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writes:This is a really weird question but please help me. I have been chatting with a 40 year old guy on the internet for about a year. I am 18. We started talking about all kinds of things when we first met, but now it's pretty much about sex. I'm not stupid, I know that an 18 year old and 40 year old don't have much more than that in common! But what I am confused by is his blog. In his blog, he writes about how he misses his ex-wife and wants to get back together with her or is confused about what to do to make their relationship work. Meanwhile, in his IMs he is saying how sexy I am and what a turn on I am etc. I'm so confused! He writes about his ex-wife in his blog, but talks to me about how much he wants me. Why does he do this? I'm so confused!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): You are 18 and you have a lot of growing developing and changing and many good experiences ahead of you. This 40 man has been deceiving you, he wants to use you for sex to make him feel more like a man. I don't know why you would want to be used by a man old enough to be your father. It's really creepy to waste your time with a liar and dirty old man. Older men have a lot of baggage and if they were honest about all their problems you'd want nothing to do with them. Young nieve girls are easy to fool you can't see all of their problems.
These old guys, like one of the previous posters, will pretend to want a "relationship" with a teenager but think about, they just want some sex and bragging rights for their old geezer friends about having sex with a teenager.
Even if you had a relationship just think you have to hang out with people the age of your parents and when you are 25 - this guy will be near 50, when your 30 he will be closing in on 60 an old man. Have you taken a look at men in their 50's and 60's and then compare that to a man who is 22. See what I mean.
Don't get caught up in the world of old guys, they have had their lives and they are trying to sap your youth. Tell this creep to sod off, it will do you good to reject a liar. Spend time with guys your own age, you will find them more honest because they have little baggage and you will understand each other better.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 You are not stupid, yet you are very naive if you have not figured out that sex and love do not necessarily coincide for a lot of people (mostly men, but not only ).
He is in love with his ex-wife ( whom he can't have ) and he wants to have sex with you. Why is it so surprising ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): Love and sex are two entirely different things. He loves his wife and wants her back. But while hes waiting, he would like some sex, even if it cant be with her. Hes making it clear that he wants her. If you arent prepared to be her stand in, drop contact with him before you get hurt.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Writing about missing his ex-wife and wanting her back has nothing to do with the fact that he's trying to get into your pants. He probably figures he might as well get something from you while waiting for his ex to come around.
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (1 October 2010):
 As an older guy, I know that guys my age and girls your age CAN have a lot in common other than sex!However, that doesn't seem to be the case here. It appears that he is telling you what he thinks you want to hear in an effort to have sex with you.With what you say, it appears that he is taking you for a fool. Does he not think that you read his blogs?It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too, or just pick up some young stuff while he's waiting for his wife to take him back.I'm not saying shy away from older guys, but do keep your eyes open. Some of us would treat you as a lady and share many many of good times together. While others, are only wanting to have a "good time" with you.I hope this helps...
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Simple. He wants his ex wife back to be his wife and he wants to have sex with a willing, young, firm, perky breasted, untried 18 year old female.
Is that all you want to be, a sexual conquest for some old sod that can't get over his ex wife and with who you have nothing in common?
If yes, well continue as you are, if your answer is no then you need to cut contact with him and go find somebody closer to your own age, who you will have more in common and with who you will be able to build a relationship based on more than gratuitous sex.
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