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writes:Ok, so heres the deal. I'm pretty sure I am falling for one of my speech and debate team mates. I am a jr. in high school hes a senior. My car is broken down so after practices hes giving me a ride home (twice a week). There is only one problem, he has a girl friend and we are becoming good friends. I don't trust many people where i live and I think i can trust her. I really think I'm falling for this guy and In my opinion he is flirting with me. I have monoloply on my ipod and hes always stealing it. When he has it he is very vocal about the game and whats going on, to me hes trying to impress me. But I honestly don't know. So my questions are; Should i tell his girl friend, my friend that i like him? And is he flirting with me? And if he isn't how do I try so i stop myself from accidentally stealing him? Or possibly think he is flirting with me?
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 You sound incredibly full of yourself.
Seriously. You're assuming he's trying to impress you, and by 'accidentally' stealing him, you basically assume that if you try anything he's just going to fall into your hands.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): Listen, you`re not entitled to help yourself to her bf! When you do that you completely lose sight of the pain you cause and what you are responsible for. I think you know in your heart and mind that you don't mess with another girl's boyfriend, especially a girl you call a friend. Move on don`t become one of those people who thinks it doesn't matter who gets hurt, as long as they get what they want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, Ok I get it, it was a silly question but I guess it had a different meaning in my head. Thanks for all your advice, I definitely know what I am not doing.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Girl code states that you CANNOT steal your friend's boyfriend. You do, you lose your friendship, and her boyfriend won't be allowed to be friends with you either. In this case, you steal, you lose.
From what I read carefully in your post, just because he steals your ipod to play Monopoly (America's favorite game) and gives you a ride home doesn't mean he's flirting. He likes to Monopoly and he likes you as a friend. So no he's not flirting with you, he's just being nice.
I don't understand how you can accidentally steal your friend's boyfriend? It sounds very intentional to me..You can't steal him when he's not into you and already taken. It's like saying "I accidentally fell onto this guy's dick and we had sex..strictly accidental, no I didn't cheat."
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): No. You will lose your friend, your respect and potentially not be in with this boy anyway. His just being a boy. Try to find other interests and dont go out of your way to be near him or hang with him if feelings ate there.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Funny questions ... and I don't mean funny odd!
How do you stop yourself "accidentally" stealing him? C'mon, you have to admit this is a damned silly question!
Sweetheart, this is not B & B, you and your friend are characters in a sit com that needs to create silly story lines using the same 5 characters over and over again.
You cannot 'accidentally" steal a person. A person is not an object, to "accidentally" fall in your purse as you walk past.
If you want to keep your friend you will not tell her you "like" her boyfriend, she will view that as an abuse of trust. Friends dont do that to friends.
Is this really how you want and expect your friends to treat you? If it is I would sure hate to live in your world, with friends like that, who needs enemies!
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reader, deadwalk  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Don't u think you cheating your best friend? And if u tell thid to your friend u gonna lose her and the guy u likes him if he don't accept again u going to lose him so u gonna lose precious ppl in your life better u can find some other guy to fall in love if you're really interested bcuz he already have gf he might just want another girl for fun he chosen u for that I hope this will helps you good luck dear
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): I'm actually at a speech and debate tournament right now! Forensics is amazing.
Anyway, you really shouldn't tell her that. I mean, I get it, she's your friend but she's in a relationship with him. How is that information going to be beneficial to any of your lives at all? It just makes everything more complicated. One of my best friends told me that she liked my ex boyfriend while we were still together and at first I was like "Uh...okay?" But then, I kind of got jealous every time they talked and hung out and it really put a strain on our relationship. You don't want to be the reason they break up do you? And I'm sure you don't want to lose a friend, because that's exactly what will happen.
Basically keep it to yourself for now. Remember, what's meant to be will always find a way.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (29 October 2010):
 No, no no no no.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (29 October 2010):
1. No, you don't tell your "friend" that you like their boyfriend. If you were a real friend, you wouldn't do such a thing. 2. Yes, he's probably flirting. Boys flirt, girls flirt. It happens. 3. You don't accidentally steal someone! Tripping and falling is an accident, boyfriend stealing is not!
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