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writes:Why dose virginity matter so much.... My wife and I have been married over twenty years... My wife was not a a virgin when I met her... Well, she say's she was when we first met, but during a short split she went on to have sex with another guy! I just can't get this out of my head... I mean I did go with another girl, who was not a virgin.... In other words I've never been with a virgin... Why does this "Virgin" thing bug me so much? I've had loads of come on's from younger women, but never took them further!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): I never have either and don't think I would want too. I had my chances when I was younger but now I'm glad I avoided all the drama that goes along with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): What is bugging you is the fact that your spouse did something that no normal person is ever very pleased about.
I think your desire for a virgin experience results from redirected feelings about the core problem. You can tell yourself that you have dealt with what your wife did, but I think you have never really have dealt with it at all. Time usually does not diminish these kind of wounds.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Speaking from personal experience I can assure you that sleeping with a virgin is not all it's made out to be. It is invariably messy and painful for both people involved. You haven't missed out on anything worth missing out on. You need to understand this and get over this rather silly feeling.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 You are not Robinson Crusoe, most women your age have never been with a virgin either, and at 50 something are not likely too.
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