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writes:my dad owns a construction company and in june he moved came home from work and ask my mom to let CHase ( a new guy he hired) to stay with us until he found a place of his own. Chase is 25, had just moved back to the neighbour hood and my dad wanted to help him out. Chase had gotten into some trouble when he was a teenager and he moved away, he had a few assault charges and a break and enter charge, my dad said that he was a good kid that did stupid stuff as a teen. He moved in and things were great, my dad loved him, aways doing guy stuff with him nd really trying to help him out. we started hanging out and my da was right he is a great guy. Things kinda grew and we have been secretly seeing each other since September. my dad knew chase was seeing some one but had no idea it was me. a week ago my dad walked in on chase and i kissing and lost it, he put him out and fired him. I have tired talking to my dad and explaining to him that chase did nothing wrong but he wont talk to me. what can i do to make him see that chase makes me happy . and how can some one who liked a person so much now hate him like he does
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Chase broke your father's trust. Trust takes time to build, but a second to break, and once broken it is very hard to get it back.
Hard, but not impossible. It is going to take a lot or hard work on both your parts. In the meantime Chase needs to look for a new job and place to live.
As somebody has already mentioned, its a shame you didn't let your dad know what was going on instead of sneaking around behind his back.
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reader, savannah_towers +, writes (25 October 2010):
savannah_towers is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou all have a good point, I know my dad only wants the best for me, he always has. BUT firing and kicking Chase out was a little extreme.
When Chase moved in he didnt try to get me in bed to betray my dad, he was nice and friendly and that was it, things changed over time. Even in the beginning he said we shouldnt do anything because he didnt want to hurt my dad in any way.
I never wanted to lie to my dad but we just didnt know how to tell him.
As for Chase making me happy, I have never dated a guy that has had such respect for me, he has never presured me or made me feel sad or upset. He always tried to make me smile and does all the little things that girls like. Now I just need my dad to see that.
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 this guy was warned by your dad before he moved in to keep his nose clean.
he has betrayed that trust....big time.
he may be a nice guy but your dad is right here, he just cant be trusted. he has really hurt your dad, he treated him like a son.
in chases defence, he may think that's normal behavior, but you dad gave him a big chance and he blew it.
it reads like the plot of the movie "dirty dancing" but it wont have a happy ending in real life. you need to back your dad on this one and time wil tell if this guy is more than just a good kisser.
if only you had been honest with your dad and asked him if you could see chase, things may have been a lot different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): His your dad his gunna be like this, usually a dads problem is seeing that their daughter isn't their little girl anymore, he can't stop you from seeing him too, just ask him in a calm way and say whats so bad about us if he makes me happy, let him know how much this guy means to you and tell him he'll always be your number one guy but you havn't been this happy before, hope this has helped xx
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