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writes:i married a man that is seven years older than me and we've been married for four year. at first everything was fine, now things are going downhill. he lost his jobs making 17 dollars an hour, we've been having money problems, he took a job making 8 dollars. i keep telling him he needs a better job, we get into fights because of it. he also fights and is angry all the time. Any help would be appreciated. thank you brenda
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reader, $izZle  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 I can understand what you are going through ... however you need to understand what your husband is going through ...yes indeed the pay is less but that don't mean you argue about money .... he may be trying for a better job but till he gets that better1 he has to deal with this 1 honey HE NEEDS YOU NOW .... his moral is low and he is doing his best .... try to tell him that you appreciate his efforts in trying to get things moving again and that you will try to help him out too .... this is a difficult time don't run away from trouble face it and stand your ground cut costs if you have to....
well he wants to hear that things will be ok when things are rough and he comes home only to hear cant you find a better job ofc his anger is natural...
you are a woman, you are his better half ... help him find a better job rather than fight ... tell him about new openings available and just casually ask him do you think you are qualified to do this job so that he don't feel bad ...
I'm sure you have some interests ... like em!
well I like kids ... and I used to watch over kids make sure they are happy and have a nice time .... baby sitting well that's what I did when I was at school ... :P
I know its not the same thing but I was just giving you an idea as to how you can use your interests to make some money :) good luck and wish you get plenty of smiles soon
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Brenda, the world is aware that America is suffering record job losses and money is extremely tight.
The better job just might not be out there .... Unemployment figures reached around 10% (it varies from state to state) and underemployment was at 20% in March.
Having to take a job that pays on 50% of his previous job would be demoralising, and if the future looks uncertain of course he would be angry and your marriage will suffer.
Try to find a way to support him, see if there are ways you can fine tune your spending, pare it right back, read the blog at debtproof living for ideas, in my town women take in ironing, or clean a few houses to boost the family coffers, there might be something similar available where you live if you are not already working.
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