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writes:my boyfriend is my best friend,soul mate everythin i ever wanted. when we 1st got together he showed me so much love and care. he always wanted to txt me, see me,be around me. and moaned tht i never gave much bak. i didnt realise untill i read our msn chat logs tht i was sch a bitch, i think i took advantage cos i knew he loved me. he felt unwanted and i didnt realise. now, 9 months on we have argued everyday since june. he ended me 3 times for a week at a time. 2nd time he said in anger "i came bak the 1st time to make u happy i cudnt stand seein u upset i lost feelings for u in turkey" then he left me, when he came bak 4 days later he said he said things so i wud let him go cos he didnt wana hurt me. he tells me he loves me and wants to grow old wiv me but i cant beleive him. everyday i moan at hw hes chnged. now its me who wants to tlk txt and see him n i feel unwanted. he ses hes scared to show it incase i make him feel unwanted again n he cant show me he loves me til i stop arguing. is he sayin this just to please and shut me up or do u think he generally means it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionive said im goin to stop moanin, last night we had a quick argument, this time he started it. and instead of chasin him i let him walk off and he came back up to me and said sorry. were perfect when were ok, and both happy! i said to him i wil give him space if he wants it he said he dosent n seemed quite gutted when i said it. i think we will get there evetually :)
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Moaning every day. That can't be much fun, for either of you! What YOU choose to do is up to you, but you have said you were a bitch, you moan, you have been arguing every day since June ... you want that? You are the fly in the ointment in this relationship, so either change yourself or watch him walk. It seems to be your decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso if i stop moanin everyday, show him i love him, he may give it back? or should i take a step back and leave him to it?
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (28 October 2010):
I think he means it, I think he is trying to tell you its time to acknowledge that you didnt treat him well, and I think its time for you to decide if you want a relationship with him or not, and if you do, its time to start treating him with a little respect and dignity, as he has treated you!
If all the giving is one way, the person giving is soon going to get sick of never getting anything positive back.
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