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writes:I've been seeing this guy for about seven months. He doesn't want to call it a 'relationship', saying he likes 'the way we are'. So I'm already a little put off...The other night though, we'd been having a lot of fun in bed (we have GREAT sex), after a good night out... anyway, we were messing around, and he got closer to my face. We'd joked about him cumming on my face before, and I said "whoa, you're not..?." and he said no. Then he did it. All over my face, in my eye, in my hair.I told him how disgusted i was that he had so little respect for me.He appologised and told me he thought it would be 'funny'. It wasn't funny in the slightest. It was a disgusting, misogynistic act in my eyes.Am I wrong? I'm considering just calling the whole thing off, stop seeing him at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Actually, since you arent calling this a relationship it might be difficult to have a formal 'calling it off'. If this WAS a relationship I'd be saying it isn't worth breaking off over (after all, it's difficult to control where it goes for most people. Even I took a while before I could really control it.)
Since it isn't a relationship you only need to judge whether you want to do it again or not - if the answer is 'no' just say so!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Sounds like an immature little turd boy who's been watching too much of daddy's porno videos.
Some women do like it, some don't, but in your case you didn't/don't and he has disrespected you. Sex is meant to be respectful of one and others sexual desires and of course feelings. Something that porn does not express nor show.
It's pretty obvious that he has commitment issues by saying he's "happy the way we are" ... But the question for you is, are you? What I'm saying is if you're unhappy then I think you've answered your own question.
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 I think you are probably more upset about him "not wanting to call it a relationship", and the money shot was the last straw.
Feeling uneasy in your relationship, can be unsettling. Thinking that your partner doesn't feel as strongly as you do, or is considering your partnership more casual will often cause you to be upset with any sexual action that is overly graphic or aggresive - sometimes we take these actions as an indication that said party wants to degrade us especially when you don't know where you stand.
Now, I'm not anti- cum in the face - but I am anti - anything if you said no, or specifically stated I don't want this. That isn't okay, and is something I wouldn't consider acceptable.
But honestly, are you more upset about the semen - or about his lack of ability to commit?
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reader, Lexxiylove  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Alright, this kinda got to me. I'm not trying to be rude either. But if this guy got off in your face, then you don't get upset or angry about it. Some people get off that way. Maybe he said it was "funny" because he couldn't tell you the honest to god truth because you'd over react like you are now. A lot of people like doing that. He's a guy. Where else can he put it? You tummy? you wouldn't like that either i'm sure. If you don't like the way he is in bed, then go find someone else. The man doesn't have many places. It's cum. A natural thing in life. It'll wipe right off.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 October 2010):
 If a guy purposely cummed in my face after I said no, I'd be pissed.. To me that's degrading. Not the least bit hilarious..Now I can see where it would be accident if you said no and he couldn't control the geyser but still could have aimed elsewhere, or apologized directly after, but this isn't the case here.
What's next, slapping you in the face with his penis? I would dump him because his sense of humor is not the least but funny and very inappropriate.
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reader, knaixer +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Well, sometime a guy has his pussy moment. I really don't think he find it funny, but it might be sort of sexy to him to see your slutty side. The reason he said it was funny cuz he was panic at a time to see how strongly you rejected it. That's all. Don't let it bother you too much, I'm sure it bother him more than you might think.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Some people like that sort of thing, I don't, I wouldn't find it funny, I don't like the sort of people who would find it funny, I agree with you it was a disgusting misogynistic act.
I wouldn't be able to relax after that, I would be on tenterhooks worrying what else he might find "funny".
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