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writes: Ok this is probably the rarest question submitted. But i am hoping someone knows the answer. I have a 16 yr old daughter and as a concerned parent, I like to know what she is up to. I notice from time to time on her tweeter page she would type a bunch of letters like this: ibktpgjd.gjwujmoaand a friend would respond: !~@\%+¢*#!!!!The coincidential thing is that the person who replies is always a girl, never a guy. Is this some secret code between teen girls meaning something? just dabble on the keys?Anyone know? Trust me when you youngsters become parents you'll understand how much we care about you :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Yeah, I gotta agree. You gotta draw the line somewhere between carring and crazy. Pretty much the random assortment of letters and numbers is no secret teenage code for sex and drugs...first of all teenagers dont care enough to make some sort of intrecate code for parents when they could just call up or tell one of their friends in person. Maybe if you gave her a bit more repsect rather than creeping her twitter page then she would feel more comfortable talking to you about her life. I'm not saying that you should take her out to a bar and disscuss her sex life, all I'm saying is give her some space, responsibility and most importantly respect and she will probably come to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): ok, give her some freedom. i'm seventeen, and i don't talk to my dad about stuff because he openly admits to not caring/ignores me. you're there for her but it appears to have gone too far the other way. leave her be and she'll come to you :) and to be honest, twitter's a really cool, modern and safe social networking site, and if she was having sordid conversations, it wouldn't be in twitter, because everyone she's 'friends' with online will be able to see it, the equivelant of her standing on a table and announcing it into a mic. chill, its all gravy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): I have daughters who are now older - early 20s - and they still do this sort of thing. Something like the first portion would be the random keys they "pounded" at their moment of frustration. The shift of the numbers would be a curse word. It's typically their girlfriends who respond because, as someone said, it's their girlfriends they have sort of relationship with. No fancy code, in my region. But that's not saying it couldn't be a fancy code - just in my world it's not.
As to privacy, in this day and age, I feel that we have to know what our kids are doing. Unless she's made her Twitter page private, anyone can look at it, including mom and dad ... and stalkers and rapists and others with bad intentions. This may sound extreme, but if you read the news, you know it's not all that uncommon for a 50-year-old child molester to attempt to make friends with kids by pretending to be another 16-year-old girl.
Good parents hover and when you 16-year-olds become parents, you'll understand it. My kids did resent it to some degree, and they told me so. I explained as best I could at the time, and we all moved on - and I continued to hover, including their social accounts, where some of the worst things can happen. As a result of our conversations, they learned to keep their pages private except to people they actually knew in real life, and we all felt they were safer online. Now that they're older, they understand it better, and have told me, that, too.
We always had the house where everyone wanted to hang out. I made it that way by design, by NOT hovering at every moment, and some of their closest friends today are mine as well, in real life and on the social networks.
She may not be a child, but is yet to become an adult, and is a most precarious age. IMO, good parents are there for their kids, even when our kids sometimes don't want them there.
Good job trying to keep in touch, dad. I applaud your efforts.
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reader, Boy Blue  +, writes (4 October 2010):
Imagine that, you got advice from people of your daughter's generation and you can't even take it into consideration. I talked with my friends and we all agree that your daughter's character code resembles that of sexual favors. You will have to talk to your daughter about ways she can protect herself from finding the wrong girl in her life. Yes, some of your worse fears are realized.
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reader, UnderageMonstrosity  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 I talk to my father about all sorts of things. I actually like how I can talk to him about school and boys. He understands that teenagers can be a bit of a hassle. Sure, like any other teen I get into trouble and act like they know nothing about what i'm going through, but in the long run I really do apprechiate that they're both there for me.
Maybe, if you had that kind of relationship with your daughter you seriously wouldn't need to stalk her social networking accounts, nor would you have to even bother about what she's doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Let it go.
The more control you try to assert, the sneakier a teenager will become.
Trust me when I say if there was something wrong, she would come to you or her mother.
She is not a child anymore. In almost every Country on Earth she would be legally able to leave the household if she could prove she could provide for herself. Not to mention similarly she would be able to sleep with anyone she wants as long as they are her age or above and she would have no legal or moral obligations to inform you.
Just take comfort in the fact if she has to write about it on Twitter, she is not doing anything. Otherwise she'd be out there doing it and not pressing random letters into a internet-based networking system.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): With respect to such a VERY open society and potential dangers a young one may encounter, I feel this man is perfectly in line with doing what is necessary to protect his young. Im not saying throw video cameras in your kids' room but at the same time watch they do even if it is necessary to invade a little privacy cause at such a young age kids are very impressionable and capable of making any kind of mistake. This is hands down good parenting right here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUnderageMonstrosity, Should I take her to a bar and have a few martini cocktails while we're at it? You gotta be kidding. No 16 year old is going to open up to their father and discuss how good it feels when Bobby slides his hands up her skirt during math class so cut the crap about treating my 16yr old like an adult. lol go to your room.
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Yeah it basically means 'arghhhh im so stressed' and the reply is basically 'omg yeahhh I totally understand'.
As for why its only girls replying, well only girls would probably understand whats going on to make her stressed out, unless she has really close guy friends.
No worries :)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (3 October 2010):
 My sister (16) and her pals do this all the time. It is incoherent crazy teenage talk. You pretty much pound the keys and see what comes out. And that is that. It's kind of like saying "blaaaahhhh" and that having someone reply "blaaahhh!!!"
If they have come up with some intricate code, well that is just impressive and perhaps they have a future with the FBI. But I'm guessing that it's just jibberish and nothing to worry about!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow this is amazing. You guys are more undertanding than expected. Ok let me reply in order:
1) Moonknight. No disrespect taken and I appreciate your help.
Now, If my daughter was doing jgltpmjgjn whenever i "snooped around" she wouldnt have a computer. I know 16 year olds talk about everything you can imagine. And i even let my daughter get phone calls from guys. So there is no need to jnqvnkgemkt whenever i pass around unless its sex talk or drug talk. As a responsible parent, I have to be two steps ahead or I wouldnt be doing my job as a father.
Again, the reason why I am curious about this jnupgjnbt nonsense is because its always another girl that replies that way. When i was 14 you know what was our code for getting laid? "Learning That Poem." Hey man did you learn that poem with Lisa? Ok? And computers was just coming out.
2)Bry242 LMAO! Someone who understands the stresses of a parent.
3) Ammunition Thanks point noted.
4) BoyBlue Youre probably running a bordello or illegal casino in your room from what i see.
5) Trancedrhythmear I appreciate your understanding and it probably is jibberish. Its just the fact that its only girls that do this. And i am not around when they do this like someone else suggested.
6)AuntieBimBim Let me give you an example why this concerns me. The last time she did that, the two tweets before jmupjnb.hptwtm was a) I cant sleep, way too anxious and b) Oh God you dont even know, I have to tell you in the morning 3
Can you see my reason for concern? I dont want to confront her and violate her trust, but its Thursday nite and your anxious about what? School? No 16 yr old is anxious about school. Then she gotta tell her friend about her anxiousness in the morning and then comes her luqgkob and when quickly clicked on her friends name to see how she responded it was the symbols @?!;)(»#
And its not the first time this has happened.
Thanks everyone its been great :)
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reader, UnderageMonstrosity +, writes (3 October 2010):
I'm 16 myself, and I absoultly hate it when my parents hover on my twitter/facebook/myspace/bebo etc, etc. I need my space and yeah I get the fact you're worried, but if you had a great relationship with your daughter she would tell you things on her own time, without you having to snoop!
Talk to her, treat her like an adult, don't talk down to her, to take the twitter away or ban her from her friends. We need space, just thank yourself she's not rebeling.
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reader, Moonknight +, writes (3 October 2010):
 From my own experience when i was talking online and had my mouther snooping around, i would type random words such as what you posted
"annhgdfyuipelfdjfnvhge" anything, to skip what was perviously said to not be displayed on screen.
And !~@\%+¢*# is usually a sensored word. chatroom tend to use these kind of style to hide naughty words.
No disrespect to you as a parent, but if your child is 16 i think you should be giving her some personal space, keeping in mind the difference in age for an adult in the US and UK
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reader, Bry242 +, writes (3 October 2010):
Simple solution would be to ask her what it means, and if she refuses to tell you, cancel her twitter account. Kids don't need that kind of stuff anyway.
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reader, Ammunition +, writes (3 October 2010):
 !*@^#%* usually stands for cuss words, but can also stand for frustration. adlfaldfalj can also stand for frustration or they may all just be completely random.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (3 October 2010):
True but as a parent I would want to learn to respect at least some of their privacy or in the case with my parents and I, they know everything about me as I of them as we are completely open about everything we do. My mom never looks down on me and is proud of me. She set a good example for me.
I don't think the good means anything and if it does, only the 2 of them know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Im pretty up on that stuff and from what I can tell its just them being very childish, its just gibberish. It doesnt say anything I believe unless someone will out me on that. Im no parent, but def feel for ya. Way to look out.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (3 October 2010):
 As the mother of the perfect child who turned into a monster at 14 (just letting you know its not only youngsters on here), and because I can remember being a teenager, I would say they are simply being silly.
However, my daughter and her friends would sometimes communicate by changing the font to symbols ~ just because they could.
If ibktpgjd.gjwujmoa and !~@\%+¢*#!!! are all you have to worry about I would say embrace the fact!.
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