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writes:I am a 20 year old guy who is still living with his parents at the moment ( i am currently looking for a apartment to move out). i have a decent paying job and i have begun dating a 25year old mother of 1. My parents dont think im ready to do this, they think i shouldnt get involved with another person with kids.I feel that it dosent matter if they have 1 or 5 kids, it dosnet make the girl any less of a person and any less desirable in my eyes. I am more then willing to help raise her son. Do you think a 20yr old guy is too young to be dating a mother and become a father figure? Or should i tell my parents that they should look past that fact? Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 O.K. so your girlfriend is a single mother...nothing wrong with that in my eyes or yours it seems.
Do you love her? Do you think you could be a good role model for her son? Do you see yourself being with her for a long time? If the answers to these questions is yes why are you doubting yourself?
I would say that if you are not serious about this lady leave well alone, I'm sure the last things she wants is men coming in and out of her son's life.
Only you know if you are ready to take on the commitment of an instant family. If you feel that you are then what have you got to lose?
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): It's your life, your choice, your decision. The fact that your asking for advice from us, shows that your parents have the right to be concerned.
"I feel that it dosent matter if they have 1 or 5 kids, it dosnet make the girl any less of a person and any less desirable in my eyes. I am more then willing to help raise her son."
This is the statement of a man. You have your life to live, your parents are old and have already lived theirs. What do you want out of your life, what mistakes/chances/gambles are you ready to make. Your an adult, make adult decisions and stand by them, ignoring influences from outside.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (31 May 2008):
 I was 19 when I had my son. When I turned 24, I met a younger guy whos parents sounded just like yours. We fell in love. He loved the way I was raising my son, and looked up to me, and he had never even tought of having children till he met me. We now have an 11 month old baby girl, he is a very proud, happy daddy, and he knows I will always take excellent care of her because I am an experienced mommy. I guess my point is, you are mature enough to know if you are ready for this without the opinions of others. If you know you are kind of a player, and not ready to settle down, you might want to avoid a serious relationship with this woman. If you plan to be a player (not saying that you are), you would not just be hurting her, but her child too. You are grown up enough to make grown up decisions;)
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