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writes:All of my friends continue to tell me to ask outthe guy I've liked for 6 years.They continue to say I'm pretty and the refer to me as the 'hot one.' I do believe I'm pretty, but, these over weight, ugly, and mean girls have boyfriends, yet I have never had a true boyfriend like they do.Which is one of the reasons I'm scared to ask him out.Can someone give me an explanation for this?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): Maybe you said to everybody that your not ready that's why you did not know he's just waiting for the timing that your already ready for a relationship. I feel the feeling of the guy to the girl I'm waiting where she is available to have a man in her life. :(
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reader, MsVick  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 It could be because your so judgmental about others and they are picking up on that. Most men like someone who is fun, intelligent and easy to get along with, most don't want someone who looks at other people and calls them names.
Good luck
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reader, Nime +, writes (7 November 2010):
 While sentiments like "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "it's personality that counts" are nice, your real problem is in the very first thing you said:
"All of my friends continue to tell me to ask out the guy I've liked for 6 years."
You've liked a guy for 6 years, but you haven't said anything to him? Do you just wait like some princess in a tower, expecting him to come to you because of your good looks? Yes, a girl with good looks may attract guys; a girl with a winning personality may also attract guys. But you know what REALLY attracts guys? You know what not only attracts a guy, but GETS the guy? A girl who's out there batting her eyelashes, flashing her smile and approaching guys even before they've noticed her. A girl who can SHOW a guy SHE finds HIM attractive. Most of us are lazy and insecure to some degree at heart. So what's more attractive than someone who lets us know they're attracted first? They're eliminating all the guess work and effort. These "fat, ugly" girls are getting the guys because they're actually making an effort, and you're not. You need to lose the privileged attitude and make an effort of your own!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Re-read your question and you'll find your answer...
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reader, CandyKins +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Because you need to be more confident and they may have a better personality than you do. Looks do help and can be to your advantage but if you got no personality or brains behind it then you're not going to get noticed. You would... but nothing can be taken further. You would just be an amusement to the eye. You're scared of rejection. But at the end of the day everyone gets rejected somehow, eventually or one way or the other. It's silly to play it safe and being extra cautious because sometimes to get where you want to be or what you want you got to take risks and chances. Say you get rejected by this guy it doesn't imply you're useless. Think of it as auditions. There are ppl that are simply amazing and even better than those who got the part. Think about Ugly Betty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Who are you to decide who's ugly and whos not? Maybe it's your shallow personality that's putting people off. Just a thought.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Well now fat girls need loving too..in fact we have a few guys on here claiming they like overweight women over pin thin women.. Like the other aunts have said it's all about personal preference.
Surely there's more reasons than that holding you back from asking him out? Like nerves or fear of rejection. Let me put it this way, you've liked him for 6 years how much longer are you going to put this off? Don't let him pass you by, take a risk..life is full of them.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Well i actually find what you just said quite shallow so maybe that has something to do with it, you just said ugly fat girl, which is very hurtful, ok so these girls might be over weight but they might have great personalities and this is what a guy truely goes for, personality wins everytime because guys want to be able to enjoy the company of there girlfriends and have a laugh with them. Looks arent everything.
If you like this guy then you should just ask him out, then you will no once and for all if you have a chance with him or not.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Ugliness, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. What you see as ugly and overweight the boyfriends might see as voluptous or ruebenesque.
If the guy you have liked for the past six years doesnt have a girlfriend, why not ask him out. Maybe he has been too nervous to ask YOU out because you are so pretty and the "hot one."
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reader, lamee  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 sweety dont worry just dont bush to hard on ur self ,, why don't u love ur self and take care of ur self ,, just like how u wish that boyfriend well,,and wait tell the right one for u comes to u ,, dont ever wait or look at what other girls have ,,u still got ur self and the much more u give that love to ur self the much more boys want to be around u ,, is not bout ugly girls there is no ugly girls we all pretty ladies ,, and we all deserve to be loved some how ,, take care of ur own beauty and dont bother ur self ur man well be there for u make ur self as much pretty as u can for him tell he show up and have u ,,good luck
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 You are calling your friends "these overweight, ugly and mean girls"?!Wow, you don't exactly sound like a breath of fresh air..The impression that you have given to me is that you are incredibly vain, immature for asking this question and very self involved. Maybe that's why you don't have a boyfriend. Beauty isn't skin deep. These other boys obviously see something in their girlfriends that you don't have. Beauty is also intimidating, it can be hard to feel comfortable around "the hot one".
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Sometimes it not always about looks with guys. If a guy likes you, he likes you. Ask this guy out, If he likes you then he will make it happen. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): True beauty is on the inside, not the outside.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Maybe once you stop calling those girls ugly and overweight, you might actually get one. It's not that hard.
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