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writes:I have been dating a guy for nearly 4 years. At the beginning we were deeply in love with eachother and we had so much in common and we would talk for hours and hours and we never fought and were so happy with eachother.Two years into the relationship we started fighting all the time and i start talking to male friends all the time rather than my boyfriend telling them all about the problems, which in that case they decide that they like me and want me to leave my boyfriend for them, which I never do beacause I am not a big risk taker.Our relationship keeps in up and down cycles and I can hardly take it anymore and to add to the problem. My boyfriend who is 18 had ADHT where he cannot concentrate without his tablets but when he is on them he is depressive and angry at the same time and when he is off them he is crazy and just wont sit still when I just want to relax. It's like dating someone with two personalities and 4 years in I just cannot take it anymore.I also have been talking to a guy I met in England but i never get to see him.. We talk all the time on msn and on the phone for the past two months, so much that it's just crazy! lol. I never get much sleep because of the time difference. We talk about just everything and anything and he makes me extremely happy when everything is going shit. I also plan to go to England again next year to visit my sister and maybe see him again but I don't know if i should because of my boyfriend. He knows I have a boyfriend too and in the past few days he told me that he wants me to be with him because in a point in his life when he thought he would never find the one I came along and that just adds to everything...He's amazing. He's in university going to med school and I've never met anyone quite like him. He also will be moving to Australia in a few years because before he met me this was his dream country and had always wanted to live here and surf and work. But also while i been talking to him I havnt spoken much to my boyfriend.. He loves me dearly but I dont know if i Love him anymore.i dont know what to do!.... stay with my boyfriend again and start a long distance relationship with this guy or just keep dating my boyfriend who will never leave me. He wants to marry me one day.. We have nothing in common anymore and we fight all the time..but he was my first boyfriend and I find it too hard to ever break up with him or even picture with with another girl. so i dont know... it's so hard.Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried talking to him over and over again and he definitely knows how I am feeling about him and this relationship and he knows I talk to this guy ALL the time..... I mean to be honest I''m a very honest person I can't lie and even when I do lie for small things my boyfriend knows straight away. The main problem is that he tries to change.. It gets better for awhile and then it goes back to shit. It's hard...He told me today even though I say I don't love him to him he knows I actually love him.. which I dont get? Is there something he sees that i dont... guys so fucking confusing. no offence lol. argh.
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reader, iSmil3y  +, writes (28 October 2010):
Honestly, I know you and your boyfriend have some problems but would you honestly rather be with a guy you would never see? My boyfriend honestly has the same thing your boyfriend has, he just knows how to control it but there are times where he cannot sit still. You learn to deal with it though. If you love him, stay with him. Maybe talk to him about trying to fix your problems about fighting and about when you wanna relax, etc. because I've been with mine for 2 years and we used to fight all of the time too until I steppd up and talked to him about it, now things are really great. Talking does and can really help so you should try fixing your relationship before trying to get into a new one.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Why on earth would you even consider staying with somebody you dont love any more. Have you no idea how unfair that is to your boyfriend?
Let him go so that he can find a girl who WILL love him.
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