls. I confronted him and he denied everything swearing it's not him and how he doesn't even use this email anymore. So i told him it looks like his room, the carpet desk and 2 doors. Also it looks like his feet and thumb in another picture but it's very burry. So i am not 100% sure it's him. He is saying he doesn't know. But my question is should i believe him? and can two unknown people have similar rooms like that? =( Help me please. i care about him so much =( he is saying he loves me and things and would never do any of it. and i cannot know by his genitals because we don't have a sexual relationship. =( Reply to this Question
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reader, Thoughtless +, writes (3 October 2010):
Thoughtless is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank u everyone so much, U have helped a lot. I finally got him to confess the next day & told me everything. He seemed really ashamed of it & said sorry many times. So i decided to 4give him since i DO CARE A LOT & we agreed to be honest about everything from now on. Thanks again everyone!
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reader, joeblow6969 +, writes (2 October 2010):
Dump him. We all agree.
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (2 October 2010):
 He is clearly lying here. You caught him so dead to rights he didn't know what to say.However, you betrayed his trust by checking his PERSONAL email account. It's not the same as sending dic* pics to a girl but you guys have got issues on both sides.The only way to deal with this is to tell him you want to work this stuff out and make a promise that the two of you will tell each other the truth from now on. I know that seems a little naive but at this point that being completely honest with one another is your only chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): please... in a few years, you'll find him boning his secretary and he'll say "It's not what you think"... will you believe him then?This POS is lying, and you're uncertain and he's playing you like a fool... dump him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): Sometimes spammers send pornography in inboxes, which would let your boyfriend off the hook. But if he's also returning pornography via e-mail, this doesn't sound like spam AT ALL.
It is highly unlikely that someone else would have a room identical to his, and it's highly unlikely that he has "no idea" what's going on. He is clearly lying to you, and you are grasping at straws for anything that might tell you to believe him.
Don't believe him. And if he lies to you about this, he will only continue to lie to you if you choose to stay with him despite his clear infidelity.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 Deep down you must realise that he is lying, it was his email address and sure seems certain, his room.
Maybe he was just being a dill (drip or dope /fool) and is embaressed to have been caught out in such a silly, embarressing lie.
Ask him again, if he maintains his story that it isnt him you will need to decide if you can accept a boyfriend who sends and receives pornographic images and lies about it or not.
My gut feeling is that he will try to maintain the lie, for whatever reason, and they decision to go or stay will be entirely up to you.
Good luck with it all!
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