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writes:if anybody will help, do you think all problems have a solution?? i have a problem that is just making me so depresed i had a friend who i didnt treat well sometimes shes mad at me or feels she needs a time apart.But it has been months already and nothing happens. I have no other option than just wait... i think everyday about this problem and is just gettin me so deppres.. what should i do?? do you guys think all problems can have a good ended?? there were no backstabing nor nothing just arguments and i guess she got annoyed or something..i really want everything to go back into normal. Should i just wait or should i try just to move on??? even thuogh i tried and it seem imposible, cuz i have to see her everyday at school and act like if we never were friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTanx to all, just want to clarify I must of express myself wrong... We had problems but never treadted her dat bad just problems we're we had arguments.., never really did anything dat bad to her.. But idk we had been friends for years... In fact tanx to all of you :)
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reader, RW2010 +, writes (25 October 2010):
First of all true friends should not take their anger out on each other you should treat your friends how you would like to be treated, but i have made those kind of mistakes too. If she is a true friend she will forgive you, try meeting up with her alone and try talking things out, maybe she is the one who is hurt, and is confused also. just try talking to her alone and if she will not she was not a true friend in the first place and you should move on.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Some people believe that if you treat someone mean it keeps them keen ... in reality, that's not the case. Sooner or later you will lose that person wether be it a lover, friend or even a family member. It's just not the way life is meant to be. We see that it may work in dramatic movies and books, but we are in reality and it dosent work in reality. Movies and books are stories that are carefully planned and plotted out. That's why most endings seem to work out. But in reality it doesn't work out ... At the end of the day, nobody wants to be treated mean nobody wants 'dramas' in any way.
Maybe this experience tells you something about yourself, what kind of person you are, or may becoming, and the loss of this friend may provoke you to think about how you could refine yourself to be a better person. Your only young, and deffinatley still in the stage where you are learning about yourself.
In time you may become friends again, but first and formost it would be nice to write her a letter and appologise in your own words, then leave it at that.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Maybe if you were not treating her right, the last time you treated her wrong was the last straw.
I had a friend who I forgave, and forgave and then she decided to force me to chose between her and another female friend, I chose the friend who was less stress and hassle, less high maintenance, who respected me who wasn't always needy etc etc, and guess what .... it was the best decision I ever made. She has tried to renew the friendship several times over the past few years but hasnt shown me any good reason why I should even consider it!
Maybe your former friend has come to the same conclusion. Take any lessons you may have learnt from the way you treated her and go find some new friends, and treat them better this time!
Good luck
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reader, soon567 +, writes (25 October 2010):
I believe every problem has a solution just as yours do. You friend found the answer, yet you want to change the outcome to favor you. If you care for your formal friend thenjust let her be. She moved on.
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