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writes:hi this is my first time using this and it's probably because I want to hear other people's opinion on this and might help me. okay so here it goes. I've caught him (boyfriend) before during valentines day, he gave his ex girlfriend the same cake that he gave me and that's not all, he also gave her a key chain with a letter saying he misses her. my boyfriend still text messages his ex girlfriend and I told him that I'm not comfortable with that and what he told me was that I can't do anything about what he does and I that I shouldn't tell him how to live his life. this was before, today I found out that it's not just a "friendly text". He's flirting with his ex girlfriend. my question is pretty simple. what should I do???
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reader, Mickeyrae66  +, writes (2 November 2010):
Girl get out while you can. I went thru the samething, but was stupid enough to believe that they were just friends. I got hurt pretty bad in the end.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Off course it will be hard darling these things always are hard to do, but you deserve to be so much happier and treated better than how he is treating you, find the strengh within you because he is just using you and the longer you leave it the harder it will be and he will end up breaking your heart in to a million pieces anyway. He knows you arent going to leave him so he is treating you with little respect because he knows you are vunerable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for the advices. I have been thinking about breaking up with him but I just don't have the strength to do it. he's also my first boyfriend so it's really hard for me. I could not imagine him gone.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (31 October 2010):
 I would tell him I've found someone else and break up with him. If he really cared for you and wanted you as his girlfriend he wouldn't be texting his ex and giving her presents. So on that note. Dump him and move on. He is using you as a side plan since he can't have his ex, for whatever reason that is. Maybe you should talk to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): Its hard to break a relationship off. Especially when you really like them. My advice is to break up with him. Someone who cares does not do that to his girlfriend. Its very disrespectful, and its even worse to tell you "don't tell me how to live my life", sooooooooo rude. don't tolerate it, because if he realizes he can get away with this then it will get worse and worse and he will think he can take advantage of every situation. You need to be boss and call the shots. End it until he realizes he cant treat you like that.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (30 October 2010):
 I don't want this to come across as mean or uncaring, but it sounds as though he'd drop you in a minute if his ex would take him back. Obviously she's still very much in his thoughts, and its sad to say that it would appear he's using as a "backup" because he can't have her. Hold you head up high sweetie, and walk away from him. No one deserves to be second in a relationship, and I'm afraid you will always be. You deserve so much better.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (30 October 2010):
I think you should get out of this relationship and find someone that will treat you with respect it sounds like your boyfriend wants to get back with his ex and if i were you i would finish with him first before this happens. Its totally unacceptable buying your ex gifts on valentines day when you are in another relationship, dont let him walk all over you.
He doesnt even care about your feels darling as when you confronted him he pretty much told you its none of your business what he does this shows that he doesnt care about your feels and really isnt that bothered about the relationship. Get out now before he can hurt you anymore.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Hard though it may be for you to do, I think you should just walk ... you have already told him you are not comfortable with his relationship with his ex ... he didnt seem to care then, and it doesnt look like he cares now.
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