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writes:I have a question for you ? I am married man who dated a divorced women on and off for 4 years. On many occasion we talked about moving in together. Until the day she told me she was pregnant and she gave me a choice of moving in with her or loosing her forever? I told her I was not ready to do such a thing until we had proof the baby was mine. She got so mad she packed her bags and moved to Mexico. She called me on November 27,2008 from Mexico to tell my son had arrived. I wired her money twice to Mexico and after that I did not here from her until Dec 30,2008 saying she was in California but without the baby. I asked her why and she could not bring the baby with her ? she said she could not risk getting the baby sick until he got older. So, a year later I get a call and was notified the baby was here. I got to meet a little chubby baby with a big head and long curly hair like me. I fell in love with the kid on that moment.So,for eight months I would get to spend time with the kid once or twice a week. I also gave the mom $ 400 to $600 a month in check or money orders or I would purchase supplies with my debit card. Until, I asked for a paternity test and I declined to give her anymore money. The mom would no longer answer my calls or answer my text messages. So, I did what any carrying or concerned father would do investigate. I reached out to the grandmother of the child and discovered the child was not hers but the sisters child. Also, the grandmother guaranteed me her daughter could not have kids because she personally had taken her daughter to get her tubes tide because she was tired of taking care of her kids and raising them while the daughter worked or went out at night and would abandon her kids on the weekend. The question was why would a women due such a thing or did I deserve it ? 12345
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Well now that your taking legal action, looks like your affair is going to be exposed to your wife. Hope your ready for some more legal action.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Thanks for the update Mike but I have no sympathy whatsoever for you.
You were cheating on your wife and you lover cheated you out of some bucks.
So chalk it down to experience and well you got used big time.
Why are you so hell bent on taking this 'crime' to the authorities? What about your crime in cheating on your wife?
You got fooled big time. Next time before you open your pants for another round of uillicet sex picture the innocent kids face. Not a good place is it?
Why do cheaters cry foul when they get played at their own game? Baffles me.
LoveGirl
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 That's great. And did you tell your wife you were cheating on her for four years and beleived you had fathered a child and was paying the woman money?
Be careful, because if you don't tell her somebody else might!
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reader, Mike?? +, writes (24 October 2010):
Mike?? is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis girl I dated used the sis kid. the sis is married with4kids and claims not to know about the entire matter. I also informed the biological father of what his sister in law was doing with there child. The father of this kid was so upset he now asking his wife for divorce for participating in such a crime. Can you believe someone would put there child in harms way ? At this time I am gathering all my text message history , copy of checks & money grams. The best evidence I have is pictures with the child at parks, stores and carnivals. The biological dad was also given a set of these pictures. Sometime this week we plan to meet with detective and hopefully press charges to the con artist & his sister with grand theft,child endangerment and extortion.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
Sounds like you aren't her first victim. Thank god this woman had her tubes tied, she doesn't need to be spawning.
Your first mistake is having affairs, but you should already know that. Second mistake is wiring money to a woman you seem to hardly know because she claims to be pregnant with your child. Should have asked for a DNA test from the get go. Seems to be she wanted commitment from you, like in any affair wanting you to leave your marriage..she felt played and proceeded to get revenge or more or less teach you a lesson. Did you deserve this? No, but this situation could have been avoided if you didn't cheat. If there are women out there that are like that, I suggest you hold onto your wife and reevaluate your marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): well how could you cheat on your wife? what goes around comes around. Although she did pull a pretty bad move on you. Are you still with your wife???
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reader, vidanatha +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Well we would all assume she was either A. Looking for money, B. entrapping you so she could get a visa to the states, C. A pathological liar, not all woman do this, only the crazies.
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reader, Odds +, writes (24 October 2010):
 She did because she could, same as any con artist. She probably never really cared about you. You displayed a lot of wisdom in asking for a paternity test, but should have followed through before you sent her a single cent.
As for deserving it, you didn't in any relation to the con artist. You said however, that you are a married man - maybe this is karma. You should try to patch things up with your wife.
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reader, cupid val +, writes (24 October 2010):
 omigosh!why would she do such a thing is she frikkin cyco?i say she is cus she lied to you,took your money,and she did that to her kids and just blew them off like that.im sorry but shes flippen messes up in the head.she probably did this because shesto lazyo get a job and doesnt want to take responsibilities and used you like a wallot to live off it.i have no idea why she did this.shes crazy though.but i feel sorry for the kid though.i dont meen to sound controlling or something,im sorry but i dont men to sound nosy but do you still see the kid or take care of it?idk,but you sound like good guy.but you should tell her to go get her head checked and to go get herself evaluated.or she just could ave had a bad child hood or got abused or something like that.but im sorry to hear she used you like that and i cant beleived she used kids like that.jeese.it makes me mad just readingabout this what she would do.ughh im disqusted by her,
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (24 October 2010):
A woman would do that sort of thing in revenge for being led on for four years by a married man who talked about moving in with her but had no intentions of doing so.
I imagine when she told you she was pregnant and asked you to make a decision was "crunch time".
You didn't make the grade so decided to extract a financial payment from you for the previous four years of lies and bull.
She may have been honesty pregnant at the time, I guess you will never know.
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